ok, what do you do when your boyfriend puts his best gal pal first? he travels across the country for her (she is going through a rough time), but not for you (when you've asked, begged and pleaded), and then doesnt even make time to see you.(after you re-arrange heaven and earth to see him)... should i dump him? (i've told him how i feels, he says i'm being jealous)
2007-01-25 08:52:45 · 26 answers · asked by flexiblehorse693 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him u need more out of a relationship and dump him and then in a week he will probebly come back :) if not then find a better guy
2007-01-25 08:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you already know the answer to this its in your heart being jealous is natural but sometimes ugly you have every right to feel unwanted and by the sound of it he doesn't put you at ease with the way her feels maybe he cares for this Friend a little to much and she hasn't returned his attention, but you cant make someone love you as much as you can stop it from raining, id like to say there will be someone else out there for you who will reciprocate your feelings as much as you do,but its not always that easy is it, try and tell him your feelings and say what you mean don't try to go around the subject or belittle his friendship with this girl because if he is truly just being a good friend then you have yourself quite a catch there, good luck hun
2007-01-25 09:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by upyafartpipe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is acting imature ,like why would he travel across the country to see another girl but can make time for you he probably has feelings for this woman and is sorta forgetting that he has a girlfriend i think you should dump him because theres no sense in running after a guy who does'nt even appreciate how much you love him dont let your love go to waste over some guy who has feelings for some other girl.
Good Luck!
2007-01-25 08:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by LoVeR** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness! My boyfriend is just like this too! :0 His best friend is a girl and he does everything for her. She always gets birthday and Christmas gifts on time, and I have to be put on hold. I care about him, and I just learned to deal with it I guess. We've been talking for 2 yrs. now and at first it was very hard because she was always calling and she was getting all the attention. But now, I don't mind for real. I just occupy my time with my friends too. If he's on the phone with her, I'm on the phone with someone else.
It's up to you though. If you don't want to deal with it like I do, then it maybe best for you to just find another guy.
Good luck!
2007-01-25 09:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by CTargrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well here's the thing..
if his best friend really needed him it's not a matter of her gender.
simply b/c you begged and pleaded with him doesn't necessarily mean he needed to be there for you..
you have to decide. you sound a bit more jealous that i think you realize. you sound like you want him to do the same thing and more for you than his best friend..but maybe not have the same situation?? if it makes you uncomfortable that he drops everything when he htought it was warranted for his best gal friend..than you need to end it b/c you can't make him choose..
2007-01-25 08:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are being jealous...but who could blame you! you have a right to be. Dump him, he obviously will do more for her than you. Get yourself a guy friend if you do stay with him and see how much he likes it, if you travel everywhere to see him and never make time for your bf.
2007-01-25 08:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line simply has to be "are you getting what you want/need from this relationship?" No other question really matters. If he is not able to be available to you then what? You have to decide, based on how you feel, if this is worth your time and energy or not. Up to you sister.
2007-01-25 08:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly fine if you are jealous. You have a right to be. Try talking to him again and make sure he knows that you have to be a priority too or you're going to suspect he cares about her more. If he really matters to you, try to fix it. If you'll be fine without him then maybe you should find someone who will set aside more time for you.
2007-01-25 08:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by coldasyou213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears he is trying to get you to dump him. Sometimes a man, usually a young man, will do things to get his girl to dump him so he doesn't have to dump her. This way he gets out of the relationship guilt free. Oblige him and get rid of his ***. There are a whole lot of guys out there for you.
2007-01-25 09:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by Big_Dog_Spike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you dump him, give him some air and get interested in things other than him, maybe even a new guy.
2007-01-25 08:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋