My bf says he needs a break because He doesnt feel like himself so he needs to reflect etc etc... So I am scared this is going to weaken or just wreck our relationship all together. Could this be a good thing? Or does this mean he want s to see other people? I dont want to lose the love of my life.
2007-01-25 08:17:28 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend wanted a break to think about his OWN life for awhile...and then a month later, he was with another girl. Get rid of him now - he will break your heart!
2007-01-25 08:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by NikNak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably not ready for a serious relationship and that's his way of telling you he wants to see other people without hurting you. Most likely if you take a break one of two things will happen: 1. He'll decide he never wants to be apart from you again or 2. He will start seeing all kinds of people and the two of you will probably never work things out. I'm not saying these things to hurt you but I've seen this so many times. Guys don't know how to break up. They are either so cruel and cold breaking up that they say the worst things or they don't want to hurt you so they take the "break" route and soon the break turns into a permanent break. You need to sit and have a long talk with your boyfriend about what it is he really wants.
2007-01-25 09:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by wrjones559_1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship break can't ruin things. I was watching the television "Nanny 9-1-1" the other day and concluded that two adults breaking up is the relationship equivalent of a "time-out."
It could mean anything. During his time of reflection, where he acts like moses and crosses the desert for 40 years and finds his "10 Commandments" and what not, he'll either think to himself, "boy I really miss my girl; how could I have been so silly to let go her; she's such a charming little dear" or he'll return from the desert with a cleopatra around his arm who he feels is more compatible for him.
It's not to say he didn't cherish you; it is to say he found someone better for him.
He might be the kind of guy who is uncertain about so much and needs someone to assist him more in finding himself.
Wait for a year, if you don't hear from him, move on.
2007-01-25 08:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT listen to all those people saying he "wants to see other people" or he is going to "dump you". I wanted to take a break from my boyfriend in the summer before we hit our one year mark because we saw eachother too much and it was becoming constant arguing between us. We ended up not taking a break because neither of us really wanted it. But about 2 weeks ago my boyfriend was thinking of taking a break for the same reasons and again I wouldnt let him. I know that sounds horrible, but I don't think a break is a good thing. I mean it may help, but it feels like crap for the time away. Try to let him be and go out and have fun... don't let him know how bad you are hurting. Having him see you having fun without him may cause him to realize what he's missing. If it turns out that you and him aren't meant to be... then it will hurt, but you have to move on. There are bigger and better things for you. Good luck. Stay strong.
2007-01-25 08:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he needs a break, all you can really do is give it to him. whether or not it will wreck your relationship depends on a million factors. Have you been together long? Is he being honest about why he needs a break? Etc... Sometimes a break does everyone good. You may find that you needed one too. If he is lying to you, and just looking for a way to go out and play, then you didnt want him anyway...
2007-01-25 08:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Rebekah G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie it sounds like he just isn't ready to be in a serious relationship right now. So the best thing you can do is let him go if that's what he wants. Give him his space and if you and him are truly meant to be together he will come back to you. I know it sound easier said then done. Mainly because I know that you love him and that you see him as the love of your life. But the problem is that he doesn't see you in the same light. So give him his space and just move on with life. If the two of you are meant then you shall be later on down the road if you choose to be with him. Good Luck !!!!
2007-01-25 08:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you two dated for? let me tell you something hun, going on a break DOESNT mean that your relationship is doomed. at the same time, all the above questions you just asked us, you need to ask your bf...in his opinion does he see you two getting back together? either way, you need to realize that everything in life happens for a reason...in my case, my bf and i went on a break, one that lasted almost 3 months...and now we are engaged. sometimes, going on a break doesnt mean you dont love the person...it just means that life is tossing him around too much to the point where he doesnt know what he wants anymore.... see, my bf realized how crazy he's been going without me...how one of a kind we were together...no other girl can replace what YOU TWO have.... let this break be a break....and dont forget to ask him those questions bc they are important... and you deserve atleast to know THAT much.
i really hope everything works out for you in the end...and stay strong throughout this break...everything happens for a reason.
2007-01-25 08:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally I would say it is only a short term solution.
If you need a break in a relationship it is because you have issues with it.
Sure, absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that, but it does not solve the underlying problem in the long run. You need to stay together and work through things if you want things to stay OK afterwards.
Think about it, do you want to go through you life taking 'breaks' in your relationship every time it turns sour?
2007-01-25 08:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by HP 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, taking breaks in relationships do not continuously smash a relationship; if it is meant to be, sometime it is going to come comprehensive circle... yet, that reported... once you're uninterested in chasing after him, then supply up doing it! If he's pushing you away, do not enable him push - You do the strolling! If he's flirting with different women and did not do something for you on Valentine's day, it's time to bypass on. there is something extra desirable for you obtainable! do not waste anymore time in this guy! he's shifting on, teach him which you will additionally! specific, it is unhappy and no, it is going to on no account be straight forward, yet be solid and do it! there'll come a time once you will look back and be happy you probably did! I promise!
2016-12-16 17:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy tells you that it is usually a nice way of putting that he doesnt want you as a girlfriend anymore. However you could still be friends possibly. Dont worry you'll be ok people break up all the time there are lots more guys out there.
2007-01-25 08:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes taking a break can be a good thing. Because he is going to go and when he is laying in that bed alone or there is no one to call when he gets home from work he is going to be so lonley. He is going to realize that you are the only one for him.
BUT, He may come across someone that he likes alot better. Someone he feels is more of a soulmate...It varies
But I think it's a good idea to take a break. hey you never know, you may find somone better as well....:)
Good luck
2007-01-25 08:23:58 · answer #11 · answered by acoats2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋