There's a girl in my class who I used to talk to and I also used to like her but I feel like she really hates me now and I'm thinking about ignoring her from now on....She's being really mean to me and tries to comment on things I do. Here and there she still talks to me. She had just slapped (near other people) me today for no reason in a mean kinda way. Should I just leave her alone and ignore her or should I talk to her about this....cause I always see her when I hang out with my friends...?
2007-01-25 05:33:02 · 20 answers · asked by ari90 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well sounds like it could be a number of things:
1: She is a stuck up, and looks down her nose at people.
( in that case drop her and run)
2. She does not know how to feel when a guy respects her.
3. She really does like you and she is doing elementary style.
(being mean cause she is too embarrassed to tell you)
Either way don't break your head over it. Get it over and done with "ask he out" if she says no, cut your losses and move on.
Keep in mind for ANYONE to physically put their hands on you with consenting is abuse!!!!
2007-01-25 05:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by cookie4me_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a girl in my class that is the exact same way. We use to be best friends & be together every second of the day then one day things changed. I tried to make things work out between us but sometimes it's just not meant to be. Before totally giving up hope, maybe you could try talking it out or just asking if she has a problem with you. If things don't get better just give each other some space. Maybe yall just need to be apart. Hope I helped!
2007-01-25 13:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by BlOnDeE! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no call for her to slap you the way that she did. I am a mother of a teenage son and he was once kicked in the leg by a girl in a similar manner as you were slapped, for no good reason. My son hauled off and punched her. He didn't get in trouble at school for it because apparently she didn't complain and no staff was around to witness it. Still, any girl who would treat you that way does not deserve your attention.
No, I would NOT talk to her - AT ALL. Don't waste your breath. Girls that age, especially ones like the one you are describing, can be mean, vindictive and cruel. If you tried to talk to her, she would likely use the opportunity to try to embarrass you in front of others. Just don't do it. Just because I'm a Mom doesn't mean I don't remember what girls can be like - because I WAS one, and I went to school too. Nothing has changed with the way girls act when it comes to this sort of thing.
When you hang out with your friends and you see her, then you can ignore her, but look at her, shake your head and laugh, and then appear to be telling your friends things about her. That will get her thinking, and worrying about what you could be saying about her to your friends. No girl wants to be the topic of school gossip, and if she thinks you might be telling your friends about her and sees you laughing while looking at her, it will make her think twice about the way she has been treating you - especially in front of others. If she is foolish enough to approach you and try to hurt you or embarrass you, then you will be among your friends who can assist you with putting her in her place. Good luck.
Oh - by the way - if a guy slapped a girl at school that way, he would be in big trouble. Assault is assault, and while no guy wants to tell on a girl because he thinks it will make him look like a woos or will make him appear weak, girls count on the fact that they can hit or kick a guy with no repercussions, but guys can't do it back. That is a double standard. It's one of those things that guys feel powerless to fight because if they report the girl, then they appear to be a woos or weak. If they hit the girl back, then THEY get in trouble (unless, as in my son's case, he didn't get caught - I am NOT suggesting you hit back because my son did it - however, if a girl hits a guy or anyone else for that matter, she should EXPECT to be hit back - you just don't do that to people).
2007-01-25 13:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just go on, acting like everything is cool and that you don't have to have her friendship, that your cool on your own!
And maybe try making her jealous, if your with another girl, just kinda ignore her. Don't be mean about it.
And if she asks you about it, just say you thought she didn't want to be your friend anymore so you were leaving her alone and moving on.
This will make her question and regret her choice in treating you.
2007-01-25 13:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsay M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut your losses, and move onto to someone who will show you the respect you deserve.. Everyone no matter who they are deserves a certain amount of respect.
Anyone who dared to slap me, would be lucky I didn't slap them back.
I'm not into drama though, so I would have just walked away never to return.
Good luck
2007-01-25 13:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! This happened to me! I told this guy that I liked him then he started to be really mean to me! It was horrible! Anyways, next time tell her to back off and ignore her. There are way better girls that you'll find. When you ignore her, she'll probably feel guilty and that she missed out.
2007-01-25 13:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by kimchi_2567 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not sound like a good friend at all! Stay away from her. Don't hanging out with your friends if she is with them.
Just keep away from her and if she asks you why you are then you can tell her that you don't appreciate the way that she treats you.
2007-01-25 13:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just leave her alone. You've asked this same question several times a day for the last few days. Take a hint and our advise and just leave her alone.
2007-01-25 13:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by dynamicduo79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is showing off like the first person said, or she is using you to make someone else jealous. I say talk to her...whether she hates you or not at least you'll know!
2007-01-25 13:39:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
soiunds like a biatch! leave her alone...no drama is fun drama!.....plus maybe she has a crush on you...if she smacked you playfully that could mean she is liking youa little...but if she really meant to hurt you..she could just be being bitchy...or trying to show off in front of others..so let her be,,and if she likes you or wants to be friends she will aproach you
2007-01-25 13:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋