If your toddler/preschooler were acting up at daycare (hitting, throwing fits, pushing...) would you want the teacher to be honest with you or just keep you in the dark? Why?
2007-01-25 10:03:42 · 23 answers · asked by totspotathome 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am an in-home daycare provider and I feel like when I'm honest about kids' behavior their parents go on the defensive like their child couldn't POSSIBLY be acting that way...
2007-01-25 10:20:25 · update #1
I would want to know, too. I taught third grade for 5 years before having my first child...and I totally understand about parents getting defensive and even taking the kid's side over the teachers. It got to the point where I would sometimes dread calling a parent ~ and I'd end up writing a note. I know it isn't professional and is rather cowardly of me...but some of these parents could honestly be downright mean!
The experience I had as a teacher has made me realize how important it is for there to be communication and cooperation between school and home. It is VERY important that teachers communicate their concerns and problems with parents - after all, other kids are going to tell their parents what's going on...that would be a really bad way to find out. It's also VERY important that the parents support the teacher and reinforce what the teacher is trying to do at home.
2007-01-25 12:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by krajcimama 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many parents never want to believe that their child could ever cause a problem. I'm having a huge issue right now with a child I keep in my home day care. She's getting violent with the other children and I'm building a case so that in the near future if and when it reaches that point I have enough evidence to justify my asking them to leave the day care. I have had a couple of conversations with the mother and each time I have typed up a brief explanation of our conversation and had her sign it as proof that we did indeed discuss it, she's one of those that I have to have written proof or she would deny that we spoke about it. She won't give me any insight as to why the child is behaving this way and I don't suspect any physical abuse is taking place at home, but you just never know.
But, yes, I would want to know if my child was causing a problem. I would want to know so I could help become part of the solution not be a cause that maintains the problem. But clearly there are a lot of parents out there that want to think their child is an angel and wouldn't do anything wrong. They would rather point the finger at someone else, blame someone else for their child's poor behavior, it's a lot easier than making your children take responsibility for their actions, it's even easier than taking responsibility for your parenting actions, and that is something I will NEVER understand.
2007-01-25 19:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by WREAGLE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a stay at home mom, but if my daughter were in daycare, I would certainly want to know if she were misbehaving. Sometimes frustrations shown in daycare or school are due to changes at home (new baby, parents divorcing, etc). The parents and daycare provider/teacher need to work together to help solve the problem.
2007-01-25 20:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would want to know. How else could the problem be addressed and a solution found to stop the behavior. If you stayed in the dark about the problem then as time went on the problems would become worse and it would become harder to change the bad behavior.
2007-01-25 18:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by regina g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely want to know if my child is acting crazy at daycare. One day my daughter slapped every kid at home daycare, so I definitely needed to know so she could stop before she got her butt beat by the other kids!
2007-01-25 19:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by Tristen T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD WANT TO KNOW BE CAUSE I DO NOT LET THAT BEHAVIOR HAPPEN AT HOME & I SURE DO NOT WANT IT TO BE HAPPING AT DAYCARE WHERE SHE CAN HARM OTHER CHILDREN.
HER DAYCARE LETS ME KNOW EVERYTIME SHE GOES INTO TIME OUT. SHE IS 17 MONTHS OLD. I AGREE WITH HOW THEY HANDLE HER AND FEEL THEY SHOULD PUNISH HER IF SHE DOES SOMETHING WRONG. I AM NOT THE TYPE OF PARENT TO JUST IGNORE THE PROBLEM. I ALSO BACK UP AT HOME WHAT THEY DO AT DAYCARE SO SHE KNOWS IT IS NOT A GOOD THING TO GO TO TIME OUT.
2007-01-25 18:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by LOVE MY LIFE 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would want to know so I could correct the problem.
My son's do not act like that at home so I definitely would
not want them being that way at daycare.
2007-01-25 18:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by georgia_peach 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY SON behaving like that. I don't think so my son wouldn't do that. lol u know how many times i have heard that. i think people will tell u "honesty" but when the caregivers are too honest, parents feel attacked and denie it. my sister used to always have a reason why her son was acting up. it was always some other kid bothering her son and he was sticking up for himself.
my son doesn't go to day care and if he did i would want them to be honest.
2007-01-25 18:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by Miki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The teacher shouldn't keep that from you anyway. You should have regular updates on your childs behavior so that anything concerning can be dealt with swiftly before it gets out of hand.
2007-01-25 18:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by sundancer332003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No question about it i would want to know so it can be dealt with.
This is serious issue that needs attention.
If they are not telling the parent this get that kid out of there and place them somewhere where they care about the kids welfare!
2007-01-25 18:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋