Do you think that two people with 2 completely different upbringings can make it work?

Question

I love my boyfriend so much and i want to marry him one day..but we were raised quite differently...he is very reserved, and has very strong values....im not a crazy girl or anything, but i like to party a bit, and my type of friends are in a completely different world than his..i think i just didnt have as many rules growing up. Im willing to change a few things about myself because i think hes worth it 100%...and he even said that if there was anything i thought he needed to change about himself to tell him so he could work on it...but i couldnt think of one single thing i would change. I really want this to work out...any advice? similar stories?

Answer 1

If the chemistry is right between two people from ANY upbringins, anything can happen.

I'm sure that if your that dedicated to change yourself for the better(not just for him, for the improvement of yourself), then you are one special individual.

The best thing I can personally suggest you(this has happened to me once) is to sit down with your Boyfriend and communicate with him this problem...time will reveal all.

Answer 2

Absolutely. In fact I think people who are too similar are doomed to end up bored with eachother.I hate those sayings like"opposites attract" becase the dynamics of human relations can't be generalized. But you can consider that a good relationship has the yin/yang of each person giving and taking, you are in the best situation. You both have SO much to teach to and learn about eachother that you cannot help but grow towards eachother.Unles s he was raised by cannibals and you by hippie vegans.Be well!

Answer 3

Make sure you're not basing your decision to be with him on his looks or financial status. Check out his personality. Do some pranks/tests to see how he reacts to them and if they're to your liking.

I don't really know how old you are, but from the voice in your writing, I assume you're still quite young. Don't jump onto the commitment bandwagon too early; there are plenty of other people out there (oh, just about a few billion) that you can also check out to see if they're better. Remember, you have options. I guess this is probably why a lot of divorces happen in America- the lack of substantial analysis of a potential life partner.

And to answer your question, yes, two people who seem foreign to each other's world (thus the whole Mars and Venus cliche people are using) are more than compatible in the sense of relational interoperability.

Answer 4

My wife was brought up in a home with so many restrictions she couldn't hardly wipe her butt without asking permission. I was brought up by parents who believed I was innocent until there was proof of my guilt.

I partied ALL the time. She still doesn't much care for getting "wasted," but we love each other more and more everyday.

As long as you two care about each other and can find some common ground to meet upon things should work out great for you two.

Best of luck, keep love alive.

Answer 5

I believe that two people can make it work if they devote themselves to it. Backgrounds do have a lot to with who you become in life, but they shouldn't decide your fate. You can change certain things about yourselves, that the other does not agree with. However, you must truely WANT to change for that person. If you are unsure of what you want, you could end up wasting you life on someone who didnt love you for you. I would be very carfeul in my decision to change for someone. On the other hand, if you feel in your heart that he is truely the one, then I would tell you to go for it; don't be afraid of the future. As long as you are both in it for the "long haul", then I believe no matter who your parents are, or what school you went to will have no bearing on the relationship that you can build together.

Answer 6

My fiance and I came from two totally different value systems and we're doing just fine. As long as you are both willing to look at things from one another's perspectives and compromise, you shouldn't have any serious issues.
You can make anything work if you both put forth effort.
However, for the future, keep in mind that he has stronger values. How are you going to raise your kids, will they have his strong values or your reserved ones?
When it comes to raising children, it's best to be on the same page.
Even if you aren't planning on tying the knot and starting a family anytime soon, it's best to discuss these things now.
Good luck!

Answer 7

Its up to the both of you and what level that each one will provide for the other partner. If both are willing to see and understand and accept that each has their own ideas, issues and background, then yes. But people do it all the time. Noone really has the same upbringing. Thats the pleasure of finding someone, that intrests you and both of you can get to know the other.

Answer 8

I think some differences are good as long as something that is very important to you/him is not completely ignored by him/you. If one person, for example, is really into alcohol and the other completely abstains then this is a problem. Most things can be negotiated though.

Answer 9

When your in love with someone, you learn to make it work. Find a middle ground for the both of you on what you like, and move forward from there. Good Luck.

Answer 10

A little partying now and then is good for any relationship! Just don't pressure him or go overboard in your partying! I'm sure by inviting him along or just including him will make him feel more involved in your life and affairs, socially! I think it can work!