I hear women saying they want an emotional guy but then they say the guy can't talk to much about things that bother him or cry to much. Now I can see that constantly going on about stuff and crying through out the day would be to much but I get the feeling women would rather the guy didn't cry at all and shared no feelings at all. For example I don't like holding back about the way a feel about things when I talk and as far as crying I am actually trying to cry more after having trained myself not to cry for 20 years. So what's the standard if any.
2007-01-25 09:13:56 · 18 answers · asked by InvicibleStar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think it's great when a guy can cry to someone he really loves (like his wife/finace/girlfriend) and it's great to listen and help. i think that crying (from guys) and sensitivity should be shared in the bond between these people but when it involves others that aren't so close and loved then it's out of hand.
i love it that me and my long term boyfriend can share anything and that even if we do get emotional we'll always be there for each other and love each other all the more for letting the other in on our problems so we can fix them together. it's a great feeling to help someone and empathise with them when they really mean something to you.
2007-01-25 09:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no standard. Guy or girl, nobody wants to be around someone who cries at the drop of a hat. But tears have many purposes--joy, sadness, frustration--and you should really go with how you feel. Any woman worth having will understand you and accept your emotions as part of the whole package. There is a place for all of it, and your true friends will let you know if you are skating on the edge of becoming a whiner, which again, guy or girl, is no fun to be around.
2007-01-25 09:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by RetroGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like a man that can be a man but not be afraid to show a sensitive side to him also. He needs to be able to let his guard down around me but still at the same time be there for me to lean on and protect me if needed...There is not one thing wrong with crying if you feel the need it is a big help to clear out all our emotions but as long as one doesn't sit and cry all the time..crying is very healthy at times too.
2007-02-02 08:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by ohio_angell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs to laugh or cry. Its a stress release. If you don't let it out, you will get depressed. As for a guy, what do you want? You should be able to be yourself with a person you are comfortable with. If you are comfortable with a man showing emotions than what is wrong with that. Like I said, men or wemen if you hold it all in you will get depressed. Take care Heather
2007-02-02 08:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, be honest.
Don't bother trying to put on an act that you think will attract girls - you can't sustain it for the rest of your life and be happy! Let things evolve naturally with someone you feel comfortable with - you don't have to tell her everything and get through a box of Kleenex in the first five minutes!
If you're with someone you feel comfortable with you'll relax, and be able to let it out or cry when you need to rather than forcing it.
Lots of luck.
2007-02-02 04:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by ginnikins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like when guys tell you how they feel when it's appropriate. not all the time, i hate when they are whiney babies. if i wanted to date someone that whines and crys all the time i would date a girl. i prefer men to be what they are....men. not what women say now "i want a sensitive emotional man" have a gay best friend then. i think there is a time and place for everything. as long as they tell you how they feel and discuss problems thats ok with me.
2007-01-25 09:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is Ok to be sensitive...but don't cry. If you cry during a crisis and don't stand up to what is a corrective action to resolve the crisis, you will turn all the women off; especially the ones who would have to count on a strong man to take action.
In my opinion, women like strong, standby, assertive men who go get what they want.
2007-01-25 09:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls don't know what they like.
Truth is, you will have better success as a jerk then a nice guy. In fact, the less you spend on a nice date, the better it works out for you.
When the opportunity comes up, go to her place, not yours. You don't want to hook up with a crazy lady then let her know where you live.
Don't call her back after 3 days. Leave the weekends for whatever it is you want to do.
2007-01-25 09:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the way I see it, a REAL man won't be ashamed to cry. I don't want him to be a walking train wreck, but, just whenever something is bothering him, he shouldn't be scared to shed a few tears. Just not constantly emotional, like me. lol.
2007-01-25 09:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about what women like, some like emotional guys who can try to understand what they are feeling and some want guys who don't really care about them, it's all about who you end up with. Good luck.
2007-01-25 09:19:46 · answer #10 · answered by ~(*) Loving Life (*)~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋