I'm in the best relationship ever but i keep thinking of my ex. Why?

Answer 1

There will always be a question in your mind about what could've been. Having the thought is natural, holding on to it, unnatural!


Good Luck!

Answer 2

You probably didn't get the closure you were seeking. I did this, too. It did NOT mean I was in love with him, and there is NO WAY I'd have gone back to him. It was usually about the things I wish I'd said or done, or petty revenge fantasies (Where I looked fantastic driving by him in my New BMW and splashing mud on his crappy Escort). I never would have tried to contact him, and I don't try to talk to him on the rare occasions we run into each other. It doesn't mean you aren't in love with your new guy either. I married mine, and 10 years and 2 kids later, I still realize how lucky I am. I don't think about the ex very often at all, but when I do I am really happy I didn't end up with him. You'll think about him less as time goes on. As long as it's not something that makes you want to reconnect with him, this is normal and will not harm your current relationship (just don't talk about it to your new guy).

Answer 3

because u still love them, and wish it had not ended. we do keep thinking of our ex no matter how good the relationship is. but sometimes we just have to move on even if we have them on our mind. as it is never good to go back into something that for what ever reason did not work out. something in us always wants to go back and see if we could make it work again with the ex. but chances are we would only run into the same problems that originally caused the breakup.

Answer 4

Do you & the new Partner do alot of stuff that you & your ex use to do? This may the reason your still thinking of them. If that's not it then It could be that you really still do love your ex, But Love the relationship with the new Partner that your in now.

Answer 5

Maybe you have a fear that the current relationship will develop problems. Or you are subconsciously longing for a relationship you are used to having, full of problems (that if there were problems.) People tend to feel safe with what is familiar.

Don't give in to the thoughts. Just let them ride out and enjoy the relationship you have.

Answer 6

If you are thinking of your ex, then you aren't happy in the so called best relationship ever.

Answer 7

You probably didn't get over your ex yet or you just liked them better and you can't stop remembering all the fun you had with them. Just remember, your ex has probably forgotton you by now so stick with your current relationship, because your ex wont always want you back

Answer 8

get over it!! If you are always thinking of your ex- think of what your doing to your current partner, life goes forward not backwards! an ex is an ex for a reason! Think of what you really want or need, but do not put your current partner in the mix it is not fair. look at it this way, what if your partner was always thinking of their ex? how would you feel? always ask yourself that. at anything that comes across, always ask yourself how you would feel if you were put in any kind of circumstances.

Answer 9

Unresolved business.

Are you walking wounded i.e. still emotionally tied to or caught up in that last relationship?

Maybe you should give your ex a call to clear the air. Maybe that will give you 'peace' and allow you to let go of that relationship and focus on this new one.

K.

Answer 10

cayse ur prob still in love and now that u are in a great relationship you cant help thinking if only things had been like this with my ex. try imagining yourself back with ex and then think of ur current partner dating someone else and see how that makes you feel

Answer 11

i'm in the same boat. my relationship now is so great, we're even gettin married, and i couldn't be happier. but i still constantly think about my ex too. i just talked to him the other day. he is over in afganistan.
i think it's because there was a history there, and good times. or maybe because it was just different than what we have now.