I am 26 years old and just found out my 40 year old neighbor likes me.What can i talk to him about?

Question

FOR the last year this guy has been sending me anonymous letters and cards of his intrest for me. i recently just found out it was him my neighbor. what can i say or do

Answer 1

he's a stalker -- run away, runaway! if he were interested in you the right way, he could have sent you the letters & cards of interest w/his name on it. i would be very cautious. if you're not interested, then say you're not -- you want to be very sensitive in this case. don't want to lead him on. good luck.

Answer 2

If this guy is 40 yrs old and he sends anonymous letters and cards instead of striking up a conversation when he first started liking you there might be something wrong with him. Normal people start talking to someone or just plain ask them out. It seems alittle weird but if you know the guy well enough and like him and hes not a psycho then just strike up a conversation about anything. The weather,any of your other neighbors,the fact that hes been trying to get a point across,anything. If you don't want anything to do with him then just politely thank him for everything and tell him its flattering but you aren't interested or you want to become friends. If you don't want him to know that you know it's him yet then just start a friendly conversation with him and deal with it once you're friends. I'm 26 too and have been with a couple of older men(40 and 45). Being with older men is great! They seem to appreciate us younger women more than guys our age do. But honestly,when it comes to sleeping with them,you're going to have to purchase a penis ring and some toys for yourself.

Answer 3

Politely ask him to stop. If you continue to receive these contact your local police department and file a formal complaint. Since the letters are anonymous you won't have any proof about him being the author and you should state that to the police. Also tell the police how you recently discovered that the neighbor is the guilty party. Depending on where you live this could be "stalking".

If you like the guy disregard the above and have a good life!

Answer 4

Very interesting--he sounds shy in sorts because he didn't just come over and borrow a cup of sugar or something like that--that he actually romanced you through the mail--are you attracted to him?? Is he someone you would like to date?? And does he know that YOU know about him?? This is sorta cool and so why not bake him some cookies and take them over tell him that you and he had been neighbors for a year and you thought that maybe you should get to know him --after all you ARE neighbors--people now a days just don't get to know those that live near them--and that's sad--so try that and then you can see what he does for a living and what he likes to do ion his spare time--What do you think?? Does that sound dorky?? Its a start-- :-)

Answer 5

It depends on your feelings towards him.

If the anonymous letters and cards creeped you out, and you have no interest in him romantically, you should be polite -- but straightforward and blunt: "the letters and cards you left creeped me out, because I didn't know who they were coming from, and now that I know, I can tell you that I have no interest in a relationship with an older man."

If you were charmed, and you like this guy, leave him an anonymous letter or card, and he'll know he's been outed -- and he'll have to make a move.

You didn't say it, but perhaps you found out he's been leaving them, but HE doesn't know that YOU know? Well, your best bet is to leave the cards and letters where they're left (or put them back on your porch, in plain sight) after writing on it "RETURN TO SENDER" in big black letters. When he sees you haven't been picking up the mails, and especially if he goes over when you're not home to leave another one and sees an older one with that written on it, he should get the message.

And finally: if you feel very uncomfortable with this situation, and you are 100% certain it is him (not just heresay or speculation, but you've actually seen him leave one), then you should confront him about it, and tell him to stop. If he keeps doing it, get a restraining order. You won't be able to get a restraining order without confronting him directly first, unfortunately.

Answer 6

I was 38 and married a 22 year old. I have many stories to tell but space is limited so here is my advice. Base your decision on your relationship with your Dad. In a healthy relationship, how does BF resemble your Dad? In a healthy relationship, ask your Mother and Dad what they think about this idea. And, in a healthy relationship introduce your BF to your family if you are really serious. Good luck.

Answer 7

It’s not uncommon for men in their 40s to desire younger women. I once knew a 19 year-old girl who was asked out by a guy around 40. You can’t really blame middle-aged men for liking girls in the beauty of their youth. Just reject him and move on like you would do with any other guy you don‘t like.

Answer 8

Dudes 40 and doesn't have the guts to just ask you out? He just sent anonymous letters? the letters....where they clipped out of a newspaper or magazine and glued on to the page ?

Answer 9

Go to him, introduce yourself, if it has gotten past that, talk to him about the goings on in the neighborhood, his thoughts on animals, what he does, what he does with his spare time, his interests, you know, that sort of thing. Go to dinner with him. If you get around to it, ask him why he has been so secretive about liking you. He may be a dirty old man. If he is, you may have some fun. Find out if he is married. That is what I would do.

Answer 10

He is a stalker. Why can't he just come up to you and tell you what he wants? Go the police. He's 40 you are 26...........he's not very adult, he sounds like he's one french fry short of a Happy Meal.
Personally he sounds kind of scary.

Answer 11

I think alittle more infor is needed here, for instance, do you like him or not? If you do, then what's to ask? Go for it. If not, then let him down gently since he's been sending you letters and stuff. Good luck.