i was dating this girl and talked everyday, had a lot of fun and never argued. recently she asked me to give her space though. it's been 6 days now...how much longer should i wait? and then should i text her or something? and what should i say in the text? like "how's it going, have good day" or "hope you're well" or something like that? please give me some examples! i really miss her and it hurts to wait..
2007-01-25 08:06:40 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know it sucks when only one person in a relationship wants space. I have been there. But the worst thing you could do is push her. Give her her space. Dont contact her, she will contact you when she is ready. And if it is taking to long, or she is just dragging you along then maybe it would be time to move on. Sometimes people just need time to evaluate things on their own. But sometimes people use space as an excuse to cheat with an with permission. So if some time passes just find out where she is coming from and what the problem is. You do not want to be left hanging.
2007-01-25 08:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go ahead and send her a text, or leave her a message. Just to see how she is, or to say hello. If she's just really stressed out and needed some "me time" she'll realize that you care and at least give you a call to make sure when she's not so stressed out you guys can continue your relationship. However, if you don't hear from her, the "I need some space" is her way of trying to be nice and hope you get the hint that for whatever reason she does not want to date anymore. If that is the case, it will hurt, but at least you will know so that you can find someone else that WANTS to be with you!
2007-01-25 08:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by jac44129 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmmmmmm space? First of all, she wants space, things are probley going too fast for her, and she doesn't know weither she wants to lead you on or not. She probley knows you like her. And she's probley wondering what to do with you? Anyhow, wow 6 days..the way I see it, is if you really like someone, why do you even need the space in the first place, you dated already , you know what she is about, and she does too with you, so why does she need space? Maybe your comming on too strong? Anyhow, this could be really bad, or good. I don't know. Honestly..I wouldn't even bother texting her. I know you miss her. But give her time to miss you! Don't be sooo available. She is practically making you wait for her, think about it? If you do plan to wait untill she is ready, wait one more week, if you don't hear anything. Seriously don't bother with her. Cause if you guys got along sooo well and talked everyday, why can't you talk to her about this? Me personally, if someone told me , "they need their space", I would move on. What is their to think about, they had enough time with you. But if its personal family matters or work, I would understand. Look, you don't chase them, you replace them.
2007-01-25 08:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by RAW AND GRIM \,,/ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't talked to her at all in 6 days? There is something wrong with that picture!! Maybe you should call her and ask her whats up! I know I would if I were in your shoes! How long have you been dating? Is there an ex close by(on her side)? How long were they together and how long were they apart before you started seeing her? You need to know these things before you can make any decisions as to what you can do! You can still call her just to say hi and ask how she is! If there is something else going on, maybe she will tell you when you call!
2007-01-25 08:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by peaches 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"I need space" is the gentle way of saying "I don't know if I want this relationship anymore."
I'd let her gently float away and not look back, and go for someone else. If anything, it might shock Little Miss I Need Space out of taking you for granted if she sees you having a great time with another girl.
If she whines, But But BUT, just tell her, "Oh, come on. Everyone knows that "I need space" is Chick Speak for "It's over and I don't have the guts to tell you." What am I supposed to do, dangle on the line indefinitely? I got NEEDS, baby."
And I would expect any woman who hears "I need space" from a guy to do the same!
2007-01-25 08:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by Guernica 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have done good giving her six days of space. You might text her and just say I just wanted to see how you are doing and if everything is ok with you. If she doesn't answer you then you know it was her polite way of getting out of the relationship.If she answers you back, come right out and ask her if she needs more time or can you call her. Tell her you miss talking to her and see how it goes from there. Good luck !
2007-01-25 08:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by flutterby_bluesky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's been six days with no contact at all....well you have definitely given her space. Why not call her and just say....hey I was just calling to see how you were doing....and leave it up to her to see how she reacts to you. If she doesn't answer I would leave a message and wait till she returns your call....if two days go by...I would move. I think it was her way of being nice to break things off by saying "I need space".
2007-01-25 08:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call her. Obviously she doesn't want to be bothered if she hasn't called you. I'm a female and I've been through it before. A guy did me like that before. Give her space eventually she'll come around unless she has someone else. Only wait one more day. If she doesn't call after seven days don't mess with her anymore. Obviously she's playing some sort of mind games.
2007-01-25 08:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by Heaven26 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"I need some space" usually means; "I'm looking for something better, but I'd like to keep you around in case it doesn't work out."
My advice is to start looking for a new girl friend. If you aren't ready to do that , then get busy doing things with your guy friends. Keep really busy. If she wanted to contact you, she would have text messaged YOU by now. Some girls are more attracted to guys they can't have than ones they are sure of. If you try to contact her, you're going to appear desperate...don't do it.
2007-01-25 08:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by cindymonjeau 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a week is long enough.... if your serious about this girl, you need to send her an email or text...something written, not verbally over the phone..trust me. if she wants her space, thats understandable, but you miss her and she needs to know it without feeling like your not giving her her space..therefore, the email or texting works. tell her a little something like this:
Hey ______, im sorry to bother you, i know you said you needed your space and i respect that. I just wanted to tell you, that if there was ever anything ive said or done to hurt or upset you, i am sincerely sorry...i didnt mean to upset you intentinally...all i want to do is make you happy...ive been missing you so much lately and you've been on my mind ever since..
i hope your ok sweetie...call me anytime you'd like. in the mean time, i am going to give you your space.
2007-01-25 08:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋