My boyfriend and I stopped seeing each other because he could not accept the fact that I had a child and he was still in party mode (He's 36). I explained to him that I wanted a secure, committed relationship. He replied that he was not ready for that. After that conversation, I ended contact with him. A few months later he contacted me via email to tell me that he missed me and wanted another chance. Now that we have reconcilled, he has been wonderful with my son and calls me his girlfriend. However, I rarely see him during the week due to his work schedule and distance (45 min). He always spends Thurs with his friends fishing and Sundays watching football. Last night we argued because his plans were to go to bed early on Fri night to fish with his friend on Sat. Then he would visit me Saturday evening /Sun morning. That leaves 1-2 days with me during the week. I don't consider that a boyfriend. Am I expecting too much? I'm attractive/fun etc. Should I sit home on Fri nights alone?
2007-01-25 08:09:08 · 5 answers · asked by festefool75 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Um, no, not really. See, he's looking for convenience in a relationship whilst you are looking for stability. He still wants to play and you want commitment. Go find yourself someone willing to go rent a movie or three, help get the kid to bed early and stay up late watching movies with you one Friday nights! Besides that,(if he's so inclined) maybe even take your child to the park on Friday's and all three of you have fun together! My last gf and I did that with her daughter all the time!
2007-01-25 08:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find something to do, or friends to go out with! It's not healthy to sit at home every weekend. Ask a couple friends to go to the movies, or have them over for a movie night at your house. Some weekends alone are nice and relaxing, but every weekend isn't good! Perhaps you can join a club where everyone there shares the same interest as you and you can spark some new friendships!
2016-05-23 23:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to find a compromise between fishing/ football and you.
As I don't like fishing and football, I d say that seeing you more would be the option to take.
May be he realised that he has grown weary with you ( which I don't hope so but ...) and try to stay with you and to see you when he wants to.
But this cannot run that way
One way love is just a Fantasy ( sounds like a song ...)
So tell him Don't play with something you should cherish for Life
So it is you or Fishing, he has to make a choice...
You can t stay with somebody who doesn't care about your relation.
2007-01-25 08:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by WonderingMind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP trying so hard.. trust me it works!! Stop calling him so much.. he will see that you are not contacting him as much. Go out and do your own thing.. try to go out with friends. I have a boyfriend that lives not even a mile from me and I only see him couple times a week. We are both busy thats all. Tell him how you feel and you want to see him more and get his reaction. Do you ever go see him?? It works both ways. A realtionship is 50/50. Try to slow down on calling him and focus on your kid and you for little while.. Good luck
2007-01-25 08:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not sit home alone on any night.
he is out having fun, you should be too.
he is not a boyfriend he is someone who wants it all and you have nothing, he is selfish. find someone who will love you and your child, he doesn't..
2007-01-25 08:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋