How do you open your heart to Love again after being hurt so many times and being cheated on by someone you loved and gave all your heart to.
After being hurt so many times you put up a wall to protect yourself, but now that you have found someone who wants to know everything about you, who wants a future with you, but you can't bring yourself to love him because you are scared he might hurt you, and you guys end up arguing about it, but you don't want to lose him.
How do you start the process of opening up your heart, are there like stages you go through.
2007-01-25 10:16:15 · 7 answers · asked by babe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't turn yourself off, we have a need to be with someone, just be careful for people don't have you best interest at heart most of the time.
2007-01-25 10:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You make a choice to love again.You make a choice to tear down your wall and open yourself up again knowing you might get hurt, and knowing this person might break your heart. You make this choice and you know that everything COULD go wrong - but you make this choice because you DON'T KNOW your relationship wont be great, you don't know you haven't found the love of your life, you don't know if this will be the man that you grow old with. I understand where you are coming from, but one day you will find love-or it will find you, and the day that happens you will look back and realize that all the hurt, the tears, the broken hearts, the getting up just to be knocked down again- all the pain,is worth it because nothing compares to the joy you will find when you love someone and they love you back.
2007-01-25 10:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after being hurt a lot loving again is not easy but it is possible. One of the key things to remember is that no one is the same and no love is the same. Dont forget your past but dont let you past stop you from having a good future. Learn from your past love and let it help you make you future that much better. Dont give up on love and it wont give up on you. Remember true love is ain but it is also worth it.
2007-01-25 11:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother? There's no such thing as "love". It only happens in the movies and fairy tales. Just because you "love" someone, doesn't mean they love you back the same way. You know this already...which is why you're asking the question. If you really must "LOVE" someone, love yourself for a change. Just be happy. Don't look for other people to complete you and make you happy. It just doesn't work that way. Sorry!!! :(
2007-01-25 10:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you knoe, ii felt the same thing when my boyfriend broke my heart && then we got back together.
he was stubborn enough to not want to listen to my needs and he wanted me to understand him when he couldn't even understand me. that's what made him want to break up with me. (it's a long story heh.)
it was hard for me to want to open up my heart again because ii thought he was gunna trample all over my heart. and play with my feelings.
it took me about a month after we got back together to open up and want to try the relationship again when he was ready when he asked for me back.
ii'm still in the healing process and trying to forgive and forget and just look to the future.
right now, my boyfriend and ii are doing great after a month of me not being myself and not being happy with him. ii'm happy now though. he shows through his actions that he loves me and he really wants to work this out and want to make our relationship better. he's even WAY more understanding compared to how he was about a couple of months ago.
this guy here really cares about you and you should give him a shot.
he deserves it.
if you are scared to open up, then only let yourself open as much as you think you can handle then the more and more you and this guy progress, the more you can add the trust and your heart to him.
ii knoe it's hard to love again because you got hurt, but you gotta know that not all guys are like that and this guy you have is a keeper. he's a great guy.
good luck hun.
it worked for me, it can work for you.
2007-01-25 10:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Casey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave up on love - i go spend 50 bucks once a month
2007-01-25 10:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all,,, sounds corney but it's true, stop being so negative, or you'll lose him...
2007-01-25 10:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋