why do men or boys seem the need 2 want 2 control women in a relationships?

Answer 1

Makes them feel like an alpha male...... If they are not in control then they think the woman is controlling them which is not usually socially acceptable. Alot of guys today are willing to go 50/50 on it though.

Answer 2

Hey Tiff ran across this question hmm it really depends..... some (not all) control women think about it. U have those guys that R nice from the start an they meet a woman (Girl) whose either use to a real demanding guy or those whom like 2 test a guy who 2 see how far they can push him then they they break it off with that guy (after being ran over from his niceness if u will) he starts to be more controling sometimes but the thing is as u put Men or Boys it is the same way 4 Women & Girls those Girls i gave an example of above meets a boy with man matureness or vice versa (in defense of that girl mention above in the example) an the play a game with the more mature minded person which leads to break up if a person gets N2 another relationship (& they R mature minded) the wont let the past get 2 them 2 where they bring that 2 U unless they see it from U an instead of getting ran over from how they feel 4 U (love makes U stay when U know U should go) they tend 2 be controlling at times. Basically Tiffany it depends on his mind mentality if his mind isn't right an U want a guy who gives U equality (hmmm is that even a word? lol) well u know what i mean 2 way street he's out there 4 U it may that 1 guy U say 2 yourself he seem nice but he just not my style (think about this....... if your style u've found to be hurting u emotionally or physically (4 those of u reading this passage women & men yes I said it..... men too who get hurt 2 by either way men jus keep it closed up & discretly tucked away) then maybe it's time 4 a new style the only thing is alot of us R afraid of the unknown the "not used 2" if u will it may take alot to do 4 some because it will be totally new u dont know what to expect regardless of what color we R or how others feel remember it's your happiness not the people around cause those that may say what they say when they rest there heads at night wont be worried about your happiness just u an that other person is all it shud matter 2 .... hope I was able to give some insight I know I went else where but it's something that I truely believe an some people out here feel the same way but dont express or show it
anyway hope I was able to help

Answer 3

This is a very complex question that probably has to do with hundreds and hundreds of years of patriarchy, starting back in the caves and bringing us right to this present moment. Men want to control women in relationships because women have the vaginas. That's it. You have the vagina, and we want to get in the vagina, and/or at least control the vagina so that we can limit the amount of power you achieve. This is why religion was created: to control all the vaginas. Women really control everything, on some level, and the only way men can control women is by controlling sex. You have all the power, and we men are intimidated by that; it makes us insecure. And not all men need this control, so-- if I may risk hurting your feelings--you may want to analyze a little more closely your man-choosing process, because not all of us are so blatantly our of control all the time, just most, most of the time.

Answer 4

SOME men or boys want to be 'in control' because they are really 'afraid' of what could happen to them when they are not 'in control.' The same thing happens with some women ... but you are VERY WRONG when you say 'men or boys' without the SOME, because you are implying that ALL men and boys seem to feel the need to control, and that is NOT TRUE. There are also some men or boys who want to be 'in control' because they are dating women who seem to want to have the man 'in control' ... and some who even 'need to control' by being submissive (the submissive is actually the one who is in control, by the way) ...

Answer 5

Not all men, and women should stay clear of very over-controlling men. Some women do like a man to be in charge and with some or all control, and even some men like to be controlled, but I don't think its a good policy to have anyone in total control. But now a days, things are changing (drastically) and I think not for the best????

Answer 6

Men are self-centered and our instincts and history have taught us that the world revolves around the man because he is a natural leader and has been for the most part. Therefore it's not so much that men "control" women, rather it's the fact that men "lead" and expect women to support and follow.

Answer 7

Funny, I have always wondered why women want to control men in a relationship.

Answer 8

Well, if he is trying to control it is because he is insecure. If he is trying to help, he just my be trying to be protective. The question is what are they doing? Men like to feel needed, you have make them feel like they are in control, even when they are not. The fact is women are a more controlling and manipulative than men.

Answer 9

The men who act that way usually do so because they were raised to see women as property, which they aren't, and the men want to have power in the relationship often because they don't really know how to treat a woman.

Answer 10

There is a huge difference between taking charge and being controlling. Guys are wired to take charge. We females are wired to let them. If a guy can take charge while still treating the girl with love and respect and valuing her feelings and opinions and being willing to compromise, then there is nothing wrong with that. If on the other hand the guy insists on having his own way, despite the feelings of the girl/woman, and he has to take charge of every situation and feels threatened if the girl/woman tries to take charge now and then, then I would say to stay away from a guy like that. They are showing a controlling side of their personality and they can turn into abusers. I have been there, done that.