my husband cheated on me, we separated for 3 months and we are now trying to start anew. we both are going to counselling and stuff, but what bothers me a lot is that now he's become extremely jealous of me. I have never given grounds for him to act like that, but he keeps checking my cell phone, emails and such, and needless to say this situation has me out of my mind. Is this part of the process?
2007-01-25 10:39:33 · 21 answers · asked by AMBER D 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LOOK SINCE HE CHEATED ON U HE PROBABLY THINKS UR GOING TO GET BACK TO HIM
LIKE THEY SAY. THE WAY YOU THINK IS THE WAY YOU ARE
HE'S NOT TRUSTING U
2007-01-25 10:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by WiLLiAm D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not uncommon for the person who did the cheating to be almost paranoid that the other person will either cheat in return or everyone is capable of the kind of dishonesty and betrayal he has perpetrated. It likely stems from guilt. Hopefully he can get beyond this and see things for what they are--he needs to regain your trust, not the other way around. If in your heart of hearts, either one of you cannot get past this then you should move on. Good luck with this and do what's best for YOUR happiness.
2007-01-25 10:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by °ĠיִяĿỵ° 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably become so jealous/insecure because he is fearful that YOU are now going to cheat on him.
I had a similar thing happen with my ex-bf, even though we were broken up after his cheating. He became EXTREMELY jealous and it drove him NUTS to imagine me being with someone else (even though he himself had been with MANY women).
So I think yes, this is a part of the process and hopefully with counselling and time he will realize that you are not going to 'punish' him and cheat back.
Good luck with things!
K.
2007-01-25 10:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by Ken K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men that cheat are often suspicious of their partners. My ex husband accused me of cheating for years and then I found out he was the one cheating. I have heard this a lot.
I would bring it up in counseling, maybe he is afraid that you are going to cheat to get back at him.
Are you going to counseling together? Or are each of you going on your own. If together I would bring it up, that is a safe place to get to the bottom of this. If you aren't I would look into it.
2007-01-25 10:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His thinking is such that because it was so easy for him to cheat on you that somehow he thinks you are doing the same thing.
Leave him alone and move on.
Waaaayyyy too much drama with this guy. He sounds like high maintenance. How I detest high maintenance men who have low self esteem.
2007-01-25 10:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
who've you been chatting with? maximum people who cheat do no longer cheat for the intercourse. It starts out as somebody to take heed to their emotional desires. intercourse is purely an element of the whole image. this is not general habit in a happy marriage even though it is general habit in a marriage the place one companion feels some thing is erroneous interior the marriage
2016-11-01 07:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by gilbert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sometimes people who have guilt try to make themselves feel less so by convincing themselves everyone else is doing it too. So sounds like either he still feels bad about the cheating, or is still cheating while trying to put some blame on you in order to not feel as horrible.
2007-01-25 10:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by Toga 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HE cheated on you and now he's snooping on you! OMG he has no right to even say anything! Hun he CHEATED! you need to move on because trust me more drama will come along, after a person cheats it will NEVER be the same! You shouldn't even take that!
2007-01-25 11:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds just like a man that has cheated. He has a guilty concisence and now he's trying to make you look bad for what he has done.
2007-01-25 10:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by Kodessa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He assumes in those 3 months that he was not worthy, you have begun to look elsewhere. Tell him he acts as tho you are not to be trusted and you want to know why. Also, don't cater to his jealousy by over-explaining yourself or justifying your normal behaviors to him. It will just make him think there is reason for his suspicions. Talk to your counsellor.
2007-01-25 10:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Helll Noo!! it is not part of no process. since he is a pig, he is afraid that you might get back at him for what he did... and that would crush him cause he thought he played the game right when you could play it back, easy. leave him.. you dont need an overprotective husband... it will ruin your life.... big time.
2007-01-25 10:49:17 · answer #11 · answered by Jessie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋