..and when I do he either doesnt pick up or tells me he'll call me in a while and calls hours later or not call at all. Grrr why!? What should I do?
We're a couple and we're in love..however, this attention thing is still an issue.. me not giving him enough attention that is..
in a mature loving serious relationship, who does the calling and for how long daily?
2007-01-25 09:35:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Phone calls are very iffy territory. I find that I'm asking myself the same questions about frequency every time I meet someone new. I once called a girl 1-2 times a day, every other day and she still thought I was psycho in the end for doing that...when she was telling me to call her more. You can never please everyone. After that experience, I became nutty about calling people. I still am nutty now because of it. I've even stopped leaving messages. If I call someone 3-5 times without a return phone call or answer in about a two week time period, I just give up. Permanently. As they say "actions speak louder than words." A healthy relationship is one where you never have to second guess the frequency of phone calls. Find out from him what is appropriate and tell him what is appropriate from you and what you expect. Don't put up with any bull. He's needs to know right now what you stand for. In a mature serious relationship, both parties call each other respectfully. Not for every little thing and not every minute of the day. Maybe, send him a quick "love you" text or something. Try not to be leeches. That'll ruin it quick enough. Then, you'll be sick of each other. Allow some time to miss and excite one another. I hope you get this worked out...
2007-01-25 09:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by M L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me put a few things into perspective for you.
You and this guy are not a couple. You are the puppet, and he's pulling the strings.
And you're not in love. He's in control, and you're in denial.
If it's a mature loving relationship you're after, you're a long way from there with this guy.
2007-01-25 09:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In mature loving serious relationships, this type of thing isn't an issue. Tell him to stop being such a baby. Call him when you feel like calling him. It's not beneficial to your relationship to call him because you feel OBLIGATED to. If he brushes you off, don't call him until he calls you back.
2007-01-25 09:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An answer would be to text message the guy. He then has the option to not recognize the message, open it and repspond later or to open and reply. With a phone conversation you are on the spot and if you are busy it may be inconvenient to answer the phone at that time. That is why text messaging is so popular.
2007-01-25 09:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by green3ch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your old fashion, and the male calls the female. It's like the guy "courts" the girl. Tell him the guy is supposed to surprise the girl with special little gifts to show his love!! You know-flowers, candy, diamonds-etc LOL!! Girls don't call guys sorta thing. That's good etiquette..
2007-01-25 09:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like he is playing games. End that stuff, right now. Don't call him. Make him call you. If you close the sex factory up, or he doesn't see you for a bit, then you control the relationship.
2007-01-25 09:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do this- don't call him anymore- seems like he like the attention you're giving to him. If he really liked you he would try to contact you no matter what it takes.
2007-01-25 09:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by mari d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and ask him
2007-01-25 09:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋