why do good guys finish last?

Question

treat a girl with respect the way women should be treated only for them to walk all over you

Answer 1

No, not all of them only the ones that let themselves be treated like that.

Answer 2

You're choosing the wrong girls. Most of the girls, I'm sure, have been treated badly in the past by the guys they have been involved, so when a good guy comes along, they're not sure what to do. I'm not trying to make excuses for them, but this is probably the case. I can't say that you should look for a girl who doesn't have emotional damage because I don't even know what a girl like that would look like. All I can say is that you should be careful of the girls you become attracted to.

Answer 3

U can still be respectful without letting people walk all over you, you just have to be a bit more firmer with the girls u date let them know that while u respect them u wont take any crap from them either. BTW nice guys dont finish last, in my opinion there is not enough of them these days.

Answer 4

Unfortunately this goes for girls as well as guys it seems we often attract the wrong kind of person and end up been dumped on, just remember as a good guy don't let the bad women ruin the good guy in you cause someone you deserve and deserves you will come along and it would be a shame to loose her cause of the bad relationships before keep looking she is out there somewhere and when your time is right your paths will cross.

Answer 5

only the young and stupid do that. Once women get to a certain age they realize that they want the nice guy that respects them and is good to them... don't let them walk all over you. if you start to feel you are being walked on thats when you say no and put an end to it... you don't want to be with someone like that anyway.

Answer 6

Treating a girl with respect is wonderful and you should be applauded for it. However, if you allow yourself to be disrespected, girls will find it a turn off. Stand up to them. It doesn't have to be disrespectful to them, just respecting yourself. Nothing at all wrong with that. When you master the fact that you are worth a lot too, then you will always be first.

Answer 7

Girls aren't looking for the good guy, they are looking for the guy that excites them, besides good guys don't finish last all the time, most times the good guys just have to be a little patient and wait, it's up to you to prove that you have some thing they want, it's also up to you not to let them walk all over you, know when to put your foot down.

Answer 8

The actual term is "Nice guys finish last" and that is only meant to warn you that it's okay to be nice, but to temper it with a bit of common sense. You only have to be a 'nice guy' when the emotions and attitude are reciprocated. If you find that you're being mistreated for your good nature, then you have full right to exact your pound of flesh in kind. You don't have to be nasty, just turn off your stream of sweetness and get mercenary...often times a woman will come at you with "I don't know why you're being such a shet all of a sudden!", at which time you get to explain(the short version!). If she doesn't get it, drop her and move on...

Answer 9

I have a theory about this.

It is because good guys play by rules that are now outmoded in this day and age, namely honour and chivalry. One of my favourite stories is that a Knight was very much in love with a girl and they were engaged to be married after he returned from a war (or something - in essence, he had to go away for a long time). Whilst he was away, he bought a house, land, loads of gifts and jewels etc. When he returned, his fiance admitted that she had fallen in love with someone else. Rather than go to town on both of their faces (as the modern-day version goes), he gave them both the house, land and jewels he had bought for her because he wanted to see her happy, regardless of whether it was with him or not. True chivalry.

"Faint heart never won fair maiden" Be bold, brash and brainless when getting a girl, then you can release the charm and romance when you have her. As an aside, I went on a date a while ago with a girl I had been chasing for ages. I turned up to this date with a single white rose (I thought it was a nice touch). She almost went home there and then because she "don't know how to handle men that are nice to her". Well done Blair for our Modern-Day Britain!

Answer 10

You are a good guy (I can tell).....DON'T CHANGE. There are way to few of your type around. Some girls have a negative self image resulting in them settling for guys who treat them horribly. They settle thinking they cant get or don't deserve better.......
In the long run.....GOOD GUYS are what women realize they want and need.

So hang in there buddy, keep treating them well and you too will find a GOOD GIRL who is going to treat you as well as you treat her. GOOD LUCK!! ;)

Answer 11

Because they date the wrong kind of girl. If they would wait for a girl who apreciates them, they'd do alot better.

That's what happened to me. I used to get walked all over. Then I stopped letting myself get walked all over. I told girls I was waiting for this kind of girl and would go on dates with them, but I still treated them with respect when I told them that I wasn't going to be exclusive with anyone until I married that kind of girl. Eventually I found a few, and they all but fell at my feet and worshiped me. Finally, I married one of them.

And the last time I said this, someone accused me of being in my thiries! I'm 28, been married for three years, dating the girl I married for two and a half years before that! That makes me 23 or 24 when I met her, and she wasn't the first one (or last, incidently... just the best) falling at my feet. (Second, but who's counting?) So if I give you hope for the future, it's the twenties, bucko!