I have a boyfriend, and I love him more than anyone else in the world. But ever since I was young, I've always looked at certain girls, especially ones i knew well, and was phisically attracted to them. I don't want to be bi, but I'm not sure what to do. Some girls I look at I think are gross, but others, like one of my friends, I think I may be attracted to.
2007-01-25 06:59:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please don't suggest 3 somes, I would never do that. The farthest I would ever go is making out, and that's only if it were JUST with her.
2007-01-25 07:11:35 · update #1
simple, find one of the girls you can't stand to look at, especially a fat one, but force yourself to talk with her. befriend her to the point where you get it on with her. after munching her carpet long enough, you'll learn that you never want to have to go thru that again
2007-01-25 07:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by wade b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, there is nothing wrong with appreciating when someone is attractive. That does not make you sexually attractive to that person. I can appreciate attractive men and attractive women, but I am in NO means bi or gay. I am straight as can be, thank you very much. I happen to love men. Once upon a time, it was shameful and disgusting to be gay or bi. Now, it is almost fashionable. Just because it is becoming more acceptable does not mean that is what is going on here if you notice an attractive girl. I mean, we females do dress for guys to notice us, but guys usually say it's the confidence we project more than the clothes or makeup we wear that makes us sexy. Yet women's magazines are filled with sexy models that we aspire to be like. When we are in a room filled with women, such as at a place where there is dancing, we notice how other women are dressed or how they look or conduct themselves, and we form opinions about them. Go into a ladies' room at such a place and see the women primping in there. Some will look you up and down in a scrutinizing fashion, while others may compliment you on your lipstick color or your outfit. It's NORMAL to look at and notice people of both sexes. It's just our normal human curiosity. We are wired to appreciate what is visually appealling. That does not mean we are feeling an attraction to that person. It's like looking at a beautiful sunset - you go, wow! Now, if you are thinking of having sex with that person you find attractive, then you might think about that "bi" thing a little bit more. Still, today the media pushes gay and lesbian relationships down our throats and things we would never even think about before are now thoughts that pop into our heads. All I am saying is it doesn't mean you are bi or lesbian just because you find girls attractive. I love men and find them very attractive. I can appreciate a sexy, handsome man when I see one. That does not mean I would ever want to have sex with him or cheat on my fiance. Far from it. To me, nobody compares to him. Appreciating someone attractive does not make you necessarily sexually attracted to them.
2007-01-25 15:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl-girl relationships seem to be more acceptable these days. I've always thought it's because that, in our society, women are the "pretty" ones. Attractive is attractive.
First, talk to your boyfriend. If you love him, you should be able to tell him how you're feeling. Unless either of you has moral objections, you may want to go further.
If he's open to it and supportive, try placing a "bi-curious" ad on an adult relationships website or in a local "alternative" paper. I would avoid approaching your friends for now, in case you decide you're not really bi. Keep an open mind, and see what happens.
2007-01-25 15:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by gamblin man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right, for starters I am going though this too and I spoke to my mum about it, so one, if you have an older individual in your life who you would feel comfortable speaking with, talk to them.
When I spoke to my mum she told me that roughly 80% of England's population are gay/bi and some don't even know it or find out until a later date.
Many men and woman look at the same sex in a sexual or attracted way, everyday even.
It's a natural thing. If you think you are bi, just go with it. It's a gift. Best of both worlds. =]
2007-01-25 15:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by - L'Ecrivain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not be bi. You won't know until you try and experience to be sure. Most girls at least kiss another girl in college experiences. You might find that you like it and it may just help you decides that you never want to experience it again. But you won't really know until you chance it.
2007-01-25 15:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We critique females. It's normal. There are woman that I find attractive too and ones that are gross. Just like guys. Don't let it weigh you down.
2007-01-25 15:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you call a gay woman dinosaur? A Lickalotapuss. Give it a shot, have a 3-some, get done there and have a Taste girl!!!
2007-01-25 15:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by matt5166 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL IF YOU HAVE TO ASK AND YOU THINK THEN YOU MUST MOST CERTAINLY BE BI....AND IF YOU ARE BI THEN YOU ARE GAY EITHER WAY YOU LOOK AT IT AND IF YOU LOVED YOUR BOYFRIEND THEN THOSE THOUGHTS WOULDNT COME INTO MIND.. YOU ARE A WOMAN MEANT TO BE WITH A MAN.... JUST KEEP IT THAT WAY ITS MUCH EASIER...
2007-01-25 16:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by MADNESS!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, if you truely are bi, you can't just ignore it, you would never be happy. If it is just a phase and you are with a girl, you may regret it.
2007-01-25 15:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever tried being with a girl? If not and you want to, let me know
2007-01-25 15:07:42 · answer #10 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋