Our son who is 13 was in town with 3 of his friends last Saturday morning when they saw his geography teacher having a coffee in a restaurant..My son approached him to say say "hello Mr "so ans so" to which my son says he replied "Go away,,and leave me alone". He must have been concerned by his reaction, as are we, to mention this to us..My wife and I are confused to how to approach this...whether to forget about it and let it go?....have a meeting with the teacher concerned, How would you approach this situation?
Our son is very polite, confident, and popular at his school.
Pl;ease help
2007-01-25 08:55:52 · 23 answers · asked by Bob P 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes, the teacher was rude. Some people are. But it was not during school, so there is not much to do about it.
Explain to your son that sometimes adults have bad days too, and that not everyone handles every situation in the best way. Perhaps the teacher had a rough week at school, and did not want to be bothered by students on his day off. Perhaps something happened in his personal life, and he just needed to be left alone. These are things that I'm sure your son can relate to.
Use this as an example to teach your son how to rise above the situation, and to judge others favorably. And if he sees the teacher again outside of school, he should probably just keep walking.
2007-01-25 09:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by baby_savvy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear that someone who your son respects treated him poorly. I think that you can use this bad situation as a learning opportunity for everyone. I think the best way to start solving this problem is to ask your son for his ideas-does he think talking to his teacher would be a good idea? Let him offer suggestions for how to fix the situation-that way he'll feel he has some control.
Talking face to face can be intimidating-what about writing the teacher a note inquiring about what happened. Offering the teacher a chance to explain may open the doors of communication. Perhaps he/she has realized the rudeness and been looking for a way to apologize.
In any case, you can't count on the teacher offering an apology or even an explanation so it might be a good time to have a talk with your son about behavior. Explain that even adults can behave badly, use poor manners, etc. Then perhaps you and your family could make a chart or keep a journal when others treat you nicely or courteously. Reinforce that there are lots of kind, courteous people and talk about how it feels to be treated nicely. I think it's important to remind your son that he can't control others' behavior and the teacher's rudeness was not his fault. Help him understand the importance of basic courtesy.
Good Luck!
2007-01-25 09:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he didn't just respond "go away"...that is not a typical reaction for even the rudest person...especially a teacher who sees your son on a daily basis. I personally think your son took his joking reaction in a negative way. Your son probably wasn't expecting that reaction so he freaked out.
But I honestly think your son just misinterpreted his teachers reaction. If you bring this up at your next parent teacher conference it's gonna seem lame and the teacher will probably not remember or say he was joking. Besides, the teacher has a right to a private life outside of school. Maybe your son was pestering. You don't know the situation as you weren't there. Remember there are 3 sides to every story. Side 1, side 2 and the truth. And your sons friends will agree with anything your son says as they are 13 and friends....
Try to keep an open mind and put yourself in the teachers position.
2007-01-25 09:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by RitzFitz29 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that the teacher appears to have been rude, but then again your son IS 13. Are you sure that the teacher said this? Does it seem to be a normal behaviour for this teacher? Maybe he was joking around and it went over their heads.
If the teacher seems to have a pattern of bad behaviour, Iwould report it to the school. If it is an isolated incident, excuse it as him having a bad day. Either way, as an adult who your son should be respecting and looking up to, the teacher should apologize to your son.
If it seems to be an isolated incident, I would sit down with your son and discuss with him how sometimes people just have a bad day, and not to hold it against him. Teachers can have bad days too!
2007-01-25 09:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was rude, but I don't think you have to take it any further. Perhaps the teacher was having a bad day and was snappy with everyone. Perhaps the teacher just naturally has bad manners or a bad attitude. There could be any number of reasons. The only time I would actually approach the teacher to find out what's going on is if he behaves this way toward your son in the classroom. In that case, the behaviour would be interfering with your son's education.
2007-01-25 09:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Seeing this teacher was not on the job and in his private station in life - there is nothing you can do to change someone's unprofessional behavior on their own time.
I am not defending this cheese-head by any means, but you want to do something about what? Him being himself? The man obviously did not want anyone greeting him and thats his civil right.
Taking the matter up with this teacher's higher ups only makes you his equivalent. As rude as he was - thats his right. As long as he don't smack your son, curse your son, or publicly humiliate your son - he has a right to be left alone.
The best thing your son can do is to leave this poor blighted man alone. I mean, suppose I didn't like how you handled yourself in public with a stranger. Should I challenge you on it? Maybe you felt you were in the right.., and I am being rude.
Just explain to your son that his teacher is maybe a bitter person, who has been harmed by friends and this is his way of protecting himself. There are perhaps other reasons - but not to take it personally. And neither should you take it personally.
2007-01-25 09:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by Victor ious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he was rude. when this man chose teaching as a profession, he signed up for everything that comes with it. extending common courtesy to students encountered away from school is not asking too much. consider, however, that if your son felt comfortable enough with this particular teacher to approach him in public, then the teacher is probably a good guy. maybe he was just having a bad day or had just received some terrible news and was consequently not prepared to talk to your son. you never know what someone is going through at any particular moment. i say... let it go.
2007-01-25 09:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by nikkadeamous 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i myself teach kindergarten! There are many ways to go about correcting a students behavior as well as informing the parents. My suggestion - get a new teacher. She does not sound to be a well teacher. Your son is capable of so much and will open with the right strategies
2016-05-23 23:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a big matter, perhaps the teacher was fed up with students. I don't think that he meant to be rude with your son unless he is rude to him in the class. You know teaching sometimes puts the teachers under stress which give them a negative attitude sometimes. and maybe the teacher had a personal problem and needed to be alone at the moment.
2007-01-25 09:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by MBC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you witnessed the interchange yourself it is better that you don't interfere.
You may not have heard the whole truth, or the teacher may have been out of line. Either way making an issue of it is not going to help the relationship between the teacher and your son.
2007-01-25 09:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by esspee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋