My ex sort of broke-up with me thru text last Christmas. I sort of saw it coming and sort of set the stage for it. I cried, I mourned, didnt answer his calls or messages, but a couple of days ago he ym-ed me and we talked. The following day we decided to meet up to make our break-up formal. The break-up sex was the best sex I ever had with him. We again talked the following day (which is today). We act as if we're still together we say we still love each other but when I remind him that he broke up with me, he confirms it and somehow it kind of hurts cuz he isnt taking it back. He wants us to be friends but I dont know if im ok with that. I dunno if we should be friends.. I still hate him for breaking up with me although I know I would've... I've always felt he didnt love me enough... Now that he's more open than ever, now I realize his sincerity and his love (before)... but he's not my boyfriend anymore... Should I stay friends with him? Should we still communicate?
2007-01-25 07:16:15 · 27 answers · asked by Stefani 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds as though your ex b/f doesn't know what he wants, so give yourselves some time & space, without communicating, & see what happens next. Maybe he was getting really serious about you & got cold feet or perhaps, he felt that you were getting too serious about him & he's not ready for that yet. He hurt you deeply, so protect your heart from being broken again & move on with your life. You need to heal & being in touch on a regular basis may not be good for now. See what happens down the road. When/ if you two communicate again, don't bring up the subject again that he broke up with you. Nothing good can come from re-hashing or crying about what happened. Let him know you have moved on & see what happens next. If you two decide that you want to be friends, then friends it shall be but make sure his idea of friendship, doesn't entitle him to a romp in the sack when he feels like it. Then you'll either see him from time to time or communicate with him or he'll sever all strings. If so, then you know where you stand. Life is way too short to wait around for a guy like him. When you meet & fall for another guy, & it gets serious, make sure, without any doubt on your part, just exactly how he feels about you. Communication is a very important ingredient in any relationship.
2007-01-25 07:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, your upset, you got an ego blow. What woman wouldn't want to do the breaking up first? lol
I personally see the on sights of a game that he is playing. Consciously or sub consciously he will get to the point of toying with you and your heart.
So, if you really want to keep a friendship.... you back off, blow him off. Don't be over eager to talk to him. On occasion don't return his phone calls. Or be busy when he wants to do something. Let him contact you.
I know its hard. But as humans we all have animal instincts. Just like the lion, men love the chase. Make him chase you.
Even if you don't get back together it will make your friendship easier and better. If you eventually do, things will be stronger in the second time around. Just don't let him string you along. He will try even without realizing or not. Good luck sweety....
2007-01-25 07:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by MassageGoddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should remain friends with him at this point only as long as you want to keep on hurting. Once you let go and cut off ties, it will get easier. Then maybe down the road at some point you can be friends again, if you choose to, after you have put your thoughts and feelings into perspective and are not so confused.
2007-01-25 07:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should pretend to be friends and communicate. Until you get your revenge!
Call him up and tell him that you want to have some more sex. Then when it's about time and hes ready, snap his erect penis in half. You can then casually walk away, as he will be in too much pain to do anything other than cry.
After that, you won't have to talk to him ever again!
2007-01-25 07:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... if you feel like it's wrong or weird or whatever- you need to tell him. You can still stay friends but you can't have sex or be acting like you're still in love or else he's going to think that you still want a major relationship with him. You can still talk and all but you need to tell him that he broke your heart and that he needs to know that it'll take time to heal and all. Good Luck.
2007-01-25 07:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by none 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don believe that life is too short to hate or stop talking to anybody. It is okay for you to be mad at him. But don't stay mad forever. If you want to date because you guys act like it then talk to him about it and if he says no that he doesn't want to be with you then drop it. Drop the relationship act and remain just a friend and act only as a friend maybe that will make him realize how serious you obviously are.
2007-01-25 07:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've tried this... made the mistake of sleeping with an ex after 2 years and I tried being his friend every time it lead to him getting angry with me because I wouldnt be with him... sharing your feelings is one thing but continuing as if nothing happened is another... my suggestion be careful... though the sex might be amazing your heart is worth more then just a quick lay honey!
2007-01-25 07:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time there is a good reason you didn't work out in that situation. Try being friends with benefits for a while
2007-01-25 07:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by tokes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He like the tension of your "relationship" as it is now that you have broken up. He has no more control over you and vice versa and this makes for excitement and mystery. It also exempts him from accountability and monogamy and (snore) adult responsibility. What you decide to do as far as remaining friends (with benefits I'll bet) is totally up to you.
2007-01-25 07:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends won't work in you situation. He wants to be friends so he can keep having sex with you with no strings attached. If that's ok with you, then do it. If not, move on and don't talk to him for a while.
2007-01-25 07:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋