I don't know if I should. I am a nice guy and all, but I get embarassed easily, and I think being with a girl would embarass me, becuase I fthink that people would probably laugh at me if I was in love. I am a tough guy, and I know everyone tells me how strong love is, but I still think of it as goofy and too soft. Plus, I could probably never get a girl because I'm wicked ugly and fat. I have never asked a girl out, and I think that I am too afraid to ever do that, although I don't tell anyone that. I'm avoidong asking a girl out to avoid the embrassment of getting rejected. I'm waiting for a girl to approach me, if that ever happens. I would also feel uncomfortable being in love.
2007-01-25 09:39:34 · 8 answers · asked by someone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you know what who cares what people say. and you can't die from being rejected believe me I know. all you can do is keep on asking and maybe you will find the girl who is just like you that is also scared of being rejected too.
2007-01-25 10:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Kodessa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really dosent even sound like you want to be in a relationship much less in love or it sounds like your not ready...as silly as that sounds but may be true. Being w/ a girl shouldnt make you embarrased and you will just make the girl your with uncomfortable. First off never say "im ugly and fat" thats so not cool there are wayyyyy better qualites to a person then looks. PERSONALITY is deffiently everything. You can be the hottest guy on earth but if you have a dull personality or are a jerk no girl is going to wanna be w/ you.
P.S- Take a chance and ask a girl out. Rejection isnt as bad as you think and if you never try you will never get a girl.
2007-01-25 17:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by chelzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a new thought for you.
First, don't cut yourself short of the person you are. Be yourself. People will find that to be in your advantage.
Second, if you fail to ask this girl out, how will you know if you had a chance with her?
From the sounds of things, you are shy due to your physical health. Let me reassure you that is not necessary. Think of all those beautiful girls that go home night after night, week after week, always alone. Why? Every possible date they could have made feared rejection. You'd be pleasantly surprised that they may find you attractive. Maybe not perfect in the physical standpoint , but in conversation, friendliness, or some other talent that lies hidden in your fears. From what you say here, your best bet would be to talk with her, find out if she shares feelings for you. Do this over a lunch date type thing, or over a cup of coffee after work. These chance meetings and places give both of you a comfortable setting, or escape route if necessary. Be brave and give this girl a chance to be your friend.
Best wishes and good luck.
2007-01-25 18:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by Gary M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not wait for a girl to ask you out, because it will likely not happen. I have no idea how you actually look, but ask a girl out whom you think is within your own league. The thought of being with a girl only embarrasses you because you're not used to it. If you're around a girl long enough, that issue will fade away.
2007-01-25 17:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Reality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love rocks! seriously! your never going to get a date with an attitude like that! be strong with who you are- wicked ugly and all--being rejected is a horrible thought, the thought probally chills your bones...... fear based decisions never offer personal growth. take a chance...or two or three
there will be a ton of people to write in and tell you that if they hadn't taken chances the amazing would never of happened.
i'm one of them
also- who ever told you love was soft, was wrong. it will be your greatest challenge-- and it is so worth it!
2007-01-25 17:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wont ever know if you never try. go for it. So what if the first girl says no, ask another. Don't give up.
2007-01-25 17:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by precious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find someone who your comfortable with then ask them out. Your friends will think your a stud then.
2007-01-25 17:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by jennidixon186 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have issues, my friend. buck up. get in there and fight the good fight. you will be rejected again and again in all walks of life. it's part of living. but it's the bitter that makes the sweet all that more sweet. deal with it. and for godness' sake be more confident in who you are.
2007-01-25 17:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by spankypants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋