First it was does he like me and then what do I get him for valentines day and finally
Do I call him everyday? If I do, I feel like I am taking control of his life. He called me last night and he was like "I just wanted to say hey" and I was like awwwww. He's so sweet. I have never had a boyfriend before but he has had two girlfriends. I am15 and he is 16. anyways I don't know what to do. I don't want to suffocate him but I don't want to be distant either. argh.
Also, whenever we talk on the phone there are a lot of silences cause we both never know what to say. I would much rather talk on AIM. Thanks a lot to anyone who answers.
2007-01-25 05:44:28 · 12 answers · asked by Kali 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you don't call him every night. He's not your husband. When you chase after boys, call them, give them gifts, and keep on them, you take away the joy they get out of courtship. Keep your phone calls short and sweet, Don't try to keep him on the phone- say whatever, then get off the phone. Leave him wanting more of you, not sick and tired of you.
2007-01-25 05:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay at 15
expectaions are a little higher in girls than boys.
boys don't get it dear. They need to be told what is expected.
You need to set the boundries and make it all happen.
Because of the silance- it means you don't have "Common experinces" so make some. Go to basketball or baseball games or read a book, share a project or somthing. Its life experience.
That's all.
Talking once a day is good outside of seeing each other, if you at in the same school. At that age- I talked to mine twice a day. I called to wake him up in the morning and i was the last voice he heard at night on the phone.. If only for 20-30 seconds.
I often spoke longer at night. I asked him about his day, what's new? What's the plan for the weekend?
I would go to the mall and walk together and just hold hands and talk about things you see. Like do you like that shirt, color or what's your favorite icecream, chinese food in center courst-who gave it to you? What's the weirdest thing you have ever seen here.... did you go sit on Santa's lap. its a huge opportunity to get to know each other.
2007-01-25 13:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AWWW you guys are sooo cute. I would take turns about calling. If he called you last night, you should call him next. and vise verse. Tell him your concerns, only the successfully relationships are based on open communication. But take it slow, and first be friends then more. As for not knowing what to say, find out what his interests are and ask him about him. That should get the ball rolling. Remember that the beginning of a relationship is the time to get to know each other. Have fun!
2007-01-25 13:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by cookie4me_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it's weird to talk on the phone talk on aim. It's ok to call everyday just don't call like very hour on the hour or something like that keep it tasteful. I call my honey twice a day when I get up and when he gets up to go to work. (he works out of town.) and then we text through out the night before I go to bed.
But I also do see him for weeks or months at a time he's been gone for 2 weeks so far this trip
2007-01-25 13:48:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oops that some infatuation between the two of you, how about talking about wach other' s good points like u can tell him that the smile he gave u the other day was different and how u felt about it and when will u get that smile back again u know that should provoke him enough to start off, but hey dont get too ahead of yourselves..
2007-01-25 13:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm call him once for everytime he calls you, thats a rule of thumb a guy once told me. if you call him and he never calls you back thats a sign that he doesnt want to talk on the phone. just keep talking to him on the phone and on AIM. invite him to do something. i wouldnt buy him anything unless you two are actually dating. you dont want to seem creepy. but make sure you wish him a happy V day anyway.
2007-01-25 13:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by amana5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhh yes young love. i really wouldnt call him every day, maybe every three days. do you seee him in school all the time? if so then youve already talked alot, if not then why dont you suggest the AIM way. i know i find it easier to talk through writing, but sometimes like what i said above to talk in person is find. dont stress yourself out over this it will begin to show, you really dont want that. you could just come out and ask him iwhat he would like to do , talk daily or off and on.
2007-01-25 13:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by crystal b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say never ever suffocate a guy that is a good way to loose him. Secondly, ask him if he would rather AIM? That way you know what he is thinking, maybe he does better on there also.
2007-01-25 13:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by LadyL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, just relax. If you have nothing to say, just express how you feel, talk about what happened in your day. You're 15, you'll probably have the chance to have many more boyfriends before its all set and done.
2007-01-25 13:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww i wish i was 16 again! i dont think calling everyday is smothering him, after all he is your boyfriend! :)
2007-01-25 13:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋