Today i Just found out that my boyfriend was in a gang but he tells my friend first before he tells me wat should i do?
2007-01-25 08:01:42 · 13 answers · asked by ~~Sexy Lady14~~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My first question is. Why do you believe it is true? From the little I know about gangs their members aren't all that secretive, they wear colors, have gang tattoos and mostly hang out with other gang members. I think there are very few people who are corporate lawyers by day and hardcore gangsta's by night. Is it possible your friend is just saying this so you will break up with him? Or maybe your boyfriend just told your friend this too scare them or sound impressive.
But let's assume that it is true. You don't have to be a psychologist or socialist to understand how most gang members end up. Dead or in jail, period. They don't go on to become doctors, lawyers or accountants.
2007-01-25 08:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get him out of it. Talk to him about why he would decide to be in one, what are the benefits? is it just to be cool? is it because he has no friends? is he being raised in a loving home with parents that care about him? whatever the problem or reason may be, you should try to talk to him about it and explain that by being in a gang, he is being a follower and letting others make his decisions for him...also some gangs are hard to get out of without getting hurt. I hope your friend didn't act like it was a good thing, don't accept it if he continues to stay in the gang. Break up and get a guy with some confidence and brains.
2007-01-25 08:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAS in a gang or IS in a gang? If he used to be but changed his ways, cut the guy a little slack. Probably didn't tell you because he was nervous of your reaction. But if he is still in one I would say he's bad news.
2007-01-25 08:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away, quickly and quietly! The old adage "blood in-blood out" is NOT a euphemism! NOR is the saying(for gangs) "G-D forgives, blood don't!" false either!
2007-01-25 08:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know ive never been in that type of situtaion..first how long have you guys been goig out for and it it has been awhile and he tells ur feiend first there is somehitng wrong thee the friend before you come on look at that picture!
2007-01-25 08:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by danielle r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better get used to the idea that he'll be dead in a short time. Then, ask him if he's sure he wants to commit suicide. Tell him you'll miss him.
2007-01-25 08:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away from him break up with him!!!! once in a gang never out!!! and you DO NOT want to get in to it
2007-01-25 08:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by Shortie<3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is probably making it up, ask him about it, but ultimately you do no want to date a gang member
2007-01-25 08:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by braindeadbrilliance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you shur it's is true and if it is what kind of gang?
2007-01-25 08:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by The one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him! No good can come from thug love.
2007-01-25 08:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by ♫ijustwannaplaymymusic♫ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋