My son is 2 and driving me crazy. I feel like I am getting sowound up in my daughter to come that I am actually getting resentful for my son. Why am I feeling this way? Is it natural? Yesterday my husband and I argued and I was thinking (go to hell and take our son with you). Why would I feel liek this to my son whom I love? I just dont feel like doing stuff we used to do. ANd i feel like I am always droping him off somewhere. I am happy he goes to preschool, or day care at the gym or when my husband spends 1 on 1 time with him..but before this regnancy I always missed him so much when he would be away from me and always includedmyself with him and my husband. I feel guilty and like a bad mom. is it because I am tired and pregnant? I love my son but I ffel a lttle burdened by him, i guess you could say. HELP!!!!!!!
PS I should mention that I struggle with depression/bi polar disorder and currenty I am on low dose meds to control this during pregnancy. It seems to be under control
2007-01-25 06:56:16 · 8 answers · asked by Beautifulme 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think you answered your own question. This sounds like a combination of your disorders, low dose meds, and pregnancy.
2007-01-25 07:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's pregnacy, hormones and all that crazy stuff. First of all, two-year-olds are MEANT to drive you crazy. It's in the contract. He is not malicious, he doesn't mean to. And you are the greatest thing in the world to him. Second, pregnancy is pretty hard. And the first little bit of your daughter's life is going to be rough. The best advice...be tough and be a good mom. And finally, meds are good (I had UGLY post-partem with my baby boy) but meds need help. Get ahold of someone you can talk to, a counselor, social worker, someone with good experience counseling post-partem women. And then be honest with that person because then you're being honest with yourself. You are not going to hell. You are just at a hard time. You are going to be okay. Your kids and husband love you and need you. And you need you too! And you don't have to go alone.
2007-01-25 07:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a point it's kind of normal. You just need to make sure you don't go over board with it. To make sure and keep your bond with him just try to set aside an hour a day where just you two can go and do something fun. Go somewhere that he won't get into a whole bunch of stuff that he's not supposed too. (His room for example) and just play. At two years old he probably doesn't want you around all the time anyway. Just make sure you spend a little time with him and you'll both feel better.
2007-01-25 08:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HUGS!!! Moms feel that way about their 2 year olds who aren't pregnant...lol! It sounds like you are feeling very overwhelmed right now...but we know you really do love your little guy (and no one loves mommy like a little boy!
Adding the 2nd child is a BIG change...but your heart will just melt when you see how much your baby girl ADORES her big brother.
I would talk to your doctor about these feelings and finding a support group might help you out...you might even try ivillage online - there are some fantastic groups of ladies on there and then you wouldn't feel so alone.
Once you have more than one child...the "guilty mom" syndrome just keeps on attaching...lol...just know you are a great mom! And try not to let you current feelings effect how you are caring for your little man.
2007-01-25 07:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by bgmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think once you have the baby and you can take a larger dose of meds you will think differently. i think your anxious about the baby, plus you have a 2year old and a husband and hormones are involved. try to tell yourself that you will feel differently about him after the baby is born and you are settled. until then let family babysit so you can have extra time to deal with your emotions and the new baby. there is nothing wrong with people that have kids getting a little break here and there from them, it makes you appreciate them more. right now you need breaks from him so you can deal with everything. and trust me i know everything is 10 times worse when you are depressed and bi polar plus your tired.. because he is a boy let his dad take up a lot of time with him and deal with him. he needs you too. but when you feel like you can handle everything.so keep telling yourself everything will change and be back to normal once the baby is born and your meds get straightened out. plus we all go through stages with our kids, they change, they grow up, they become their own person. my son is 18 now and i can remember there were times and phases that we didn't like each other, but we both grew out of it!!!!!!!good luck!
2007-01-25 07:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by bbwg_hbic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also think you have answered your own question. You should ask your doctor about this when you go for your next check up and see if you need to change the dose of your meds.
2007-01-25 07:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have and 12 year old son and a 1 yr old daughter and sometimes i start to feel like im favoriting her and i have to catch myself because i know its not healthy and not good for either kid.
2007-01-25 07:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by Kristi A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell your husband your feeling and that's kinda scary that you are feeling that way towards your son that couldn't be good talk to someone before you hurt your child
2007-01-25 07:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by kailey0819 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋