HELP from mature men and woman needed???????????????????...?

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HELP from mature men and woman needed???????????????????...
met this guy at christmas we got on went away for 2 weeks and he was so sweet wanted to introduce me to his parents everything then....he has only had 2 serious relationships one for five yrs another six months. initially he was texting me all the time really really in to me we even looked at houses spent new years in a hotel together ..then all of a sudden he went cold said he had been thinking about things for a few days and he dint know if he wanted a realtionship..he still talks to me occassionally phones me...tellls me he thinks im lovely i know he still cares...but wants to go out with his mates and doesnt want a serious realtionship right now maybe later...does this mean he just doent want me why do things turn intially i was not even in to him how do i get him back to the way he was whats the best strategy he wont even see me know because he says us having contact make it hard for him whats the best way to be to regain that interest???

Answer 1

By the sound of it he has suddenly decided that he might have been taking things a little too fast with you, which for you is a bit of a headwreck.

I'd leave well enough alone, to be honest, and not try to get him back to the way he was. You're better on just moving on and forgetting about him. If he does get in touch again and you have met someone else, that's his tough luck. He didn't appreciate you while he had you!

Answer 2

You and I both know that when two people really fall for one another, a crowbar can't keep them apart. Something's just not right with this picture. Looking at houses together is very serious and sends a strong signal that a commitment is next in line. Honestly... the only thing I can think of is that he has met someone else or..... his old love has turned up in his life again and he doesn't have the nerve to tell you outright. Maybe he just never really moved on, although it appears that he was trying to do that with you in order to forget someone else. If he'd rather spend time with his mates.... well, now, that is another issue altogether. I say, you need to move on, too. Good luck and start emotional healing.

Answer 3

Don't stalk him at every turn. But it's easy to re-hook the bait.

Trust this strategy: Step 1) ON the weekend casually show up at a social event that his FRIENDS are attending. Look your best, your absolute best. Speak to his friends, etc, without referencing the guy at all, truly become an "interesting woman" in the eyes of his cohorts. It is crucial not to mention him. Casual is the key. This will eventually get back to him, but his friends won't have anything to say like you've been stalking him or anything.

You may need to re-visit Step 1 more than once over the course of a few weeks, perhaps engaging his co-workers or other friends, anyone that regularly keep in contact with him. (The idea is to keep yourself in the fold, but not in the crease)

Step 2) By this time, if you are still interested in him (and not one of his friends) show up at a place where he's at with the above mentioned acquaintences. Here you will approach those people and talk with them as though to insert yourself into that social circle regardless of his existence, as if they're your friends too.

Step3) Next, approach him and be cool. He is sure to be impressed, if not taken aback by your confidence. Men love confident women but only to the point where they feel they can control that confidence. And he'll try to do that. He'll try to test whether or not he can still have you.

You have him now. At this point, it's whether or not you can grab hold of the relationship and continue forward.

This isn't a scam or a weird psycho stalker thing. This is a derivative, proven technique that highly successful people do in business, especially in Sales. You want to CONTINUE what was in essence a terminated relationship. You have to use your head and re-connect in whatever way possible.

Answer 4

Sounds like the first flush of love happened a bot quick. I would say that you might be heading for a train wreck here if you don't be careful. I think the enormity of what you were doing all of a sudden might have shocked him (previous long term relationships, then looking at houses etc).
I wouldn't bother trying to continue with him, if he wants a serious relationship later then it will be his loss when you are happy and settled with someone else. And finally...
Never look back, never regret.

Answer 5

Don't bother with him.
I suspect the relationship got intimate, that was all he was after now he wants to move on. He has his eyes set on the free life of a singleton and wants a girl but with no strings attached. Even if he gave that impression the fact that you looked interested too was enough to make him realise that he was getting into a more permanent relationship and he has second thought on that.
He won't want to lose you completely if he has no immediate replacement, so of course he'll tell you your lovely, but he does not really care.

Answer 6

Sounds to me like he wants to keep his options open, but keep you as a back up plan in case nothing else comes along. I wouldnt bother trying to get his interest back, hes not worth the effort. You should go out and have a ball and make sure he sees what hes missing.

Answer 7

This guy is not mature enough for a relationship. I hate to be blunt but it sounds like he is interested in getting laid with no strings attached. Save your time and let this one go and meet other people.

Answer 8

be seen out by him and his friends having a good tiime with yours, making sure that there is an unattached male in the bunch that you chat to alot....then watch him come running