I am a high school freshamn and I have two probelms with people making fun of me. One of them is a guy named Frank. He always is mean to be because I am smart. What should I do to get back at him or how do I let him he it doesn't bother me. (Even though it does.) The second is this guy named Joe. He makes fun of me because I have OCD. I am not fully OCD I have just 60% of the sympotoms. How do I prove to him that I do have OCD ? And how do I get him to quit making fun of me? Also what are some good comeback that I could say to both of these boys?
2007-01-25 07:48:09 · 9 answers · asked by actresst22 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
First of all, these two guys must have extremely low feelings of self-worth -- the only way they can feel better about themselves is to bring other people down. DO NOT waste your time trying to control what they think and what they do. If you react to them in any way, they will feel a sense of power over you. They'll think, "Cool! I can GET to you!" The best thing you can do is always be polite and kind to these boys and never strike back. You will look SO strong then...inside they will respect you and will realize that nothing they do can get a rise out of you. Treat them as you would treat a friend. Eventually they will either become your friend, OR they will tire of trying to upset you since it isn't working and they'll give up.
If you're having trouble believing that this is the solution, I suggest you watch the movie "Gandhi." Then you'll be convinced. I'll pray for you. Please keep me posted as to how it's going .....breadcollision@yahoo.com God bless!!!
2007-01-25 08:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by BreadCollision 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all, I am 29 years old and although high school was a while ago, guys have not changed much. They are hard to figure out, won't always show their feelings. I would just ignore Frank and assume that since you have the smarts he has to be jealous. OCD symptons are pretty common. If your OCD keeps you organized and you have a routine that works for you, why do you care so much what other people think? I found that if you have the self esteem and a good head on your shoulders you can go far, like college. After going back to my high school 10 year reunion this past summer, there were people there that never experienced college because of situations of teenage pregnancy, or just goofing off and not caring at the time. Keep on track and pay more attention to what positive things you have going for you and ignore those guys. (When they tease, they typically are trying to flirt, but have no clue-is that possible?) Stay focused and don't let them bother you.
2007-01-25 16:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mylee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
High school is the hard. Act like you don't care the only reason he making fun of you is two reasons one he not that smart are two he just a jerk are he got problems to. your come back for him could be stick it. Just come out and tell Joe that you are OCD next time he makes fun of you.
2007-01-25 16:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by C.K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know, it's very generously said, but don't let it bother you. But in a different way. When they say, oh look, you have OCD or whatever, just say, "Yeah, yeah I sure do. You can go ahead and think whatever you want," like it's no big deal. Very defiantly. Because it really isn't a big deal. I usually say, "You know, you can think that, go ahead, it's not doing me anything." Which it isn't. It usually shuts them up. It's always worked for me, because what do you care if they think certain things about you? What's that going to do for them?
Good luck.
2007-01-25 16:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by The Great Walrus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is ignore these people. I hope you have some real friends who can support you. Just cut the bad people out of your life. Do not try to find a come back because that only encourages them. Telling them about your condition would only give them more ammunition so leave that out.
2007-01-25 16:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by startrektosnewenterpriselovethem 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for you to be concerned with fitting in. At your age (teens, pre-teens) peer acceptance is EVERYTHING. Even more important than you little brother or doing your homework the right way. Adults tend to forget this. Almost all teens have experienced feelings like yours when picked on. Its rough but it happens to most kids, trust me. Even the ones who seem like they are ultra confident, they have their weaknesses. Be on the lookout for when they experience their weakness in front of you so then you can rub it repeatedly in their face. Or not. Choose to take the mature route and let them laugh. All that other stuff is wasted energy and will leave you feeling crazy.
2007-01-25 16:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Roan22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them where to shove it and to grow up, boys are so in mature at this age! when they walk past you and they say something just say, whats that? a ghost talking, i can't hear anything. also tell your teachers, they could talk to them and help you. the guy that makes fun of you because you are smart just tell him that when you get older you will have good grades and that he will be living in a cardboard box!
2007-01-25 15:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just deal with it through high school because when you graduate you'll go to college. And its actually considered cool to be smart in college.
2007-01-25 15:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's unsecure,maybe he has a crush on you and is very unmature doesn't know how to show it anyway.
2007-01-25 16:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋