Im a girl that asked you guys if i should start talking to my ex- boyfriend after i went out with him 3 times and broke his heart all 3 times. Most of you said I should leave him alone, but guess what......
Im going to talk to him again today. He is going to call me but Im so nervous what should I do to calm my nerves? Is talking to him again a good idea or a bad one?
2007-01-25 10:12:06 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why you won't listen!
2007-01-25 10:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude
Honey why do you keep going back
There has to be a good reason why you keep dumping him
And hes a human being
Why put him and yourself through all this drama
Lets face it you two have developed a co dependent situation
Break ties for a long time
Get some perspective and if you miss him maybe down the road like months from now notch it up to casual friends
Talking again right now it not such a hot idea
Im sorry you sound scared and excited all at once but again there has to be a reason other than you felt like it for dumping him
a valid reason i hope
so why be the masochist here?
and sadist as well
Let it go
and learn to live
you never know
If you miss him say hello, email but start slow and give it a gap to get over him and get out of the routine of "him"
2007-01-25 10:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by holly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you might be scared to be in a relationship with this guy because you got to the punch before he did. I don't think talking to any more than a friend would be a good idea. But to calm your nerves you relax your mind or while your on the phone at the same time draw or be doing something that makes you happy. It works I know~Good Luck!
2007-01-25 10:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by livvy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Don't you see the pattern here. Everytime you guys go out you dump him. Now, this happened not once... but three times.
So, whatever he did... He is just not going to change, and if he did nothing and your just breaking up with him, then you need to find another guy because you are not that into him if you keep on breaking up and going out with him.
Do the boy a favor and leave him alone...
If you do talk to him just be friends. I can't believe that he still wants to talk to you.
2007-01-25 10:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you break his heart all three times?
Oh, do tell!
Your nerves will only go away once you start talking to him over the phone.
He doesn't have his head on straight for even considering giving you a 4th chance. PPl who have high self esteem would have dropped a heart breaker like you after the first time.
Good luck.
2007-01-25 10:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're very confused about what to do. Funny, how I was in that situation, too. Anyways, on to my advice. Make it clear to him that you just want to be friends. Don't make it so demanding, but make it seem friendly, or drop some hints in the conversation. Don't hook up with the guy again because guys don't like their hearts being broken, too. I know that's obvious, but sometimes, girls think that we're the only ones with our hearts being left alone and broken. I hope this helps! Good luck!
2007-01-25 10:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by Hitsugaya_LoverGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you talking to him again?
You broke his heart 3 times which tells me: 1) you're wishy washy where he is concerned and 2) he's stupid to let you back in his life so many times so you can crush his heart again.
I'm sure you're a great person, but I don't really see why you want to get back in touch with him? If it's JUST to be friends and he is OK with that sure go for it.
I don't think you should be nervous. Just act normal, don't mislead him re: your feelings and you'll be fine.
K.
2007-01-25 10:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by Ken K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, go have a shot and don't answer your phone! You do not need to keep going to the guy that you keep hurting and if he takes you back once again I pray that he will break your heart this time so you know how it actually feels
2007-01-25 10:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing you are under 20 years old. If I am right take some deep breathes write down what you want to say to him so there is no uncomfortable feelings. Make a list, it really will help. If I am wrong and you are over 20 you need to stop talking to him. Learn your lesson and move on.
2007-01-25 10:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a bad idea, you already broke his heart 3 times, you are only going back to him because the relationship is familar and comfortable to you, the more you keep going back to him the more you will keep breaking his heart, end the cycle and just leave him alone, he's already been through enough already and deserves someone who wont hurt him again...
2007-01-25 10:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you even want to talk to him again if you just keep shooting him down? Obviously you don't actually have a connection or else you wouldn't keep leaving him. It sounds like you are enjoying this in some twisted way....
I am amazed that he is still trying to have a relationship with someone who keeps treating him badly. He must have a low self esteem...
2007-01-25 10:18:41 · answer #11 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋