my girl friend is a half asian girl, nice and smart, not dumb at all and does not fall in the category of a submissive person.
anyway shes sort of with this white dude from ..some town.
they mail each other every christmas, silly stuff like bears and books and food. one time his dad found out and he said "you should be careful of what you receive in the mail, they check it" and he had the audcity to tell her this and now shes very hurt.
anyway she lives across the universe from him, theyre both of the same age too (mid 20s).
i needed to ask this so she'll stop asking me, and i really have no idea what advise to give.
does his dad have issues w/ asian girls being w/ his son? lets just say shes from thailand (like a place where you easily get stereotyped). but he doesnt even have a job, and theyve known each other for half a decade.(purely platonic).
2007-01-25 07:20:49 · 6 answers · asked by tammy a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i meant to point out he has no job and shes not and has never and will never ask him for money. shes an entrepreneur and currently in college.
2007-01-25 07:22:04 · update #1
Let her know that sometimes you can't please everyone and as long as your pleased, that's all that matters. If family values are a high point in her relationships - she ought to dump him.
Looking back, I broke up with a lot of guys whose mom or dad didn't like me - and I found out they didn't like any of their girlfriends - no one was good enough. So, if she chooses to stay with him - it's one obstacle she'll have to live with and hope it changes and they accept her.
2007-01-25 08:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by STAR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why the dad's opinion is of any importance to anyone. Sure, he may be a racist or a bigot or the green hairy monster from outer space, but since your friend and the son have nothing more than a platonic, long-distance sort of penpal-friendship, I'd say what the dad is or thinks should be more than immaterial.
2007-01-25 07:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the father was just being old fashion and had heard stories some where along the line, and is just passing them along to his son! Nothing more! I could see my father doing the same dang thing. Not even knowing any better, let alone the girl herself. I wouldn't take it seriously, and just kinda nod your head at him, and go on with life. You know what you have with the gal, he has no idea. No-use even arguing with the father, because in his eyes, he's the father, and totally knows everything. Just let him think that!!!
2007-01-25 07:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enable your dad understand that purely using fact this boy could have made some undesirable judgements interior the previous, he won't impact you to make the comparable undesirable judgements interior the destiny. Remind your dad that he raised you right (hopefully) and that he could have confidence you to make your guy or woman judgements and to stand up to any peer pressures Matt or the different friends could positioned upon you. yet keep in mind, in case you ask to your dad's have confidence, and he supplies it to you, do not destroy it!
2016-12-12 20:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not need to worry about what his dad says, he is her friend, and that is that. she seems to be the one who has it all together. his dad may be stereotyping her, but tell her not to have any concern about that, she can't change him.
2007-01-25 07:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE MAYBE HAS SOME RACIAL ISSUES, OR HE THINKS HE IS BETTER THAN ANY ONE ELSE. HE COULD JUST BE SAYING HURTFUL THINGS TO MAKE HIMSELF FEEL BETTER
2007-01-25 07:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋