were you able to make friends after or you just cut off all the ties?
2007-01-25 09:14:02 · 25 answers · asked by vincent m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it goes back to the whole adage... "no guy can be FRIENDS with a woman..."
Watch the Movie "When Harry Met Sally"
I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that once the "commitment" has been made, and they put themselves out there to say 'I really do (or did) like you' it is difficult to come back to a simple friendship - like nothing has changed!
It is unfortunate... however, some girls can make the guy feel comfortable enough to try the friendship thing again!
I am just not one of them!
Good Luck!
2007-01-25 09:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by Glory 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're the one dumped then you still have more than friend feelings for the person dumping you. It's kinda hard to be just friends with someone you really like or love much more than that. Not to mention the trust issue if you got dumped out of the blue for anouther guy. That never works out for friends. I have had girlfriends that I stayed friends with after we broke up, but that was only when the break up was mutual.
2007-01-25 09:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by magicman116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it is difficult because after being so close with someone and then break apart, everything becomes really uncomfortable. But what really makes everything worse is the reason why you broke apart, I mean, if one of the person was unfaithful, then it's obvious no friendship will exist. Though after time, it gets easier to be just friend with your ex; in my case, it took me a year to start talking with my ex. Also, it depends whether the ex-couple want to continue having a relationship or not!
2007-01-25 09:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by Gabs03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard for them being rejected or turned down it is just not in their culture they are hust not use to it but sometimes they will be friends and the whole time they are they will be hoping that something goes wrong and you and him get back togther again and another reason it is so hard for thyem to be just friends is because they really do not want to hear about their ex girlfriend or the girl that they just got rejected by talking about how they met this new guy and what he looks like and struff like that
2007-01-25 09:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut off all ties, permanently and completely. It is totally pointless to try to remain friends. That means there is a hidden agenda somewhere that is unhealthy for all involved.
2007-01-25 09:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys whether the are conscious about it or not are friends with a female because they know or feel that they have a chance at "getting some" . Once they know its not going to happen their perspective changes and they do no have that drive to be committed anymore.
2007-01-25 09:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by borillion_star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard because of the emotional connection. It is however possible to become friends with someone that you dated but were not friends with befor rather easily. I can't say the same for a person whome you were previously friends with though.
2007-01-25 09:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most breakups are not done very well. They are abrupt, incomplete, and the ppl don't give each other time to vent their hurt and anger. If you do all those things, you can clear the air and remain friends, if you ever WERE friends. It could be that you couldn't stand each other and were just having sex until you realized that -
2007-01-25 09:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by All hat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how anybody expects you to be friends with them when you just can't turn off your feelings. You can't be around them when they are wanting to flirt with somebody else. It is simple, and I really don't know why a girl doesn't understand this.
2007-01-25 09:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to be friends because that was not your primary motive. It is hard to switch horses in the middle of a race. Change the expectations, put the ego aside and amazing friendships can develop
2007-01-25 09:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by dickinsonlover 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋