I have been bachelor for almost 5 years after i broke up with my exgirl who i went steady for almost a decade. She left me with another guy and hurt me emotionally .I lose faith in love .From then onwards ,I Promise myself not to be involved in relationship And rejected a lot of girls. Recently ,a girl came into my life andi didn't take notice of her .One of my friends told me a cute girl keep looking and observing me but i didn't bother about it.
One day , i saw a guy send flowers to this girl. Inside my heart i feel jealous but i pretend not to feel anything. My friends mock at her and she deny about it. When she show the flowers to me, I told her it is beautiful .Suddenly she give me a disappointed look.Should i tell her that i like her but i lose fatih in love? Give me some time . Can anyone tell me what i should do?
2007-01-25 05:28:38 · 26 answers · asked by the_road_i_am_on 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only you can make this choice. There is no point in telling her you like her if you are not going to let her into your life. You will probably end up hurting her. It is unfair of you to deny her the opportunities to find the kind of relationship that you are unwilling to give her. You could ask her out and see how it goes, but take it very slow. Do not give her false hope. You need to come to the realization that you can not judge all women or relationships by the standards of your previous one. You can't treat this girl as if she is bound to leave you. She is not your ex. Perhaps you should consider counseling to get past some of your committment issues. After 10 years, this is unlikely to disappear overnight, and expecting a new girl to heal you is not likely to work (and places unfair expectations on her). You can, of course, let her know these things. You should not ask her to be exclusive with you until you can iron some of it out on your own.
2007-01-25 05:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a Shame! Please dont judge other people by the terrible experience your ex put you through, everyone is different and try to give yourself some time to recover from what this girl did to you, its hard to Trust again after that I know but please try to Trust again. If you dont you will miss out on some wonderful relationships that could bring you so much Happiness! Tell the girl you like her and see what happens what have you got to lose? If she doesnt feel the same then you tried. There is someone for everyone out there! Go and find her! And when the right girl comes along and you both have trust with eachother you will be glad you did. Life is a Gamble and there are No Guarantees in Life, but Life is too Short to too, so give yourself as much time as you need and Go for it, Life is also a Lesson, so please treat your ex as an experience, and dont look back! Move on now and be Happy and enjoy Life to the Full. And Good Luck with your future relationships.
2007-01-25 13:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by maria t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your response of closing yourself off from others, especially after a 10 year relationship that ended the way it ended, is completely understandable. Perhaps it even changed a part of you and that's fine too. Take the time to heal and reflect, but don't put your life on hold forever. Part of life is learning and that includes the ups and the downs; you are wiser now. Hopefully you have used these past few years to gain a stronger sense of yourself and a wider perspective on relationships in general. These things will just prepare you that much more for what life has in store for you.
2007-01-25 13:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by °ĠיִяĿỵ° 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? Don't be so selfish about it! If someone cute and attractive was interested in me I'd go for it. From reading this I can tell that she's probably into you! She's frowning about someone sending her flowers? She wants you to send her flowers! Maybe a cute card to go with them. Don't let the past beat you up for something good that could happen! Send her flowers.. Maybe ask her for dinner.. Don't let her pass you by like she's nothing. You know you obviously want her too. Just being a little stubborn cause you're afraid. Being afraid is normal... But go for it! Ask her to dinner and give her flowers. Treat her like the queen she really is.
2007-01-25 13:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her about your feelings. Honesty is the best policy. And as far as losing faith in love, never give up. I once had a woman tell me," Honey, don't ever give up. If it takes five times like it did in my case, to get the best one you ever had, then you learned a lot along the way, and in the end, got the best one there was." There are people out there looking for the same thing you are, who have been just as hurt as you. It's not hopeless.
2007-01-25 13:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She looked at you with disappointment when you complimented those flowers she received from another because she wanted you to not be impressed and she wanted you to show jealousy that he beat you to it. You did feel jealous and did not let her see it. You are already starting out being dishonest with her and yourself. Stop! Everyone gets hurt! Love gone wrong devastates! Everyone has their past relationships and experiences that they carry the aftermath with them and the next person must suffer the consequences they don't deserve. You should tell her why you acted how you did, let her know you are very interested and will try not to let your being done wrong in the past interfere with you and her. You are hurting yourself over and over by giving up on the idea of caring for someone else and being cared for. Pull yourself up by your boot straps and get back in the saddle! I bet you'll be GLAD YOU DID! Be good!
2007-01-25 13:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you won't to experience love again than you have to take an inventory of what's holding you back. Not just the heartbreak over your past love but the way you allow it to continually affect your life. Getting over something like that is hard but it can be done day by day. If you really like this girl let her know. If she's open to getting to know you slowly let her into what you're going through but assure her she's worth you finding your faith again.
2007-01-25 13:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by Ibisoke O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give love a second chance. When you fall down, you get up don't you? The same goes for relationships. If one relationship fails, it could succeed the second time around. The only person you are hurting is yourself. Give love a chance until you find the right love for yourself.
2007-01-25 13:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Duke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her, "It was so weird, when I saw those flowers, I got a little jealous. I haven't liked a girl in so long, I didn't realize I liked you!" Then laugh it off. Save the "I lost faith in love" stuff for when you're dating - just say you need to take it slow for now. Good luck!
2007-01-25 13:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by missbliss4u63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son was hurt twice by the same girl, he gave love another chance with her, left him for a 17 year old then for a air force man. he has dated many girls since then but never for long, i told him that love hurts and that there is girls out there who wont do that . i told him he had to go on with his life and find the true love that i know is waiting for him, dont let it pass you by. i looked at myself and i realized i had been doing the same thing, everytime a man showed me he was interested i was tickled but as soon as it showed signs of anything more deeper i did or said something that ran them off. dont be like me or my son, i am getting old and i am so lonely cause i was too scared to let anyone hurt me again. my son fights everyday against that feeling of being hurt again. it is just too sad of a life. please give it a try. please tell her you are interested in her, but you were alittle afraid to addmit it because and tel her why. girls love the truth.
2007-01-25 13:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by crystal b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋