He claims he hadn't cheated on me since we weren't together. (He had broken up with me, OVER THE PHONE, during vacation.) When he came back, I found out that he had made out with some girl from my school. Him and I are back together, but of course, I'm still iffy about a lot of things. What's your opinion on the matter? Trust him, or no?
2007-01-25 06:28:39 · 26 answers · asked by cree siempre 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-25 06:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey if you are iffy as you say , you will not be able to trust him again. Your question says it all. And you don't need to worry everytime you are not together what he is doing. That is not healthy for you. And it is alot of stress and headaches for you. I have a brother-in-law for example: he has been married 4 times in 6 years. He says to all of them that this time is different he is in love and will never cheat again, (ha what a crock!!!). He gets bored to easy with the same girl even if he is married to them, then starts cheating on them as soon as a girl pays him any attention. And usually the next girl is the one he cheated on the wife with. Then they become the next wife. So once a man cheats he will do it over and over, sorry to say and you are better than that and deserve better than that. Think of your self-esteem. You deserve better!! Don't stay with him....
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-25 06:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by squeaky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a bit of a tricky situation. I recall having been in that situation once, with me being in your boyfriend's shoes. Technically, he is a cheater, because it sounds to me like he broke up with you over the break to get with someone else temporarily, of course, so you couldn't say he was cheating on you. But now that you two are back together, it does seem like cheating because it was technically just a break that he was taking from you to try out someone different. I say be cautious with him.
2007-01-25 06:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by Licia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should trust him for the simple fact you two weren't together when that happened. And if you weren't together then it isn't cheating your only concern should be what he does when you 2 are a couple.
2007-01-25 06:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by wet t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. He is not ready to be commited to anyone and that sounds what you are looking for. Cut him loose, You can do much better. Trust is a thing earned once broken is very very hard to get back.
2007-01-25 06:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never stay in a relationship with someone that you cannot trust. Life is too short to waste time worrying about if someone is cheating on you or not. Move on with your life and find someone who will be faithful to you and treat you with the dignity and respect that you so deserve.
2007-01-25 06:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course you can not trust him.. you will always have thoughts in your head when he is out and you are not there.... I cheated on my boyfriend (for that I am very sorry) he never forgave me or trusted me... Of course we are not together now... i think that you should tell him how you feel and follow your heart
2007-01-25 06:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by spagirl23188 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with April. I've cheated before I'd never do it again. I'm crazy about the man I'm with and screwed up big time. I'd never do it again but at the same time I cant take it back. Just trust him is all you can do.
2007-01-25 06:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by jessie_ann2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is all gone. He has shown you great disrespect, move on! He sounds like a huge loser and coward. What happens the next time you go on vacation? And who was the girl anyhow?
2007-01-25 06:36:50 · answer #9 · answered by Betty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is he broke up with you so he could sleep with this girl and not feel guilty, after all he wouldn't have lied to her if he told her that he was available. I would say that if he did it once he will most likely do it again. This is not always the case, but it is the most likely.
2007-01-25 06:35:52 · answer #10 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater !!! Lose him girl or you are just in for more heartaches later.
2007-01-25 06:33:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋