He is very nice and I would like to be friends, but he is not the "one". How do I tell him without hurting his feelings?
2007-01-25 11:10:48 · 13 answers · asked by dab1121 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he likes you back and considers you a g/f, then there is no 'nice' way - you will hurt his feelings, but that is life - he will deal with it.
Just do it quickly and with integrity - however, it is unlikely you will be friends for a while. Give it some time (maybe a year or two) and you can try and restart the friendship again.
2007-01-25 11:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by darklydrawl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on how long you dated him for and if you were inlove with him. no matter what happeneds your gonna hurt his feelings. thats life. it sucks we move on we get over it. AND NO BREAK UP SEX ISNT THE ANSWER! god that is so like men. anyway just tell him that you dont mean to be mean but i think we should consider seeing other people. i see you as more of a really good friend than a boyfriend. depending apon what went wrong in the relationship like if there wasnt good conversation and if there wasnt the same intrests. then be like...i could see us hanging out sometime but i just dont think me and you as a couple could share the same intrests at all. thats all you say tell him to hang onto your phone number and that maybe somtime at a later date you two can make plans or somthing. dont be all bitchy and be like i hate you go to hell. but i dont think that you would do that kinda thing anyway. just tell him honestly and say this is this im so sorry and stuff like that just be honest dont waste his or your time its better for the both of you
2007-01-25 19:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mishalova 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well i have been in the same type of situation, i was going out with this guy (except i said yes to him for pity in the first place) and then he turned into a total freak but i dragged it out, i didnt break up with him for about 2 weeks, and i think it just ended up hurting him more, so do it soon. i said something like...
i was thinking about how were planning on going to the movies on friday, well i was wondering if we could just go as friends
he will probably say y?
well, because i think of you as more of a friend now, i really do like you, just as a friend only.
here r some tips:
1. dont say im sorry, thats like apologising for getting out of a relationship YOU dont want to be in, and it puts you in a more vunerable position, he might want to push you a bit to stay/be his gf
2. don't say 'i hope we can still be friends' or 'we can still be friends right?' the firts 1 is conrney and the second makes you sound... needy(eww) just BE a good friend.
3. dont make it sound corny, guys HATE that!! lol. if it sounds a little bit corny to you it will sound REALLY corny to him!
4. dont be a b*tch unless u have to. if he say you cant break up with him or you HAVE to be his gf then be a b*tch but otherwise, try not to be, cuze guy talk to each other and if 1 guy says (random name) 'lauren is really hot!!!' or (less likely) 'Lauren is a reeeaaalllllyyyy nice girl!' (lol) that will go a long way with the other guys, but if he comes up and says 'laurens such a B*TCH!!!!! !@#$%^^&&@@' (lol) then you will probably not get asked out by his friends
lol i hope this helps!!!
Meg
2007-01-25 19:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Meg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, the worst thing you could do is lie because people always get caught up in lies and if you want to be friends then you shouldn't lie to your friends. Tell him things just don't feel right between the two of you, that he is really nice and you want to be friends, but that's all you see him as because your looking for the "one" and it just doesn't feel like a relationship but more of a friendship..
2007-01-25 19:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you have a nice guy and he is not good enough--so go ahead and be honest--he is going to be hurt but not as hurt as if you string him out longer--the sooner the better--there is no good way of breaking up --to the point--and be done--but tell him that you do care and that you are sorry--
2007-01-25 19:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. There is no way to break up with someone without hurting their feelings.
Be as kind as possible but also be honest. The sooner you get it over with the less involved he will become and the sooner he can move on and find the right person for him.
2007-01-25 19:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by kiera70 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like J_Lin's answer. But really...just be open, up front and honest. Tell him that you're flattered, but there's just no chemistry between you and him. Just don't do it in a way that the rest of the free world will find out about you dumping him.
2007-01-25 19:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it in person. Do not do it over a phone, through a friend or and email.
Doing these last items is basically saying he isn't human enough for a decent responce.
2007-01-25 19:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by Ben B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a situation like this someone always gets hurt, so just be honest with him.
2007-01-25 19:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just said to us exactly what you should be saying to him. you just need to be honest and gentle. say "i think you are very nice and i would love to stay friends, but i just don't think you are the one for me". maybe add in that it is not fair to him to stay with you if you don't have the same feelings.
2007-01-25 19:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by Hello Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋