It is only with her that I lose patience with. I've decided to live away from her although this is not acceptable in our culture (a woman should live with her parents until she marries). But I think she's better off without me and vise versa. I just hate her so much. Some may think its childish but it has gone beyond that. I hate her I know I can kill her.
2007-01-25 06:10:39 · 10 answers · asked by Stefani 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sweeti,this is going to make you sick.You should seek out a counselor as fast as you can.I'm NOT trying to tell you to stop your feeling's towards your mother,but to carry these feeling around with you could cause real harm in your life.Get help to find out what's underneath this.Don't let it take control of your life.It already has,or why did you ask this question.help is out there.Get it now.
2007-01-25 06:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by Wishee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't hate her, and I know because you are willing to go against your cultures beleifs to see that her needs are met. You sound more like you have had some very bad stress in your life, and even like you may have a depression issue. I can detect these things in people because I suffered from clincal depression for years, and would be violent at times, just to my husband, I did not hit him, but I did a lot of yelling and I wanted to hit him. I went to counseling and got on proper medication for a while, and as I worked thriough my issues they whened me off the medication.
If you fear for her safty, you don't hate her either. You are just angry at something. Wether it be her, or the world or things going on in your life. I don't know where you are at and what you beleive but it might do you some good to get some medical help.
2007-01-25 09:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you state "I hate her I know I can kill her" then you need to get some mental help and soon. You sound like a sociopath, dear. This is your mom. Not some random person. And if you have thoughts about killing the person that brought you into this world, I would SERIOUSLY SERIOUSLY consider getting some help if I were you. You could end up locked up behind bars for the rest of your life. And regretting you ever thought that. People like you scare me.
2007-01-25 06:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fear for your mental health my friend.
If the anger you feel towards your mother is that severe, then perhaps it is best that you are no longer near her.
Even if culture dictates that the daughter remain with the parents till marriage, it is always wise to ignore that dictate if it means you would harm another.
You need to find out what the anger at her is caused by though and then work through it. Then perhaps one day you will be able to have a better relationship with her that wont get your anger involved.
I will pray that you succeed in your endeaver to help yourself.
2007-01-25 06:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's best for you to stay away from your mother. You have so much anger and resentment. Get help, go to counseling to find out where all this anger is coming from. Once you know why, you can try to work on your relationship, but not in the same house. Good Luck!
2007-01-25 06:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will not judge you for what you are feeling towards your mother but "hate" is such an intense emotion to feel for someone who has brought you to life. You have not elaborated on how she is with you so giving you advise is quite "one-sided." Does she physically abuse you as a person for you to abhor her?
For all you know, her intentions may be for your best but it's you who should change your "perspective" in life. If you are a teener then this "angst" may be a cause of hormones going haywire. Please try to calm down and reflect on your problems because it seems deep-rooted and frightening. Sought her out and talk like civilized adults, as much as possible with the presence of other family members if in case you turn violent.
Please bear in mind too that no matter what you do, she is and will be your mother. You may not realize her importance right now but someday you will when you have children of your own. Try to be open-minded and place yourself in her shoes. Ask how she feels too.
Lastly, pray my child...
2007-01-25 07:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by msculit 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's best you two are seperated for awhile. Is there a family member you can stay with? Just rest assured, all teenage girls usually go through this and when they get older they learn to understand why mom tells you to do things and to not do things. Just remember once she is gone you will never be able to change how she remembers you.
2007-01-25 06:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot understand what could have happened to make you hate your mother so much.,she only gave you birth and took care of you when you could not take care of yourself.But I agree you need to move far far away,and since you are so far more and far beyond hate for your MOM, it might be best for your mOM if you leave and never come back ,since you have the urge to KILL....
2007-01-25 09:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think you hate her but deep down she gave you life. Just think if it wasn't her you wouldn't be here. Talk to her tell her you miss her you want her you need her. And when you do start arguing just walk away and forget it.
2007-01-25 06:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by Haley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have one day where you should tell you mom that you guys need to talk that you want all the hating to stop if she denies that chat the you don't have to be mad you at lest are gonna have your conscious clean
2007-01-25 06:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by Hummm... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋