Become her confidant
One of the first things you need to do is make a place for yourself her life; you can’t just be the guy she works with or her neighbor. Find common ground and establish some flirtation without directly coming on to her.
Without being too obvious, steer the conversation toward problems in her relationship. But bear in mind that you can only chip at cracks that are already there -- get her to reveal their problems rather than listing what you think are his major flaws.
The main sources of arguments are money, sex, work, housework, and children -- although if you want to break up a family rather than just a couple, maybe you should think long and hard about the whole affair. Bring up one of these and there will surely be something that she is desperate to vent about.
These problems may seem minor, but they are often indications of deeper, more serious issues. A small itch about housework could really be about respect, money arguments could be about power and responsibility in the relationship, and sex issues might have to do with love and the need for intimacy.
Keep subtly bringing these to the surface to remind her just how unhappy she is. Mix in your concern about other issues that are seemingly unrelated to him -- this will build up your intimacy.
However, avoid finding yourself in the friend zone. Keep the flirting going and make sure that you are a man in her mind, not another girlfriend she can moan to about men.
Play devil’s advocate
Once she has started to complain about every bad part of her relationship, don't just sit there agreeing with her or attacking him -- this will only get her to defend him and concentrate on his good points. At worst, she could develop a ”persecution syndrome,” which could lead her to think that everyone is against her doomed relationship and make her do anything to save it.
Instead, defend his actions while distancing yourself from his behavior. Say, “Not every guy would do that, but maybe he thinks...” By doing this, you will push her to focus on his bad points. To win the “argument,” she will have to convince you -- and herself -- that her boyfriend is no good for her.
When she's spent enough time “convincing” you that he is bad for her, agree with her. Tell her you had no idea her partner was that bad. This way, she will have heard nothing good about him -- save for a few deliberately lame excuses from you -- and will leave thinking she's right and he's wrong.
An added bonus is that this tactic covers your tracks nicely. If you're accused of breaking them up, she will defend you and tell everyone how you tried to keep them together.
Be the man she wants
By now, you know the kind of guy she wants to be with, and you have planted doubts in her mind that her boyfriend is that man. It is time to step into the void that has been created.
Gradually start acting like her ideal boyfriend. If she craves attention from him, drop casual lines like, “I was watching this show and I thought of you...” If he's not the giving type, pick up thoughtful yet non-threatening gifts for her. As for sexual problems, increasing flirtation will get her pulse and mind racing over you.
In short, progressively create the feeling that the two of you are already in a relationship. Cultivate inside jokes, ask about her family and suggest one-on-one activities.
Make her jealous
If you really want to make sure you don’t end up in the permanent friend zone after becoming her confidant, you must make her jealous of the other women in your life. Don't be entirely at her beck and call -- keep dating other women. Let her know this, especially if the women you are dating are the sort she doesn't get along with. She will wonder why you'd rather be with them than with her.
Of course, don't take it too far: She has to know that there is still a chance of something happening between the two of you. The aim is to get her to compete for your attention -- not her boyfriend’s.
Use her friends
It is sometimes possible to attack on two fronts and get her friends to help you with your dirty work. However, there is always the risk that someone will figure out what you are up to.
Aim for them to think favorably of you. If they also don’t like him, they might start to ask her why she's with “that loser” when she could have you instead.
Spread rumors
Your absolute last resort -- and the lowest thing you can do -- is to spread rumors about him. If you are caught doing this, you will watch all your hard work fall apart as she runs back to him.
But rumors can be devastatingly effective. A whisper campaign about loyalty and commitment will create distrust and arguments in the strongest of relationships. Strengthen this by tailoring it to the circumstances and basing it on a specific issue or person that is causing problems.
It is best if you can distance yourself from the rumor. Drop hints around known gossips, then wait for them to put the pieces together and start whispering about it.
so you got the girl
Of course, once you have her, how can you be sure you'll be happy? And at the back of your mind, you'll know that she fell for it once, so why wouldn’t she fall for it again? These are the factors you have to consider before you embark on this treacherous journey.
Good luck, ya jerk.
2007-01-25 06:23:31
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answered by clee918 2
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I have an extraordinarily shut pal who is combined (her father is blonde and blue eyed, and her mother is black (slightly paler), and he or she consistently will get labeled as white. Actually, i'm a Russian/German/Irish/English (Jewish) lady, and he or she appears whiter than me. Of course, i'm somewhat fairer skinned, however with her gold hair, blue eyes, and reasonable-medium tone skin, she looks very Caucasian. She expressed how she'll be somewhere and individuals will make a comment about people of different races, and they do not know she's black. I suppose she looks style of Phoebe Tonkins in she have been blonde. I, alternatively, have hazel brown eyes, brown hair, and reasonable dermis, and humans typically feel i'm French or Italian (in accordance to a couple persons look like Princess Belle it appears). In the event you saw us next to one another, you could think I was once a foreign exchange pupil, and she was the superb American woman. I have 2 other buddies, who're also blended (one is African-American/Guatemalan, and the opposite is African-American/jap). They each look more African American, though you can see a little bit bit of their different ethnicity.
2016-08-10 13:41:37
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answered by capoccia 4
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Way to go giving guys a bad name! You are asking for advise on ruining other peoples lives. Are we a little selfish?
Why should she be with you?
You have given no details on why she should leave this other guy or how you would be better for her.
Why not find a girl that is not taken or be this girls friend and wait and see if her current relationship fails on it's own?
2007-01-25 06:24:19
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answered by Mike 1
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why would you want to do that?
if you can take a woman from another man why would you want her??
The next guy that comes along and does what you did will take her from you, why would you want to be with someone that will runout on you.
It has been my experience that guys that go after taken women or married women are guys that cant get a single woman because they don’t have what it takes to get a date and it always comes back to them 10 times worse. so good luck in getting her LOL.
2007-01-25 06:20:04
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answered by Male_42_us 2
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I even have an extraordinarily close chum who's blended (her father is blonde and blue eyed, and her mom is black (a touch paler), and he or she consistently gets categorised as white. in actuality, i'm a Russian/German/Irish/English (Jewish) woman, and he or she seems whiter than me. of path, i'm a touch fairer skinned, yet along with her gold hair, blue eyes, and common-medium tone pores and skin, she seems very Caucasian. She expressed how she'll be someplace and human beings will make a remark approximately human beings of alternative races, and that they do no longer comprehend she's black. i assume she seems style of Phoebe Tonkins in she have been blonde. I, on the different hand, have hazel brown eyes, brown hair, and common pores and skin, and human beings oftentimes think of i'm French or Italian (in accordance to 3 human beings look as though Princess Belle curiously). in case you observed us next to a minimum of one yet another, you will possibly think of i grow to be a forex student, and he or she grow to be the suited American woman. I even have 2 different buddies, who're additionally blended (one is African-American/Guatemalan, and the different is African-American/eastern). They the two look extra African American, nevertheless you will discover slightly of their different ethnicity.
2016-09-27 23:39:30
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answered by ? 4
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No wonder the world is in such a mess these days - grow up and find a SINGLE "girl" and leave the ones that are attached alone.
2007-01-25 06:18:44
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answered by lunasage 6
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honestly, if you can take a girl away from her boyfriend, it shows the same may happen to you. It is not recommended and is really against the guy code to mess around with someone else's relationship.
2007-01-25 06:18:33
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answered by Rob S. 2
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If a woman loves the man she is with you don't stand a chance and you are a fool if you try.
2007-01-25 06:19:50
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answered by Anonymous
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unless, the girl is unhappy with the boy that she is with, you shouldn't even try. youi will get yourself in a big mess. yoiu son't want the other boy's heart broken. maybe they love each other. you shouldn't mess with destiny.
2007-01-25 06:20:05
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answered by can'ywait2getoutofhere 3
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If they are married or engaged don't even think about it. If not, then do what comes naturally. If you can't figure that out then you have no business pursuing her.
2007-01-25 06:20:40
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answered by Anonymous
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