OK, my boyfriend is taking me out to dinner this week for my birthday. My mom will be there as well. I also asked two of my girlfriends to come along as well. Do you think my boyfriend should cover the entire bill or should he just pay for me and my mom? I consider myself to be a girl who has pretty high standards. What do you all think?
2007-01-25 10:56:47 · 13 answers · asked by cmb325 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My thoughts are that he should pay for the entire dinner, especially since he is in a financial position to do so. Oh yeah, and if you DO think he should cover the entire dinner, how do I make sure that he knows AHEAD of time that he needs to do this. I don't want the bill to come and there be an akward moment.
2007-01-25 11:05:06 · update #1
Let me clarify: I told him I wanted to go to dinner for my birthday with him and my mom. HE himself did not ask me to dinner, I told him that's what I wanted to do.
2007-01-25 13:01:49 · update #2
I think in fairness a lot depends on what was spoken or agreed before you invited your two girlfriends. If your boyfriend can manage the tab with no problem or discussion (he is a wall street financial manager) then there is no issue. But if he is a poor student in college then it is not fair to invite two of your friends and expect him to pay. Your girlfriends should be willing to cover their share.
2007-01-25 11:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by KingGeorge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought he was taking YOU out? Now you've taken his nice gesture and changed it into a "hey everybody, I'm getting dinner for free, wanna come?!? oh, and my boyfriend will be there." Technically, he should only have to pay for you & him because HE invited YOU. But you turned it into something different, so now it's no longer him taking you out to dinner, it's you inviting a bunch of people to dinner (destroying the original plans you had with your boyfriend). Now (if he still wants to go) he's only obligated to pay for himself. The polite thing to do would be to reschedule with your friends, or ask your boyfriend if you can take a raincheck on that one on one dinner, and request that he still come to the big dinner party with your, your mom and your friends.
2007-01-25 19:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by HunterGreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a girl with high standards and if he knows this then your question should be answered but do not assume that it's his obligation to cover your friends costs but since its your birthday I'm sure he wouldn't allow you or your mother to pay for your friends. So under the circumstances he should
2007-01-25 19:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by poet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your Boyfriend should pay for everyone. He should pay for you and him only. It sounds a bit weird you asking your Mom and girlfriends too - I wonder if he had any say in this.
2007-01-25 19:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Alex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he doesn't pay for your friends to have dinner with you...
Considering that he was only taking you and your mom out. I wouldn't expect him to pay for your friends and they shouldn't expect it either.
It is something you are going to have to wait and see... They should say to him... How much do I owe for dinner?? and then see what he says...
2007-01-25 19:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you boyfriend ask you and you mom to dinner he should pay.....If you ask you mom he should not have to pay although he may want to to keep on good terms he should not have to pay for your Friends you invited them
2007-01-25 19:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He asked YOU out for dinner. He shouldn't be expected to pay for anyone but you! Unless he invited your mother as well...
Expecting him to pay for anyone that you invite to join the date that he asked you out on is not having high standards... it is rude and presumptuous!
2007-01-25 19:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd say just you and him go out together, and yopu and whoever else go out at a later date for a girls night out or something. Making him pay for everyone is a pretty bad idea.
2007-01-25 19:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Toga 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well that all depends if he told you that you could invite them or told you to then he should. If your mom invited herself along she should pay for herself. Then if you invited your girlfriends yourself and you either didnt ask your boyfriend if they could go or if he seemed hesitant then you should pay for your friends.
I hope that helped.
2007-01-25 19:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by baby gurl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if my girl has high standards, I'm going to have to eat the entire bill to keep her satisfied. After all, it's her birthday and on her birthday, whatever she says must be obeyed by him.
2007-01-25 19:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋