i didnt bleed went i lost my virginity and my boyfriend thinks i wasnt a virgin do all girls bleed?

Question

well i did not bleed the first time so i was trying to find out how come i didnt bleed so i can find out so i can tell my man

Answer 1

I'm comming to your boyfriend's defense here. But before I do, everyone here who says not all women bleed the first time is right. Some girls are born without the hymen, and in today's world lots of girls have their hymen broken by horseback riding, riding bikes, etc. That's why in cultures where being a virgin is such a big deal, young women are forbidden to do these activities.

Now, on to defending your boyfriend: you've had a lot of people say that if your boyfriend loved you, he would take your word for it. These people are foolish. If you had been told your whole life that men who have never been seen naked by another woman had red marks on their hips, and your boyfriend swore he'd never been seen naked by anyone else, but was missing the red marks, you'd wonder. It's what you've been told your whole life! Likewise, if your boyfriend promised you that he was at home all night, but you saw a dated photograph from the same night of a car that looked just like his, including that tale-tale dent in the back, you'd wonder. Everything we believe in our lives has to be based on something. At this point, all he has to go on to believe you were a virgin before him is your word. If you weren't, then you lied to him. If you lied to him, than he shouldn't trust you. (Lucky you don't do that, eh?) He was thinking that he would have solid confirmation at the time when you first made love that you were a virgin.

Here, another analogy: if he promised to give you something on a particular night, then showed up where you agreed to meet and didn't have it in hand, but said he dropped it off at your house. You spent the whole night waiting in anticipation to see it, then when you got home there was no sign of it and no one there had seen it, wouldn't you be a little suspicious? I mean, you can still think of a thousand things that could have happened (someone could have moved it and forgot, not recognized it as important and thrown it away, you might just not be seeing it, etc) but his continued saying, "But I left it right where I left it!" isn't going to make you feel a whole lot better. And it's not that the thing itself was important, it's that he didn't do what he promised.

In the end, just like in the example above, all you can do is promise him that he was your first and ask him to believe you. But don't go too hard on him for having a hard time with it. Be a trustworthy girlfriend, and stand by the truth, and eventually he'll figure out that you don't lie to him, and that means you're telling the truth.

Answer 2

Okay, I think you're not totally a virgin. Just tell you're current guy to be gentle because you want him to do it that way. Some women will bleed at their first time but not all women. If the guy's banana isn't too big, I think it won't hurt too much. Just make sure to relax, massage and use a lot of lubrication. If it really really hurts, stop and tell him your story. Maybe you can tell him to do these because you like it done this way: 1. Ear biting, if he gives a sharp bite to the ear, it draws your attention as he penetrates. 2. Tickling at the back of your knee. (doesn't work with every woman) 3. Him giving you lots of oral before you get started. 4. Over the counter painkillers, but that can take away from the good feeling 5.Use sensual massage lubes by K-y.They even sell a variety pack. The warming sensual touch K-Y lube is really nice.

Answer 3

No...not everyone bleeds the first time. Be freaking lucky you don't live in India though! After consumation the man would walk out with the blanket. If there was blood the girl was free to go, if not they thought that she wasn't a virgin and was therefore killed.

You might not have bleed for a number of reasons. Tampons affect that...er aspect many times,

Answer 4

Young girls, usually "virgins", have what is called a hymen. The hymen is what protects the inner part of the vagina. The hymen is usually broken by intercourse. (Which is why a lot of people refer to your first time having sex as "popping the cherry".) However, some girls tear their hymens long before they have intercourse for the first time. This can be caused by many different things, such as gymnastics, swimming, running..etc. Not only that, but even if your hymen was still intact, not all girls will bleed when their hymen is torn.

Answer 5

Gurl never mind that man! Some women don't bleed like a lot of blood. Cause I didn't all I saw was a little pink and that's it so tell him pull it together it's not the end of the world. Every woman's body is different it reacts different.

Answer 6

I didn't bleed when I lost it either. So what?

Some women are just born without hymens. Some women have very easily permeable hymens that just give way without bleeding.

What I would worry about here, is WHY exactly your man is so hung up on making a girl bleed when she has sex with him. Why does he need proof of TISSUE DAMAGE in order to enjoy sex with you? Why is he so hung up on the issue of your virginity?

Truthfully, I think he sounds like a sexist Neanderthal, and you'd be better off without him.

Answer 7

Some girls break their hymen before their first time of having sex, for example during sports or while inserting a tampon. Not bleeding when you are having sex for the first time is quite normal.
But what's not normal is the fact that you feel you owe your boyfriend an explanation. Was he a virgin when you two first got together?

Answer 8

Why does your boyfriend want you to bleed to believe that you're a virgin? If he truly loves you then you your own words should be enough...anyways, what kind of boyfriend would want to make their girlfriend bleed? Anyways, to answer you question, not all woman bleed when they have sex it's just common...but it won't always happen...

Answer 9

A hymen can be broken many ways, long before a girl is even sexually active. Not all women even bleed when this happens.
I didn't bleed my first time...
Have him read the links below, this should explain it all for him.

Answer 10

not all girls bleed and your boyfriend should be grateful that you chose to lose your virginity to him. If he makes a fuss about the Virginity issue may be you ask him whether he loves you or the Virginity. Its trust enough from your side that you have given yourself to him. All the best in your love.