We're both 17. We both go to the same school. She hangs with my group of friends, but she's one of those flirting types. She's assured me that she loves me and only me. I know she's not serious when she flirts, but it still bothers me to see it. She says that it's "plutonic love". No matter how many times she tells me that she only loves me, it still bothers me. I'm a shy person so I usually keep it to myself when she flirts. I don't know what I should do. I love her very, very, very much and I would do absolutely anything to make her happy.
2007-01-25 09:49:33 · 34 answers · asked by slice243 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look kid...why don't you just lay in front of her bedroom door so that she can wipe her feet on you! Quit setting yourself up to be her door mat and stand up for yourself. Get some balls man! You know that what she is doing is disrespectful. Get yourself together and quit being a cry baby!
2007-01-25 09:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by Itiyah Yisrael 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Me and my boyfriend have the same problem and we are around the same age but go to different schools. He says i flirt alot but i kno he does too. I know that even though i flirt i wouldnt let it get anywhere cause i love my boyfriend soooo much. Maybe shes the same as me?? I flirt but i love him more then anything.
2007-01-25 09:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that even though she sees it as harmless, you find her behavior hurtful. If she loves you, she'll stop doing it. She is being pretty disrespectful actually. There's no need for her to flirt with guys in front of you whether that's her personality or not. She can control that and since it bothers you, she needs to stop or it's only going to cause bigger problems down the line. Don't be afraid to tell the one you're with if something bothers you. You should be able to do that if there's mutual love & respect.
2007-01-25 09:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's probably doing this to make you like her more. Stupid, but I was the same way. By showing that I could flirt and pick up other guys, then my boyfriend would surely see me as a ketch and would love me more. Making him jealous was the number one thing i would do. So he intern started to ingore it, and even started to flirt with others, just to give me some of my own medicine. Well it worked, I finally seen how i was hurting him, and that he loved me for me, I didn't have to be so insecure. We're still together. So try to give her a taste of her own medicine
2007-01-25 10:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by michelle s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
O.K. Understood. I got a similar fix I'm in. I live in a house with a woman, her two kids and three dogs. Her boyfriend is working full time and between houses. Pretty much there all the time. She flirts with me in front of me. Flirt by touching, kissing on cheek, friendly attitude. Here is the rub. (We work together). The girl and I. I understand what you are going through - from someone on the other side of the stick.
2007-01-25 09:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by green3ch 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probably knows you won't do anything and that she can get away with flirting with other guys.
That's not cool.
Tell her that it bothers you and that she needs to stop, beause honestly, she does! What's the point of her being your girlfriend if she's flirting with others? I don't know why you'd even think about letting her get away with it. She doesn't respect you and you should do something about it. End of story.
2007-01-25 10:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by :] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really should bother you. She is with you. Flirting is nothing serious it might just be that is the type of person she is but if it bothers you that much ask her to stop.
2007-02-02 09:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by luvbugs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is certainly nothing wrong with a little flirting... However, your last few statements have me concerned.. It sound like you are way to over-committed emotionally... This may cause you some problems on it's own merit... I would advise you to back up a little emotionally. Maintain your own life apart from hers, and be sure to take care of yourself and your needs.
- I wouldn't worry about the flirting thing...
2007-01-25 09:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as though you have discussed this with her but I'm going to say that if you haven't you should. If you have already then you should try to find out why she is flirting, maybe there is something you can do (or do more of) to fulfill her needs so she won't have to flirt or at least do less of it. Good Luck>
2007-01-25 09:58:12 · answer #9 · answered by tpbthigb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say there's nothing to worry about, that's just her personality. At least she's not doing it behind your back!! The only problem it could cause is if you just can't deal with it. Have a talk with her and she if she can tone it down a bit, just to make you feel better. But be aware that you normally can't change a person, especially if they don't want to change and feel like their not doing anything wrong.
2007-01-25 10:00:55 · answer #10 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i broke up with my boyfriend for hanging out with flirts and well soon enough, the one flirt that i was suspicious of...they started "hanging out"' and oh yeah they've only known each other for a month and all of the sudden she's his best friend. I would be very cautious. flirts can be sneaky. a flirt took my man that i had for three years. i still can't get over it. i think you should spy!
2007-01-25 09:59:58 · answer #11 · answered by can'ywait2getoutofhere 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋