I have heard that I only have a dependant relationship with my partner. I must admit I have a comfy situation as it is his house and I do not pay any rent here. He is not into sex so we have. so to speak, lived more like housemates than a couple. I have also dated a friend of mine in Sweden, whom I have known for 5 years and had a fling with. Last time I went to Sweden, in Dec, I stayed a week with my Swedish friend and we talked about getting serious.. By the end of that week, I came back home to the UK as if I had woken up from a nightmare. Exs:
My friend in Sweden worked shifts and would wake me up in the middle of the night as he had to leave for work. He just couldn't be silent
He had a horrible bad breath, possibly because he was working long hrs and felt exhauted. I do not know why. Only my assumption
He was just too attached to his 4 children aged 30, 23, 21 and 14 and just showed interest for his work. (So I realized there was a bit of too much baggage for me
2007-01-25 09:41:03 · 8 answers · asked by ladysorrow 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What I am trying to say is>
I was so happy to come back to my partner. He is a bachelor and no kids. He also works shifts but we sleep in separate rooms so I can sleep all night.
I suddenly realized I live in paradise and I feel I love my partner.
Do you understand what I am trying to say?
2007-01-25 09:43:22 · update #1
I do understand what you're saying.
I think "love" is probably about many things. This guy gives you security and comfort - if that's important to you then that's what you'll love.
Don't worry about it - if he makes you happy, then just enjoy. Wish I was that lucky.
2007-01-25 09:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's possible to love someone through a convenient relationship. However instead of being a passionate, exciting love its more like the kind of love you have for a parent or brother or sister. If a cosy life is all your after and you both are happy then go for it, but if Mr right comes along in a few years time and you share the right chemistry, will you be happy enough to keep such a platonic love?
2007-01-25 17:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by cats_fender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds possible and you both seem happy with it. but are you? i mean you went looking for a fling didn't you. so what does that say about the relation ship. i also couldn't help but feel sad this dependant relationship sounds a bit lonely, i couldn't do it your very brave. have you ever thought about taking the relation ship to the next level. you both love each other, and i can imagine you would be lost without each other. go on go for it good luck
2007-01-25 18:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by l.a. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to know if you love your partner, despite the fact that you live as housemates more than partners.
Sure. I am assuming that is how arranged marriages worked out.
2007-01-25 17:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to be able to stand on your own two feet. if you love the guy go for it. But if you dont get out now the longer you stay the tougher it is. good luck
2007-01-25 17:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by darthdread13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To stay with someone because you feel comfortable is horrible. I really feel sorry for people like you. You will never be truly happy.
2007-01-25 17:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by michael h 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
too long, and i don't have time to read it. but to answer your question... i think it might be possible. but it won't be real true love
2007-01-25 17:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. You're screwed if he realizes he can find someone who appreciates him.
2007-01-25 17:47:59 · answer #8 · answered by birdfightboy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋