There was this guy and he asked me out and I said that I already had ad boyfriend. He said what is his name.I said Josh Thoreson. He was his Best friend and then he called him and said that I broke up with Josh when I didn't. (I think that he knew where I was going and folllowed me to where I was going.) He said told me that I didn't have one anymore so I had to agree. (He was my crush last year). We went out and he asked if I wanted to have sex. I told him no. He asked me the same question 5 minutes later. I told him no and then he asked again. I said no and I left. He called last night and asked if I wanted to go out again tonight. I said okay as long as you don't have sex with me or ask to have sex with me. I hung up and then Josh called and said did I really break up with him. I said no and we got back together. I called his friend to break the date but the line was busy. What should I do. I need answers quick!!!
2007-01-25 07:07:16 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't go near the guy! Seriously, it sounds like bad things could result if you're alone with the guy. Call him again, email, text, whatever you need to do to break the date. If you can't reach him, leave a message. I would definitely stick with your boyfriend on this one.
2007-01-25 07:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by sarai_kristi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to stay away from this other guy. He's not a friend to either of you. He's trying to manipulate you and your boyfriend. If he has to ask you several times to have sex before he finally gives up, then you know why he wants to go out with you.
How old are you? Be strong. Look for a guy who will treat you with respect. If this is your current boyfriend, good luck. If not, keep looking.
As far as this other guy, tell him no, not now, not ever. Regardless of what hapens between you and Josh, he's not the right guy for you.
2007-01-25 15:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Insurance Biz CT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask yourself, what do you want. Do you want to let this guy, who's obviously not a good friend to his so called "Best Friend", spend time with you--when you know he just wants sex? You said you would go out with him as long as he "doesn't have sex with you". That comment suggests you don't recognize your own power and right to determine whom you let close to your body.
I am not trying to be judgmental here. It just sounds like you might be letting this guy call all the shots. He's going to keep asking and asking until either you give in, which he is counting on--or he decides to take you in a more vulnerable moment. And you do sound vulnerable, whether or not you see yourself that way.
Personally, I feel it's unhealthy to be "blown about by every wind". At some point you should stand your ground, even if you once had a crush on this guy. If you know what's good for you, this situation should not be so difficult to resolve. If you like and appreciate your boyfriend, don't let his so called "best friend" hurt him by lying about a breakup.
I think you should tell this guy to stop bothering you, to stop interfering with your relationship with your boyfriend, because you are perfectly able to end the relationship when you decide it's the right thing to do for yourself...and you just haven't decided that yet.
But it sounds to me like you are torn, because this guy used to be your crush. My experience is that a guy who wants to have sex as his primary interest is not going to fall in love suddenly and want to be a good boyfriend to you.
Good luck.
2007-01-25 15:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Karibuboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First regarding the guy who pressured you. Sex was his only agenda. You did the right thing in telling him no..GOOD FOR YOU! But you probably should'nt have agreed to the second date. Hopefully it does not come down to this, but it he keeps pressing the issue you may need to get a restrinaing order.
Second, as long as the current boyfriend is treating you as you should be, stick with him. You want to let him know what was going on with his so called "Friend". He may confront him for you.
Sorry for the length.
2007-01-25 15:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by scrow_80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you didn't have sex with that guy. You shoudn't have sex with any guy on the first date, or the second, or the third, not even the fourth! Save it 'til after your married. But anyway, you should seriously find a way to break the date.
2007-01-25 15:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lulu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have never gone out with this freak in the first place. Try to get ahold of him but if not jsut go with your boyfriend. Make sure to tell your boyfriend the truth about what happened tonight before this guy tells him his version
2007-01-25 15:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by slynswope 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell Josh what the friend had done and then avoid the guy. anyone like that is just out for the sex and is a real loser.
2007-01-25 15:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break the date with the other guy. All he wanted was to get laid. That is not the kind of guy you should hang out with. And don't go anywere alone with him. For your own safety. I think that he would try to force you. Anyway be with your bf that you didn't break up with. Don't mess with this other guy he is no good. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-25 15:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by romeo3448 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you go on a date with his best friend unless you were broke up with him?
I hate to say this but this is some dumb sh*t. If you are going out with his friend he is going to find out. So either you really don't care about your bf and you are messing around because you are bored with him or you are real ditzy. Which is it?
2007-01-25 15:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jamie M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I am defiantly gonna give you a thumbs up for not having
sex but I think this 2nd boy has a one track mind and you need to be done with him......He sounds a little manipulative to and you sound way to young to be under that kind of stress better yet why dint you focus on school instead of boys so that you grow up to be a strong independent person who doesn't rely on some man to take care of and abuse you.....
2007-01-25 15:27:06 · answer #10 · answered by stegall_sherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋