I got a girl pregnant and I don't love her. What should I do? I don't want my baby to grow up without me, but I also don't want to be with my babies momma! Am I wrong or should I try and fake to be happy with her forever? No smarta** comments please!
2007-01-25 11:12:10 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
The only reason i was with her it was for the sex. But at the heat of the moment I didnt wear protection. I know is my fault but I need some advise. Thanks!
2007-01-25 11:16:33 · update #1
Your baby doesn't have to grow up without you. You don't have to be married to the girl in order to see the baby, you can have visitation rights.
Don't try to fake anything, especially not being together 'for the baby's sake'. It never works.
You and she have created a challenge to have a family relationship without the family. You can succeed in doing this. My son did.
2007-01-25 11:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by flywho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still be a great Dad and not be with the Mom. I don't believe you should shoulder all the blame for not wearing one, maybe a little stupid with all the STD's out there but it not all your fault, She has a mouth and could have reminded you to wrap it so it 50 50 and that they way it is . You have created this little miracle don't turn it into a farce by faking love, the child will only pick up on it has it grows up. kids are a lot more in tune today then other generations . Be the Dad play the dad be happy apart and next time remember NO GLOVE.........NO LOVE ;)
2007-01-25 19:26:50 · answer #2 · answered by sierre_alpha_victor_echo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STUPID!!!Now you know why your parents told you not to have sex before marriage or at least wait until you loved the person. I am so sure that thsi girl is thrilled to know that you were banging her like a dog in heat and you liked her plenty fine while she was on her back but now that you actually have to look at her as a person you can have a relationship with rather than just a substitute for a blow up toy you are freaking out. Tell the poor girl the truth and then you go to court and get a custody and support agreement and STICK TO IT. Stop ******* around and wear a rubber. At least the ONLY thing you got is a sweet baby and not Herpes or HIV AIDS DUMMY!
2007-01-25 19:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like everyone else has said, you can be in your child's life without being with the mother. But here's the deal: you're in a relationship with her forever now. You have a child together. Regardless if you want to be with her or not, you are legally responsible for that baby...and morally responsible too. It sounds like you get that. So be straight with the girl but also make it clear that you want to be a responsible parent. And try your best to be friends. There's nothing worse for a kid than stupid relationship drama bullsh*t.
2007-01-25 19:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you being with her for just the sex tells me you were probably using her for your enjoyment. you screwed up and didn't use protection. but also there had to be some reason why you had sex with her. the only time you should have sex with someone is because you love them. you can be a daddy in fact you should be in your child's life. go to court and temp custody where you have your child on weekends or every other week. but who knows if she will let you if she don't then your stuck paying for child support. next time use protection if you don't plan on staying with this person.
2007-01-25 19:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by rosemommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be in babies life without being married to mom. What was the point of sleeping with her?? Tell mom how you feel and you want to be part of the baby's life and you'll support her physically and mentally. Work it out before the baby is born.
2007-01-25 19:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by ann m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't stay just because of the baby, it could cause more problems for the kid later on if you and the mom don't get along. There are ways to stay in the baby's life even if you aren't with the mother.
2007-01-25 19:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by chris l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be prepared to support your child and help with care. Being with someone you don't want to be with is not good for either of you. Even so, you made a baby together. You'll be tied together for the rest of your life. Work on having a good relationship with the girl. Be supportive, but be honest, too.
2007-01-25 19:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by clarity 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think that you shouldnt be with her because you have a baby. It will only cause problems. If you want to be apart of the babys life make sure you lifesstlye can not be called into questin like drugs and so forth then you get a test to make sure its your and you get it in writing by the courts about custody. Alot of girl try to force a man to be with them to see the baby that is against the law if she does that then you can take her to court and get full custody.
2007-01-25 20:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by shannon m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sure isnt good but you can still be in your childs life without going out with her. Just be good friends and always make sure you are there for her and the baby to help out with some things. It is going to be very difficult for the both of you. Good luck!
2007-01-25 19:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by sara s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋