What should the parents have done differently? How is one to handle a child who refuses to calm down when they will not listen, respond to punishment (timeout), and ignoring thier bad behavior won't work. Please do not give me an answer such as "whip the child" This is not an option.
2007-01-25 10:53:17 · 23 answers · asked by tigerlily23 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
People need to teach their children how to behave in public. The airlines did the right thing in my opinion. It drives me absolutely batty when people let their children run wild in a store or a restaurant. MY son is 2-1/2 and he knows that if he doesn't be a good boy that mommy and daddy will take him home. Don't tell me that children can't be taught to be good when they are out, because me son behaves. He has his moments and gets a warning then behaves. Why should all the other people on teh flight be delayed any longer...how many of them were going to miss connecting flights...what if it had been you??
2007-01-25 11:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well as far as whipping the child no at that point it wasnt an option. But in all honestly the kid should have probably had its little *** whipped a long time ago.
Kids are not born to be little heathens but they are not born to behave either. Its a parents job to teach a kid how to act.
This kid has been like this for years I would bet. She was brought up thus far thinking that if she throws a fit then she would get her way.
I flew with my son when he was 2 and while he screamed the entire time because his ears were hurting (nothing worked) he wasnt a brat. He sat in his seat and honestly for the longest time he tried not crying. Some people on the plane were annoyed but most were understanding because like I said he wasnt being a brat but in actual pain.
Parents just need to raise thier kids instead of having thier kids make the rules. Raise a kid to get his way by throwing a fit then your raising a criminal in the long run.
Thumbs up to the airline now if only WalMart would do it the world would be a better place.
2007-01-25 19:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally think the airline should have given the parents just a second alone with the child before going to the measures they did. A 3 year old is going through enough growing pains and with the attention of everyone else on that plane...probably staring at her and saying things, she is only 3 and all that attention only made things worse. A second to calm down usually helps and the plane was already delayed what is another 2 minutes??
2007-01-25 19:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by indiana girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line-the child had flown down there, she had already been on a plane, so this may be novel, but not completely new. I would have handled this the same way I would have in the supermarket, church, library, etc. Pick the child up and remove them from the situation. I would have asked the flight attendant to allow me to walk back to the jetway. There, I would have had a quiet, and private discussion about the behavior that was expected. I would emphasize that this was a safety issue and that sitting in her seat with the belt fastened was required or that she would not be able to leave to go home. (safety issues are things that are non negotiable and my kids have been able to name what they are from a very young age). You have to decelerate the hysteria-and always, the best thing to do is remove them from the situation even briefly. No child who is hitting the parents, crawling away from the parents, is in a mindset to listen.
2007-01-25 19:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by momofhaybear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the parents obviously made a mistake from day one in raising this child. It seems like they all have psychological issues and probably don't discipline him at all. This could be a child that has no structure, no rules, no routines and no boundaries in his life at all. He is behaving to a point where no one could calm him down which isn't very common. Pretty much any parent can at least calm their child down somewhat especially when they are 3. Sounds like a bigger problem that they have and isn't normal at all. I agree that the airline had every right to remove them off of the plane. I think they handled it appropriately and will do what they have to do to make sure all passengers are comfortable.
2007-01-25 19:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there was anything to do that very moment but trying to prepare the child before flying might be of help if it was a situation where the child was scared. Maybe you could pretend that you are on an airplane or read childrens stories about airplanes. If it is other issues behavior wise I would take care of these issues before you decide to take your child on a plane and risk being kicked off.
2007-01-25 20:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a few practice runs at home or on a bus might work. Try to duplicate the situation as close as possible. Play acting allows the child to understand appropriate behavior and it can make the experience more like a game. I do think the airline made the right move, especially with the compensation they offered for something they couldn't really couldn't control and 15 minutes was generous to delay a plane when some people have connections.
2007-01-25 19:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by David C 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
These are bad parents and that kid has control issues.
My 3-year old nephew flew non-stop to Hong Kong from NYC and my sister prepared him for over 1 month. She made sure that he understood about discomfort to the ears but the reward is that you can fly right through the clouds. And she pointed out planes flying over head so he looked forward to being on a plane. She also bought plenty of activities and games for him to play with to keep him occupied.
That whole family needs a time out. If you can't control your child, don't get on a plane.
2007-01-25 22:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Tomo718 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the FOURTH time I've seen the question. The parents should have had control over their child. They could have provided toys and gum [to help her ears]. They could have talked to her and tried to calm her down.
They got what they deserved because the airline gave them ample time to calm the girl down. They just couldn't. They got a refund and free round trip tickets to anywhere. They should be happy.
People just need to learn that they are the parents. My son flew at that age and didn't give one problem. Not one. I made sure he was well prepared for the flight.
2007-01-25 19:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES....
they should have told the child beforehand that when they got to wherever they were going, her most favorite toy or activity would be taken away from her if she was being a "BAD GIRL"......and she needed to be a "GOOD GIRL" for the flight and sit in her seat.
I am sick of flying with parents that are so unaware of what their child is doing...i have had my hair pulled through the seats....the back of my seat kicked continuously until i turned around and asked the child to please stop kicking the seat...the tray slammed a number of times in a row...food thrown over the seats....all from a child who's seat belt was removed during the flight and allowed to jump on or stand in the seat, play around with the switches for air and lights...etc.
did ya'll see the interviews with the parents afterwards..the same child was running all over the place ..jumping on the furniture...etc....mother tried to hold the child, swirmed and ran away
I have no sympathy for the parents
2007-01-25 19:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by geekieintx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋