I have dark blonde hair, hazel eyes. I go to church 3 times a week. But I can't find a guy that will love me for who I am.
2007-01-25 07:12:47 · 64 answers · asked by Chas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hear ya sister. I am 37, not ugly, generally nice person, and I am not finding any guys who will love me for who I am. I think you just have to wait until the right guy comes along. In the meantime, it can get lonesome... so here are some of my favorite tips for those in-between times when there is no boyfriend to go out with:
(1) Develop your "friendships" with both guys and girls. Just plain friendships, nothing more than that. This can help to cure the loneliness that happens when you're not finding a date!
(2) Spend time developing your own hobbies, skills, or talents, so that when you do find someone to date, you'll be able to impress them with a new talent, like playing guitar, getting interested in watching sports so you know more sports trivia answers, taking long walks around the block so as to work those muscles and lose that 5 pounds you wanted to, acing a video game, bowling a bunch of strikes in a row, etc. Use your "downtime" to develop yourself.
(3) Learn to enjoy spending time with your family more. Why? Because, when you meet that "right guy"... you're going to probably what?... start a... yeah, you guessed it... family! So get used to the idea of enjoying "family life." Plus, your own family will not live forever. It never hurts to be enjoying the time we have left with them!
(4) Trust God. There is no substitute for faith, hope, and love for God. It is written: "Your Maker is Your Husband!" Let God Himself be your best friend, until He brings you along the earthly husband of your dreams. It is also written that if we "delight in the Lord," He will "give us the desires of our heart." So enjoy the moments of getting extra time to spend talking with the Lord... letting Him know just how much you desire that right husband to come along... and get ready for something really good to happen someday! Don't just accept the first thing that walks into your life... keep looking for the right one. Trust that God will bring him along at just the right time.
(5) Hang in there and be patient. Be encouraged. The right guy will come along.
I hope this helps somehow. All my best to you! :)
2007-01-25 07:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by prodaugh-internet 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi dark blonde,going to church three times in a week is not the solution or a way for you to find MR RIGHT,It's just the matter of time and Honestly speaking take your time and be able to relax with the search and one day God will let you come across that special someone, He may not even come from your church maybe.Remember these wards beauty lies in the hands of the beholder and not all that shines is gold,He is out there!
2007-01-25 07:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by Monde I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love yourself? Because your question sounded like a sales pitch. Love is as real as the blonde hair on your head & your hazel eyes but since you're in church that much you should already know that.
2007-01-25 07:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by chevy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wrong question. Who are you? is the right question. Once you know who you are totally then you will find someone who loves the person you are (not blonde and hazel alone).
Being in church 3 times a week does not improve your chances. When you find your total being, try match.com or if you are religious try one of the religious social sites.
2007-01-25 07:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by PeaceNow 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love has to do with more than just looks. You may experience lust at first sight, but love takes time and actually involves getting to know a person. Also, how big is your church? Are there many single men there? Is there a singles group there? Have you considered looking outside of your church?
2007-01-25 07:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by tangerine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, I have read all the answers and like a few and LMAO on the others. Yes love is real, but has so many definitions, by so many different people. Yes LOVE is real but you have to know what that word means to you, love for a parent, child, BF/GF, spouse, are they all the same type of love ? I dont know !!!
Stop looking and something will come to you if its ment to !
2007-01-25 07:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by madman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is real your either ugly or are too critical of other people
and you dont go to church to meet guys you go there to pray
you go to bars to meet guys or jopin a co-op soccer team or somthing youll get in shape and meet new guys seriously when your in church when do you ever really get to talk to anyone? the 10mins when you get there and the 10mins before you leave?
take a look at how your approching the situation not goning to get blood from a turnip not going to find a man in church...why
every guy there is either in love with the lord himself or his wife
obviously regligon is big in your life but you dont need to center your self on finding a guy in your church you can find a guy that belives in other places and even if he dosent dont mean you cant change him all women change thier men other wise everyguy you saw would be wearing sweat pants farting in public and high fiving every three seconds ....be realistic!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-25 07:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is real. There are different levels of love. I love a lot of people, but in different ways. Love is patient...1 Corinthians 13:4. When it comes to you, it will be well worth the wait.
2007-01-25 07:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by dawninky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking. Mr Right is looking for you! Love is real, sometimes hard to find, but it WILL find you when you least expect it. Don't rush it. Some people wait a lifetime for the perfect person. Beleive me, it's worth the wait. Don't lower your standards and remember, you deserve the best!!
2007-01-25 07:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you go to church three times a week.
Perhaps you have never heard this but -
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
~1st Corinthians Chapter 13 [[The Holy Bible]]
It can't get anymore real than that.
2007-01-25 07:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by S. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋