my brother has moved out?????

Question

my brother is 18 nearly 19 he is moving in with his mate........his mate is not working and is only getting £90 a fortnight and its the same as my brother he is only getting £90 as well and he has to pay £20 a fortnight then they have buy there own food do you reckon he will cope or do you reckon it wont be long before he goes home i just worry because he hangs with the wrong group what do you think am i worrying over note HELP

Answer 1

I think it is lovely that you worry about your brother. I feel it is important for you to know that it is his choice's and mistakes that will assist him in becoming an adult later. He is still just a kid trying to step out into the world. It's OK Clair, he is gonna fall down and stand back up and repeat mistakes. One day he will stop making mistakes and repeating bad behaviors. For now it is his turn to fall. Be a good sister and let him. It is called tough love. Just keep loving him and supporting the good thing in him and that he does. Your a sweetie
Tracylyn S

Answer 2

Hi, lots of people his age and younger are doing this and i dont know how but are managing fine on there own. As i dont know your brother i cant say weather he will be back home as its weather he puts hanging out with his mates first or his own space. It natural for you to worry, but i suppose if you feel better why not help him out and take him some food round or give him some money for gas and electric or bills. Then at least you know he is getting some help he needs.
He should be fine my fiances cousin who left home when he was 16 is now 18 and has a flat on his own and he only live of £40 a week. His moved away and the next time i saw him he was as thin as a rake. I seen him a new years and my fiance asked him where he was living and he said a in a flat and the name of the street, then my fiance asked him how he affords it, (he was drunk at the time) as me and him cant afford it, and he said he just manages of £40 a week he gets the rent paid but still needs to pay for bills and eat and thats why he has lost loads of weight. He used to be huge and now he is really thin.I asked him if he was doing ok and he seemed happy enought and said yes hes doing fine. So i suppose in the long run hes happy, but i just can believe his dad let him get so thin and not really helped him out at all. But i suppose if you see your brother alot you will see any changes and can help if you wanted to. But dont worry, i worry about my brothers to, but they have there own lives to lead and us worrying isnt going to help noone as we cant do nothing about it.

Answer 3

I left home at 17, as I was walking out of the door my mum said "you'll be back"!
Which made me determined not to go back!
I had a badly paid job at the time so was always skint. I used to arrange to go visit my mum after work and she'd cook my tea, never realising that I was manipulating the situation!
I'm not a bad or using person, I still see her all the time now without wanting [needing] her to feed me!!
Your brother will manage, there's not many young people go home once they've made the break and if he gets really fed up of being skint all the time because of bills etc, he'll go get a job!
Stop worrying :-)

Answer 4

He will be fine. Humans have a natural instinct to survive, so if he finds he must go home for food, I am sure that is what he will do, as long as he is allowed to do so...don't worry, when I was little I cried over my brother moving out at 18, he went to college and I felt as though he was abandoning me, I was only 9 years old then. Now I can see that if he had stayed home to look after me he would have ended up as a bum of some sort.

Answer 5

I understand you worries but you gotta allow him to make his own mistakes! It's hard to sit in the backround & watch but if you do everything for him then he's gonna end up worse in the end..

Keep an eye on what he's up to but don't come on too strong 'coz he'll tell you where to go..

Be there for him when he needs you, you're right he probably will come back home shortly anyway. It doesn't sound like he's thought it through very well.

If you're plan is to bring him home asap then do not advise him to do anything that will help him to stay away..that sounds really harsh but he's your brother so I assume youknow this isn't the best thing for him..

Be there and be nice to him..

Answer 6

Don't worry about it he is 18 and not working well now he is in the real world so maybe he will get a job, if he does choose to get in with the wrong crowd that could happen when even at home nothing you can do it's his choice and his life

Answer 7

nope it's not enough...before long your bro will be back...mind you he is old enough to get a job...it's his life and there's only one person to make it better....and that's him...if he is wise enough he will move back home OR get a job and get his own place, £90 a fortnight is no way enough to live on....bills food and other things need to be paid for...hows he gonna do that on £90, plus if the benefits people find out that he's living with his mate they will hit his mate for council tax because they are only paying rent for one person only....tell him to be aware of that, because they will find out eventually

Answer 8

It is sweet that you are worried about your brother but there isn't really anything that you can do about it and worrying is not going to accomplish anything.
Just be kind to him and welcome him back if he does come home.
For the record, most people that I know ended up moving back home after their first attempt at being out on there own. It is a rude awakening that we all have to go through. Your brother will be fine.

Answer 9

Don't worry about it. He's 18. It's time he moved out. He's got to get out into the big wide world and make mistakes and learn for himself. It's life! I know how you feel though. I get very protective over my little brother.

Answer 10

Depends what the rent is and what his outgoings are. I expect he will be coming back to your home to eat when he runs out of money. Don't worry too much....worry kills more people than heart attacks.