but I failed to say that my love had died. He had a wonderful life. I am elderly and live with part of my family and they allowed me to keep my dog as long as he lived but they didn't want me to replace him. I am so lonely without him.
2007-01-25 05:28:47 · 9 answers · asked by Betty Lee 1 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I really feel for you and the pain you are going thrue. I myself have a little dog that is my best friend. I am a disabled veteran and have a hard time getting around and my little buddy is the world to me. but if he should pass away I don't think i would get another dog, at least not while I have to have someone els help me care for it.
There is not much I can say as to how to get over the passing of your best friend,I dont think i would be able to handle it very well if this happened to me. I can only suggest that you reach out to some support groups on the web that may help you grieve. I would be happy to talk to you about your dog thrue e-mail if you would like. Keep your chin up.
2007-01-25 05:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by Randy T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how you feel. My little Pomeranian died in August. I had her for 13 years, and her little heart finally gave out. Your family needs to realize how important your pet was to you, and that it would help you to have a new companion to love. The animal shelters are a good place to look. Many of those dogs are already house trained, maybe that is one of the issues your family is concerned about. Or have you considered a cat? Cats are quite a bit easier to take care of, as they instinctively use a litter box, so they don't have to be let outdoors. They are also affectionate and usually quiet. I would have gotten another dog right away after my Pookie died, but I have a cat, also, and he is wonderful company. Wish I could talk to your family, I bet I'd be able to talk them into getting you a new pet! Well, good luck and God Bless. Email me if you need to talk to someone!
2007-01-25 05:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by Starscape 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to replace your dog, then look at the pros and cons of adopting an older dog. This may help address some of your family's concerns (older dogs are usually housebroken, they don't have as much hyperactivity as puppies, etc). Find out what your family's concerns are and address them (if you want to drop me an email I'd be happy to help you with that). Many breeders look for good homes to place their retired dams and sires in.
For what it's worth we got my grandmother a Cavalier spaniel pup for her seventieth birthday, she dotes on the dog and I think he's really helped her. Having a dog lowers blood pressure, alleviates stress, and encourages positive mental health (these are all scientifically proven)
If the concern is that due to health problems or whatever you may have to eventually move to an assisted living facility, then you can set that one at rest. Many allow small animals and tiny dogs. (I have a mentally disables aunt who live at one and has has a succession of cats and now has a pomeranian).
You may have to compromise and get a cat (which is slightly less energy intensive than a dog). A Maine coon is a very doggy cat (mine comes when he's called and loves me without reservation, even if he can't fetch)
I'm sorry about your loss. And I understand, no matter how loving and understanding your family is, nothing is the same as a dog.
I hope this helps.
2007-01-25 05:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by LX V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. Try to talk to your family, tell them about how this is affecting you, maybe they wouldn't object so much to a small dog. I know dogs are a lot of work ( I have 2) but maybe if you really explain to them how much the loss of your baby is hurting you,and how lonely you are without him, well, maybe they could open up there hearts one more time. Good luck, and again, I'm so sorry.
2007-01-25 09:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by mouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Petsmart works with rescues. They have adoptions on weekends. Go up there and meet all the homeless ones and take them for walks.
We have several older women that come up to see them. More of the middle aged walk them. One woman takes care of her very ill husband and uses it as her time to come walk the dogs. Another woman her husband gets involved too. They are always thinking of the dogs. They go to yard sales or anyone wants to get rid of things they get it for us to help the dogs.
We have one very old lady that comes by about every other week to bring coupons. She is doing what she can says hi to the dogs and brings coupons she collects (We don't always use them but we appreciate the thought more than most people) SHe pets and says hey to everyone and the critters.
Help a homeless pet not be lonely. Help them have someone to look forward to seeing at their adoptions. Adoption events are stressful and they prefer to be walked around verses in cages.
I wish you were near me I would certainly make sure you were not lonely we could bring you visitors or you could come visit us. Please don't be depressed find other things to get out and do for other animals that need you. Animals need you just to be their friend not necessarily their new home and I think you will realize what a benefit you can be to numerous pets and not just one.
I am sorry for your loss I know its horrible but maybe not being able to replace him is a good way for you to find something more and better to do in his honor.
2007-01-25 05:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them about it, make sure that they understand how important this is to you. Maybe they can take you to the local animal shelter or rescue and they will have an older dog that you can make happy for the rest of his years..
2007-01-25 05:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by jim's girl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is just cruel. Wicked. I say sneak a new one in-a small dog-a tea cup chihuahua or jack russell.
I hope your heart can heal.
2007-01-25 06:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by kelly24592 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them you need the company and love of a dog and that your heart is breaking.
2007-01-25 05:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you explained to them how much your dog means to you, and, how important it is for you to have a companion?
2007-01-25 05:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋