GUYS is he with qanother woman??

Question

met this guy at christmas we got on went away for 2 weeks and he was so sweet wanted to introduce me to his parents everything then....he has only had 2 serious relationships one for five yrs another six months. initially he was texting me all the time really really in to me we even looked at houses spent new years in a hotel together ..then all of a sudden he went cold said he had been thinking about things for a few days and he dint know if he wanted a realtionship..he still talks to me occassionally phones me...tellls me he thinks im lovely i know he still cares...but wants to go out with his mates and doesnt want a serious realtionship right now maybe later...does this mean he just doent want me why do things turn intially i was not even in to him how do i get him back to the way he was whats the best strategy he wont even see me know because he says us having contact make it hard for him whats the best way to be to regain that interest???

Answer 1

Maybe if he has spent 6 years in serious relationships, all he really does want is to just go out and have fun with his mates, I can really understand that. But if you want to be with him, say you are willing to take things slow and just hang out and be with each other, dont smother him and you'll probably be fine :)

Answer 2

No he is not with another woman, i think he just got caught up in the emotion of it all at the beginning and when things died down a bit, as they do, he probably had time to take stock.I think that he is not ready to settle just yet and if you are not looking for something serious then go for it, i think he has done you a favour by being honest with what it appears to be him asking for a bit of space.Just relax and go out and enjoy yourself, you'll get to stage where you'll be enjoying yourself so much you'll probably be telling him to give you some space.

Answer 3

This "relationship" has been a whirlwind FLING sweetie, sorry to tell. There is absolutely no healthy relationship that can be expected to "last" when you describe how fast things moved. You have been used. He tallks to you occasionally because he wants to know you'll be there in the future, just in case he wants to do that again. I don't mean to make him out to be a bad calculating person, it's possible he did not PLAN that but he was at least very irresponsible and impulsive as far as your encounter went.

Answer 4

He's not interested anymore. He probably was initially, now he isn't. Who cares why? Move on. Most men are too chicken to just say, "It's been fun, but I'm not interested anymore. Goodbye." so the keep you sort of guessing like this. Take ahold of your self respect and go have some fun finding someone new to date. Why would you want him back if he doesn't want you? Even if he did take you back it would be out of pity and he'd never respect you. Who wants that?

Answer 5

Hun, you dont want him to `regain' his interest.
He is running scared. He doesn't want to see you because he is to tempted. He would be tempted to fall back into the way things were. And for some reason that is scaring the living daylights out of him.
Back off, begin to move on... If he comes around he comes around. If he doesn't you don't want to get caught up in whatever personal drama he's got going on.
I know it is hard but try to at least act like your fine with it and that you are moving on. It might make him wake up or at least start to think.

Answer 6

Seriously, it depends on what kind guy he is... in this case, you try to make him a nice guy in your context, yet you think that he maybe cheating on you, it's your feeling and so on. There are two reasons for that, either he dosn't intersted in you. OR he gave up on you, because you don't show enough interest toward him.
I will tell you this right now, your sense is always right, and in your mind you sense he may be lossing interest in you, yet you try to reject it, hoping the answers from the web would say he haven't lossing interest in you yet, what you can do right now is been COLD AS HELL, don't even reply to any of his message, see what that guy does.

Answer 7

Men are like dogs - the more you chase them, the faster they run. There really is nothing you can do. He will either come back or he will not. What is the age we are talking about here? Because he sounds like a kid with a short attention span.

The worst thing you can do is chase him. That will make you look desperate and that scares guys away.

Answer 8

Sounds to me like it just went too fast too quick...sometimes that's good, sometimes not. I think he's just stepped outside the square to have a look in and see if that's what he really wants now. I can relate to that. I've just come out of a relationship and part of me yearns the love and passion of a good woman and part of me wants freedom. Give it a little time but if in say two weeks, he hasn't come back around, he's chose freedom. Shame, coz you sound like a good catch!

Answer 9

Couple things: If you're over thirty years old, he probably just doesn't want to settle down and get married. He likely feels rushed into mid life and children. If you're much younger than that "critical age for women" and aren't really pushing for all the above that I mentioned, he could be sniffing around.

When it comes to relationships, men are predictable, if not obvious. Any one who thinks otherwise is thinking too much and should probably spend more time loving her/his man.

Answer 10

Erm....you met at Christmas and are already looking at houses together? Seriously, I'm not surprised he's getting cold feet - I would too. You need to really slow down.

Sounds like he feels the need to back off a bit without losing you completely. That's completely understandable, you hardly know each other in reality.

Give him his space. If he comes back, great - if not then it wasn't meant to be.