was with my wife for ten years and she walked out on me. leaving me with a five and a seven year old. now i sit in most nights alone when the kids are in bed. so i dont get to go out and meet people. if i did go out i would probably be to shy and quiet to speak to anyone. the life of a single parant hey. kids in the day and alone at night. is there any hope for me? x
2007-01-25 06:34:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes there is hope. It may seem a bit grim now, but honestly you will meet a lovely lady when you least expect it. These things happen in mysterious ways. You could always try getting out once a fortnight or something if you get a babysitter in, just to boost your morale and esteem. Good luck
2007-01-25 06:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always hope. Don't look at you being a single parent as a bad thing, see it as a chance to show your caring side.
Just don't let you wanting to find someone interfere with you children.
Like someone else has already suggested, try taking you kids to classes, swimming anything that gets you all out of the house.
If you think that you would be shy and quiet when it comes to speaking to someone, taking you kids out and meeting people through them will allow you to use them as a bit of a shield if you are feeling scared are unsure.
Hope everything works out, and always remember your kids come first.
2007-01-25 15:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by Iccle bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is hope.
Things may seem bleak at the moment but they wil pick up I promise you. If you keep an open mind and 'enable' things to happen you will eventually start to rebuild your social life.
pPople will be telling you to 'join' clubs etc and thats OK up to a point provided you are doing something you want to do and enjoy rather than as a means to 'meeting' the next love. Try to get hold of a regular baby sitter so you can do an evening class or go to the gym or something. The way to meet new peole is to do things on a regular basis. eventual the people you meet there will become firm friends and through them you will get invites to other things, before you know it you will be fighting them off!!!!
good luck
2007-01-25 14:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by ragdoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, there's tons of hope for you. Many women love men who are responsable caretakers.
Your only barrier is meeting suitable women. Go onto yahoo singles or adultfriendfinder and set up some dates. Get a babysitter, and eventually it WILL happen. Just make the most out of the time that you spend together, and eventually formalized dates will become time to just hang out together without all the pressure.
Have some confidence man. You can't be that undesirable if you're taking care of kids.... kids are freaking magnets for mates.
Besides, there's tons of women in your situation that would love to make a brady bunch thing happen.
2007-01-25 14:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in the MA area there is a thing called lunch dates it sets you up on a date for lunch and at least if nothing else you can have a nice conversation with someone.. that is a start.Yeah there is hope! Look for some single parent groups/play groups and maybe you'll find a friend or more!
2007-01-25 14:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, there is always hope. I am a single mother of three children and I am also alone. My last date was three years ago, but I have learned to move on. I am not looking for anyone just living day by day and improving my life. For you, don't give up, anything is possible.
I can give you this advice. Don't look for women in bars=drunks
don't look for women on on line dating services=desperate, lonely women looking for sugar daddy
if your looking for a single lovely lady, try the supermarket =family minded.
good luck
2007-01-25 14:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by sugar31571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes; start taking the children swimming on a regualr basis; take them to the libraries and the museums. Go to the park with them.. eventually you will find some one .. The plus side is that while you are waing to meet someone they will have a great time with their dad that they wll always remembre. And when you do meet someone carry on doing all those things anyway; together with the kids.
2007-01-25 14:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by D B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
life does not have to end because you are a single parent, i am in that bracket and have been alone for many years now, but it gets better, i work, i go out, i meet new people, life is out there for everyone its just up to you what you do with it, and if you continue to stop in you will always be a single parent, just don't waiting to long or you can get into a rut
2007-01-25 15:20:50 · answer #8 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will meet someone when you are least expecting it. However, you do need to maximise your chances. My mother left my dad alone with me and my brother when we were babies - he joined a group called Gingerbread - an organisation for single parents to meet, go to www.gingerbread.org.uk. There, he met my stepmother - they have been married for 33 years!! Give it a go - good luck!
2007-01-25 14:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by Bexs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your wife leaving. You sound like a lovely guy, I'm sure there's a great woman for you just around the corner. Good luck!
2007-01-25 14:45:38 · answer #10 · answered by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋