I met my ex 2 and a half years ago, and weve been dating long distance since we met, on and off. We usually break up because of something he did, and me being insecure from all the girls i found out he was talking to. To this day, he sticks to his word and says he never cheated on me, and he just did it to fill a void. He was also using drugs, and every alley of his life was crumbling, yet I stood by him. I had enough when I read humiliating emails and I broke up with him and didnt speak to him for 3 months straight. Lately Ive been thinking about him, even though I hve dated guys since then. I loved him so much, it was sick and I miss the feeling of love, although I dont think it could feel the same after this happend. He wants to know if I want to try it again, but I dont trust him. He also said he cant be my friend, its too painful, saying the only way he can have me, is as his lady. What do I do. I want the old feeling back, but NEVER want him to hurt me again. Ladies help me out.
2007-01-25 09:55:35 · 8 answers · asked by Brown Beauty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You stood by him when it really counted and he still itn't honest with you not totally anyway. Wether he cheated or not he let other girls think he was interested in them. If you cannot trust him there is nothing left to build on. In a long distance relationship comes lonelyness and he doesn't sound like he can handle it. My advise it to let your head decide not your heart.
2007-01-25 10:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by easojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's gonna hurt you again and he's being a selfish a** by telling you that he can only have you as his "lady". He's in no position to choose anything, especially from you. At some point you have to let someone go. It's hard but for your own wellbeing, you have to do it. He had no problem hurting you repeatedly. That's pattern behavior that he doesn't have to change because you keep taking him back. He's into drugs & cheating (he cheated, don't think he didn't), that sounds like loser material to me and believe me, I've been with many a losers so I know what I'm saying. If you want to be happy, cut him out of your life. No friendship, nada. If you want to continue this roller coaster with this idiot, take him back. The more you let him get away with, the more he will do. Good luck and remember, do what's best for you. He always did.
2007-01-25 10:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, i know the feeling and you want to hold to that feeling once you've found it, but i'm also sure the feeling of being hurt and expecting the worst to happen will not do u any good. My mother always says, once u throw something in the garbage, u should not go looking for it, there is a reason u got rid of it in the first place. Move on with your life,find someone who will appreciate u and enjoys u. He's just now realizing what he lost, too bad.......too sad, u snooze........u loose.
Good luck sweetie
2007-01-25 10:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him! Bad news!
If you are already feeling insecure about the relationship, it's not going to get any better. And the on and off situation will only draw out the hurt and pain and make it longer and harder to get over.
Again, I say dump him and get on with the healing process and when you are ready, I'm sure you will be able to find a real man that respects you and cares for you. Hold out for him and don't take less than the best for you! It's worth it!
2007-01-25 10:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by rugbee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry beauty... I'm a male, and I know, men don't change anything, al the very least not so suddenly. I f I were you, I would let him be around as a friend, anough to see if he has really changed, is he really wants to be with you... because one thing I'm going to tell you... we like sex, and we con't like to be commited, and drugs? you said it all... I would try and stay away, and convince myself that is a closed case. Because is not what he does, but what he WILL NOT DO for you that is going to hurt you.
Oh, you can trust him... you can trust him to be him, and act like he does, that does not mean he is a bad person, is just not the right one for you.
2007-01-25 10:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by MexicanCurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not so much him that you miss but rather the way he seemed to depend on you and helping him. Everytime you think off him try thinking off all the crap u had to put up with and how miserable you where at times. Do u really want to back to that?
2007-01-25 10:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by louisem28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know if you think he's cheating trust your gut. Long distant relationships are hard, and it's hard not to look at or go out with other people. I think that maybe you should not get back together unless your willing to move to him or him to you.
2007-01-25 10:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your guts you can never go wrong
2007-01-25 10:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by .:aRi:. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋