If it doesn't bother you why ask?

Question

I found out I was pregnant two months ago my partner says he is not ready for that type of resonsiblity. Every time he comes ovr to see me he says when are you going to have your abortion. Then he says I don't care but I am just asking? So if it doesn't bother you why ask? Does the situation really bother him?

Answer 1

It bothers him.

He's afraid that this baby will ruin his life. I think it just shows immaturity and irresponsibility. Personally, were it my decision, I would keep a baby, even though I'm probably not in the right time of my life for it now.

If understand that sometimes abortion is neccesary.

But please, consider keeping this baby. However much you may think it will "ruin" your life, you will find yourself loving this being more than you ever thought you could and, though your life may be different, it will be happy.



Have your boyfriend listen to "For the Babies" by Damian Marley.

>Cowards play the game thing,
fathers do the brave thing,
and that's participating,
he keeps on concentrating,
there is no debating,
no running away thing,
a new life is awakening
from his ejaculating
It's in the oven baking
Takes two for the making
....<

Answer 2

He is afraid you are going to keep it and make him take responsibility. Ofcourse it really bothers him.

He is scared. Getting a girl pregnant isn't scary as long as it is a thought, when it becomes real, it is a real problem and can change a life in a second.

Let me tell you this. If you abort this baby because that is what he wants. And you do it for him, you will never be able to look at him the same. And you will think of this baby that was from time to time. And when you break up with him eventually you will you will hate him for the things he made you do and for the person he made you while you were with him.

Answer 3

Nah, he isn't bothered by it at all. I mean why would a baby that is going to cost him a healthy chunk of his income for the next 18 years and tie the two of you together for all time weigh on his mind?

Of course he cares! He wants you to have an abortion ASAP but he can't really tell you that now can he? After all, only a huge and very insensitive jerk would push a girl to make that decision. At least that's what society says.

Answer 4

I would say that it does and if he told you that he wasn't ready for that type of responsibility than you should most likely expect him to be more of an a** after the baby is born. Often times women convince themselves that the man will come around and love the baby once it is born and often times that isn't the case. So if you decide to keep the baby prepare yourself to be a single parent in case he decides to bil on you. I hate to sound cruel but I have seen this thing a million times and most of the time the women ends up alone. Lastly I want to say, don't let him pressure you into aborting your baby, if you don't want to. There are plenty of women out here raising there children alone. Good luck.

Answer 5

It must. Not knowing your age or the extent of your feelings for your partner, but I don't think much of him for suggesting an abortion, although I'm Pro-choice! Make the decision of whether your going to have the baby or not, it is YOUR choice, and stick with it. If he wasn't ready for the responsibility he should've been responsible enough to prevent it from occuring in the first place. It does take 2 to make a baby.If he wants no part of it, kick him to the curb!!!There are worse things than being a single mom.

Answer 6

Well I am not sure how you feel about him but it is obvious he doesnt give a rats a** about you or he wouldnt even ask unless you had already told him that you were going to have a abortion. but he is still being a jerk because he has no idea how hard this is for you and he should know that you may be having a change of heart and he should be more supportive of whatever decision you make.He made his choice already for himself when he unprotected sex with you and so what you do has nothing to do with him anymore.It sounds like you have alot of hard choices ahead of you but you make sure that it is YOUR choice and that it is one that you can live with for the rest of your life......If it is about money or the childs saftey then place him for adoption there are thousands of people just waiting for a wonderful person like you to give a beautiful baby a good home good luck and god bless

Answer 7

Are you wanting an abortion? Or is he wanting you to have one?
This desicion shouldnt be taken lightly, and its something you will have to live with for the rest of you life. Dont do it because it is what HE wants....HE dont have to live with it, like you do...You will have to face that everyday..if its not what you want to do. Im sure it does bother him, Im sure he does care. Having a child is a big responsibilty, if he is not ready doesnt mean that you arent ready either..You can still have the child, base it on how you feel.
Good luck, and I really wish you the best...

Answer 8

You're going to have an abortion because he's an idiot?
He does care, and so should you. Leave that baby alone and protect it, like it depends on you to.
It's too late now for him to decide he's not ready for that type of responsibilty, tell the selfish whinny baby to grow up.
If he's ready for unprotected sex, he better be ready for a few things that come along with it.

Answer 9

I think it does bother him. He should have really thought of the responsibility before having sex, guys who leave the girls are weak. It seems easier for the guy, he ultimately doesn't choose and just walks away, when it's inside the girl and she has to make a huge decision.

If this happened to me, I would NOT continue associating with him at all, not much of a friend.

Answer 10

Yes he is.But you shouldnt do it just because he's "not ready".There are other options.I mean you could be a single mother,you could put it up for adoption,anything but abortion.Even a fetus can feel pain so you are a cruel person if you do decide to have an abortion.