my best friend (mark) is good friends with all these people in a band. one of those people in the band are named John. Mark called me with John on the other line. We talked for a while, and Mark showed John my myspace. Apparently, he thinks I am "insanely hot" and was talking to Mark about how bad he wants to "bone me." I was joking around on the phone and told John I'd give him a lapdance if he gave me and some friends a ride to the movies. So i probably led him on or something. Because I don't do things like that. Mark is having a party on Saturday and the whole band is going to be there. I'm afraid this guy John is going to try something on me and I'm not sure how to handle this. I've heard some bad things about John also, that he's an alcoholic and has a bad home-life. I know the typical answer is to "not go" to the party but I'm going to eventually meet this guy John somewhere because he's friends with a lot of people I know. And I really want to go to this party. what to do?
2007-01-25 08:10:46 · 23 answers · asked by jooooooolie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am a freshman in highschool and he is a junior/senior. i am considered the "hotquiet" girl honestly
2007-01-25 08:17:31 · update #1
A) You shouldn't hang out with those type of people.
B) If you are going to go anyway: Tell him no. Carry mace, and report him to the police if he tries something.
2007-01-25 08:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask first if you did receive a ride to the movies from the guy John?? If Mark is your best friend, he will know that you were only kidding on the phone that day with John. Tell Mark you may need his support during the party in the event that the guy John approaches you and decides to take you seriously on YOUR OFFER. I capatalize that because hopefully you are learning to be careful of what you say to guys you don't know that well because you can land yourself in an awkward or dangerous situation.
Go to the party, have a great time. If you run into John, just act like it was all a big joke and you have no intention of a lap dance. If he makes a big deal out of it, give Mark a signal that you need help. My friends and I always had a pre-arranged signal before we would go out to let the others know that we needed someone to intervene. One of our signals was to grab our hair up, gather it at the back and hold it like it was in a pony tail. Anyone would think it was a normal gesture, but we each knew it was a distress signal.
2007-01-25 16:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by hunnybunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes. Yeah, you probably led him on, but you can fix it. Make sure if you go to the party that you go with a friend you trust. Make sure that she is with you at all times. Don't drink alcohol either. It will lower your inhibitions. Remember, you don't want to make another mistake. Try not to judge someone by their homelife either. You'd be surprised at the amount of people with horrible homelives that end up being brilliant people. If you don't want anything to do with him, just be honest with him and tell him you were just playing around. If Mark knows you well, he can back you up on it. You have nothing to lose. The worst John can say is that you're a tease. Big deal. Nothing wrong with not being easy.
2007-01-25 16:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by zumi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ode to be young again-- everybody says things that at the moment seem harmless. It is very important that if you go you surround yourself with friends you trust. Maybe make a "meeting" place to meet your best girlfriend every half hour- saftey words- don't drink to much.
it sounds like your young if you needed a ride to the movies, so learn a little something about this. Listen to your gut and above all else be strong.
Women have an incredible amount of power- and i'd hate for you to think that the only way to prove this is with your body.... remember to respect yourself, speak up and be honest.
tell the dude to lay off if he says anything to hurt your feelings.
don't be fooled by his ..wanting to make you feel bad....
be proud, be strong, be smart
oh yeah- stay in school :)
2007-01-25 16:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by elizabeth w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to read this twice to understand what you had done.
John didn't give you a ride to the movies. So there will be no lap dancing.
As much as you want to go to this party, you should go. Be a lady though. No boning. No sex. Get to know him, see if you like him. And if he tries something and you refuse, and he gets mad...
So what. He will get over it, and move on to someone else, if indeed it's sex he wants.
Don't get a bad rep doing what others want you too.
2007-01-25 16:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the party, and if he tries to place a move on you, stop him. Tell him nicely that you don't want a relationship with him, and you'd much rather be friends. If he gets angry, just walk off, theres now point getting involved with a guy like him. He sounds like bad news. End it while you can
Good luck!
2007-01-25 16:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are sorry but didn't think through your promise and give him $5 for the ride he gave you. You don't owe him anything and if he tries anything make a scene and don't get into any situations where you will be alone with him. Don't challenge him but don't let him know that you are afraid of him.
2007-01-25 16:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you should not go to the party. if you cannot trust him to behave well the last place you want to be with him is at a party where there would be alcohol and God knows what else. or u could go early before he gets to drunk and try to explain to him that you were only joking when you flirted with him and hopefully he will buy that
2007-01-25 16:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by snowflakes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the party and have fun! If he tries to do something just tell him that you're not comfortable with that. Tell him you would like to get to know him as friends before anything happens. That way he knows and you have fun!
2007-01-25 16:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will do what you want to do...If you are asking for our advice, is it so that you will do the opposite??? I would say "Don't Go." And avoid these two losers..and try not to say such things about lap dances in the future...you are going to talk yourself into big trouble that you might not be able to get out of.
2007-01-25 16:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋