Okay I'm 18 and I've met this wonderful girl (17) I really like her we've been together 3 months and we have really grown attached to each other. Should I be worried if she is already asking me about love, children, and marriage?
2007-01-25 05:37:07 · 24 answers · asked by Tone_Loc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well worried no it's just normal girl thing to do imagine i guess
but take it slow you two are still young and have plenty of time let her know you want the best for her and want to wait till you have a good job so you can support her and so that she can have one for herself as well also understand that she is young and that sometimes those things will come to her head it's normal for a girl her age to day dream like that
And it's a good thing that you too are attached to each other but keep it healthy
and about her questions just answer them honestly and she will be fine but be kind OK
well good luck .
2007-01-25 05:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by rm4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 18(26 NOW) I was not thinking about no marriage and kids....more like college, traveling and having fun....one tip I will give you is if you are having sex with this chick please use some protection(CONDOM)! Some girls will try to trap a man with their dreams of marriage and kids...that takes a mature mind and a lot of work as well..you both are not ready for that ...and well since she is talking about that now then I would keep things safe..which you should do reguardless with whomever you are with!LOL...but you guys are too young to be talking about marriage/kids....and you should tell her that..its not that you may not think of her like that but you both have plenty of time for that..enjoy each other and being together making good memories...as far as love...well she might be your first love..now there is nothing wrong with that..love is good for the heart! Be safe and enjoy each other! AND TAKE YOUR TIME!
2007-01-25 05:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Mia-Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women mature alot faster than men (sorry, but true), so her interest in a commited relationship is quite normal. Gently remind her how young you are, and that as you BOTH age, your career goals, family goals and other values might and most likely will change.
However if you seriously think you might be ready for it, tell her to let you guys make it to your year anniversary before taking it as far as children and marriage, that way it gives you both time to think, and you a way out if you find you truely do not want to spend your life with this young woman.
Remember, you will probably be going to collge, and unless you two set it up so you both go to the same college, it will most likely be seperate college's. You don't want to end up breaking her heart by cheating on her while there....
give it time, and thought, a commitment like this is for life, even if you only stay together for a year, that is a year you will never get back.
2007-01-25 05:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sapphire 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, be worried...
17 years old is much too young to be concerned about marriage and children. Tell her , you will be opened to the idea of marriage and children after you have finished College and are settled in a career that will allow you these pleasures.
2007-01-25 05:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you should be worried. She can't force you into anything. But I would definitely let her know that talk like this scares you. That you are young and just want to enjoy your relationship the way it is now without complicating it with kids, marriage etc. If that is in your future, you still have plenty of time to discover that and feel good about making those decisions when the time is right.
2007-01-25 05:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by kayaress 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this kind of talk causes you to feel uncomfortable just be honest with your girlfriend and tell her that it bothers you. Let her know you'd like to get to know her a bit longer before discussing anything so serious; however, please choose your words carefully and gently so that she does not mistakenly feel unwanted or unappreciated.
It is only natural for some girls to do this because they need to feel a sense of security in their relationships, but it's really nothing to get worried about.
2007-01-25 05:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I'm gonna say no. You two are still super young. A lot of times a girl just asks that because she wants to know the guys view on those things; it doesn't necessariley mean she's ready to drag you down the isle, baby in hand. I think she was just wondering to see what type of guy you are.
2007-01-25 05:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've known her for 90 days and she's already asking you about love, children and marriage?
She sounds pretty immature and at 17, I'm sure she is. I think it sounds not only weird, but desperate.
2007-01-25 05:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
YESSSSSSS - you have your entire life ahead of you. Tell her settle, there are too many things that are coming up (college, studies, jobs, more girlfriends....) to be worried about getting married and starting a family. I have been married for 5 years - waited till I was in my mid 20's to marry and to be honest with you, I think I should have waited a few more years until I married my beau!! GOOD LUCK !!!
2007-01-25 05:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ang 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u really love her tell her u need more time to contemplate as u need to settle down first, i am sure if she loves u she will udnerstand you. However, if you are not interested in the relation at all let her know (gracefully) so that none of u waste ur time
2007-01-25 05:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋