if its in our nature to find others attractive.. then why isn't it natural that we have enough confidence to ask those we find attractive out, or express our feelings? why does the body allow this fear of rejection?
2007-01-25 05:29:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im girl you dumbasses angelGIRL! duh, and dont start trying to insult me you who have put negative comments.
the question is generalized and not linked to me directly, i just wondered why fear exists..
if you have nothin nice to say you r*tards dont say anything at all..
to those who have answered nicely thankyou.
2007-01-25 05:40:34 · update #1
why has evolution allowed this negative feeling develop when were supposed to be becoming more superior?
2007-01-25 05:42:23 · update #2
Fear is simply a natural response to whatever 'certain things' we are UNSURE about. Fear is 'just normal' and we feel it as fear because that gives our brains the 'warning' that we could be HURT, either emotionally, physically, or both.
And think about this, please ... if we didn't FEAR stuff, how would we ever be able to be 'corageous' or 'brave' ... both of which are 'better than normal' ... and, in fact, the MOST CORAGEOUS are those who are MOST AFRAID FIRST but find a way to overcome their fear.
2007-01-25 05:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kris L 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because the fear is not a fear of "rejection" itself, its a fear of the unknown, which is perfectly normal...
There is always more than one person that one finds attractive, if one day you put your fear to the side and just ask anyone you find attractive out, you will realize that even if all of them turn you down, you will have lost nothing and be exactly at the same spot you were before except without the uncertainty.
2007-01-25 05:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by x2carlosp 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not your body per say, it is your brain. It has a lot to do with who you are and how you handle situations. Have you been rejected in the past where it really hurt you? If you have, the fear of rejection is scarier than the rejection itself. You have to learn how to handle yourself properly during a rejection, and then you come to realize eventually that rejection can be handled appropriately, and you find it isn't as bad as you feared.
2007-01-25 05:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow two interesting question in one day!
Good Question.
I would think that it is not fear but anxiety. There is a difference and it is the anxiety of how they will react that causes our adrenaline to get running. This will cause sweaty palms, butterflies in the stomach and the such.
I am looking forward to seeing what other answers pop up over this.
2007-01-25 05:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The body does not allow the fear of rejection , the mind does. We only fear if we allow that fear.
2007-01-25 05:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by babykins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people dont have the fear.
most of the time it develops from a particulary bad rejection in the past like a parent leaving or the loss of what you thought to be a perfectly happy relationship
2007-01-25 05:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its the body. Fear comes from your mind. Its all in your head.
2007-01-25 05:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because you have no balls doesn't mean everyone else does. there's plenty of us with enough confidence to express ourselves, and weenies like you make the rest of us men look bad... it's your body that allows the fear of rejection, not necessarily everyone elses.
2007-01-25 05:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not the body but the mind that controls the body.
2007-01-25 05:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
fear is good
its a protective device that is hardwired in you.
rejection is a character building tool.
Remember- its not you that don't like its something IN them that can't accept you. Its them not you.
2007-01-25 05:34:40 · answer #10 · answered by Denise W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋