Should parents be able to spank little kids?

Question

Probably not daughter, hitting girls is wrong, but a son. I preferably think its imoral because its more like physical abuse to your kid. Also what if they called you some cuss word, I mean when there like 2-3..what to do what to do..

Answer 1

Parents should teach their children while they are little so society doesn't have to deal with them when they are older. I don't care how you teach your brat as long as it's effective. Spanking has proven to be effective.

Answer 2

Spanking is okay, beating is not. People need make a distinction between them, that is the problem with society we have blanket laws, this is an area that falls into that.

Tips, be consistant, don't spank for it one time and not the next, be swift, children have short memories if they don't know why they are being spanked the spanking is doing no good (child and age dependant), be fair, don't go spanking them for every little thing, spanking should be reserved as a last measure and for serious offenses.

Spanking is a swat on the hand or butt, not a punch to the face neck chest genitals etc.

Answer 3

I have heard from numerous sources that children under the age of 2 do not understand physical punishment or repercussions for their actions. Rather than punishing them for something they did, try to direct their attention to what you want them to do. It often takes some quick thinking, but it gets easier. I think if you start out with this approach when they are young, you won't face many situations where you would consider spanking. However, if when they are older and other approaches don't work, then a spanking is sometimes necessary. Many parents these days are lazy or just too tired from working too much that they use the last resort (spanking) as a form of punishment. I think that is wrong. Disciplining your children requires discipline on the part of the parents, but it's also the responsibility of the parents to do this. You have to be consistent with your children, even when it's not easy. I also believe you have to show respect for your children if you want respect in return. Children need boundaries as well as love and affection. It helps them to feel safe. The children I've seen that have a good balance of love and discipline most often are well behaved and show respect to their parents and others.

Answer 4

First of all, I spanked my kids only when it was severely warranted to teach them to never do that act again. It is NOT child abuse unless you're smacking them for every little thing and you are just p'od. If a cuss word comes out of a 2-3 yr old's mouth the best thing to do is NOT LAUGH. That's a big problem people laugh and the child has no idea there's anything wrong, just that they made people laugh so they continue to say it. You must explain that it is a bad word and we don't say that. I caught my 4 yr old one time saying "What the hell do you want?" when I called them. They learned that from neighbors mom. I didn't punish them, I explained that there are some words which are bad and that if they ever weren't sure they should ask me first if it was okay to say. That's all it took. Open communication is the best parenting skill. You can't make them afraid to come to you.

Answer 5

In the majority of cases, no. I believe there are much more effective ways to discipline. However, strong-willed or very independent buggers (like my son), may need one every once in a GREAT while. Example...I was 8 mos pregnant with our daughter (son was 15 months old), and he was bolting from me in parking lots and in stores. Most the time, he could be kept in the shopping cart until I reached the car, but some stores don't have shopping carts.

Since I had a huge belly, couldn't carry him anymore, he could outrun me in any chase and his very life was in danger in a parking lot...I had to deal with the problem immediately. Many people actually mentioned keeping him on a kid leash, which I found less humane than a simple spanking. But, I also reckoned a "swat on the butt" with a diaper on is as effective as spanking a kid in snowsuit. Anyone with half a brain knows you can't verbally reason with a toddler of that age. So, I pinched him on the shoulder while sternly telling him, "No running from mommy!". He tried this three more times that week and I responded the same and he never did it again. I gather the sting from a pinch was enough incentive to listen to his mommy (who has his best interest at heart). Although many (legislators in California?) would probably consider my pinching abusive or "corporal punishment" and put me in jail.

P.S. He NEVER had a problem pinching other kids, not once (for all those who say a kid will "monkey see, monkey do").

Answer 6

Why would it be ok to spank a son and not a daughter? Yes hitting girls or anyone is wrong, in an abusive way, but their is nothing wrong with spanking a son or a daughter.

Answer 7

Save the spankings for when they do something really bad and you want to get their attention. Also talk to them afterwords and assure them it's not them you are disappointed in but their actions. Make sure they understand what they did wrong and you have a better chance of them learning from the experience. Time outs are good. When they are little you have to start Small like 3 minutes. Again it's all in the communication. As they get older taking away privileges works great. Again communication. You want your kids to know they can always talk to you. You don't want them to be afraid of you.

Answer 8

There is a difference between beating and a spanking!! I have raised both, and they did get spanked!! Both girls and boys, and when they said a bad word, they got there mouths washed out with soap!! I would put some on my finger and put my finger in there mouth...Telling them that dirty language deserves there mouth washed, Now their adults that respect there mother,father, people and the community...they work hard, and help those that are less fortunate, I am very proud of the people that they have become, As they were growing up and even now People come up and tell me what good people they are, and How I did a good job raising them.....Even now they tell me that they deserved every spanking they got, and to this day they remember every spanking the got, I have to say that I was not angry when they were punished..and It hurt me to spanked them , but if I want them to grow up to be good citizens and respect there elders, I had to do this..

Answer 9

I think spanking is fine as long as you use only your hand and you spank only their rear end. No punching, slapping, kicking, etc., and definitely nowhere on the body other than the butt. I firmly believe that's why God gave us more padding on our rear ends. :) Also, a spanking should be warranted. You shuldn't just spank them because they won't eat dinner or they stay outside playing 2 minutes longer than they were supposed to before they came home. You spank them for doing the same thing repeatedly and they know better, or for things like playing with matches, etc.

Besides--if your child called you a bad word, where, pray tell, do you think they learned it?

Answer 10

Absolutely!! There is a huge difference between discipline in the from of a spanking versus physical abuse. If a parent is unable to tell the difference, they should probably not be spanking. I raised 5 kids, 3 boys and 2 girls and if they deliberately disobeyed, they were spanked. Re-assurance afterwards is a vital part of discipline in any form. You can look around and see what happens when we refuse to hold young ones accountable for unacceptable behavior or discipline them for it.

Answer 11

I was spanked as a child and I turned out right from it. If the child knows what they are being spanked for (and it is a quick pat on the butt), then it isn't abuse.
If you don't believe in spanking, then there are other forms of punishment like a time out. 1 minute for each year they are old.

Treat your son(s) & daughter(s) the same. You won't get the respect if they see you treating them differently.